ok so im 17 i graduated high school at 16 and college at 16 also...(not a university) a 8 month program....as a dental asst. but i have been taking care of my siblings for some 3 years and i have been getting called for interviews but i let them down because i feel bad just leaving and not taking care of my siblings i told my mom last month that i would give her a week to get a babysitter and she hasnt to this day...but i think its wrong to just leave her and she might lose her job and than it would be my fault but i have to get a job sooner or later....and i have a car so i need money to get insurance...pay gas etc....im scared to tell her that i got this job because she might flip out and make me not get it but its not about jobs anymore its a career so do you think it would be wrong if i got this job or should i stay and watch the siblings??....
2007-05-18 09:27:23 · 6 answers · asked by jeanettem 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
oh sorry i forgot to say how old they were one is a boy (handful!! lol) he is 3 and the baby girl is 1 (just turned one) cant talk or walk on her own....she can walk but still falls
2007-05-18 09:44:42 · update #1
JNA,
First, congrats on your accomplishments. It sounds like you are rather grown up for your age. I do understand the problem that you are facing. Your mother is counting on you and you don't want to let her down. That being said, you are going to have to take this job.
The conversation with your mother is not going to be an easy one. I would start by trying to get another person with you when you have this conversation. (A close friend or relative) I think you will need the support. You are going to have to tell your mother that you have accepted a new job and it starts on ________. (I would give her at least a week before you start your new job).
In addition, you may want to prepare some alternative options for her to look at. Aside from daycare, there are many other more affordable options depending on where you live. Often, there may be neighbors that are willing to help out, or if you know any more "Senior" citizens in your area that might enjoy some company and assist your mother, often they will do it for little charge. Give her a few options, but also a deadline. "Mom, I took this job and it starts next Tuesday... I have done a little research and I found these options for you...."
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-05-18 09:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mick H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats great you did all that. While this is your moms responsibility, here are some options you could try. Plus, you didnt mention the age of the siblings but I guess with summer coming, they'll be out of school anyway - however is there an oldest one of the siblings that could start taking over your role?
Also many dental clinics are starting to be open a range of hours. Could something be worked out that you work hours when your mom, or other child care is available.
Wait 3 months until school is back in session.
Is dental assistant the same as hygenist. Ive heard hygenists make really good money. Since you were able to go to school for being an assistant, could you go on for more as a hygenist, until other child care is available. Plus you sound pretty smart for graduating at 16, start taking college classes to prepare for dental school and become a dentist if this interests you.
2007-05-18 09:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps get a part time job. Try and find a babysitter. It's not that you have to watch your siblings but it'a also not right that your mom isn't. you deserve a career of your own and not have to babysit your sibs. In a way yes it's wrong but in a way no it's not wrong.
2007-05-18 12:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by x•§•xDareDevilx•§•x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 11:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by douse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer lies deep in your heart. Try to have a conversation with your mom and try to reach a compensation. That way both of you will be happy.
2007-05-21 22:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by Hyuuga Neji 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are now a young adult. You should, as you want to do, get a job and settle down. It is your mother's responsibility, not yours, to raise her children.
If she gets mad at you for getting a job, tell her that it is not your job to take care of your brother(s) and/or sister(s).
2007-05-18 10:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋