I met this girl a few months ago while she was in a relationship to her boyfriend of 3 years. As she says,” her first real boyfriend”. Anyway, we instantly clicked, and we could tell it was something special. Her relationship with her boyfriend was on the rocks, so I played it cool. We started to get closer, but then I found out that she had broken up with her boyfriend, and that she was absolutely devastated! She didn’t talk to me for 3 weeks, then she started to open up about him and their downfall and we started hooking up, and spending a lot of time together. I really like this girl, and I know she has feelings for me too, but the other day, I found out that she had gotten really upset, because she found out her ex-boyfriend had starting dating someone right after they broke up. I found out that she was crying hard. My question is: Is she’s still in love with this guy? When will she be ready to be with me? How should I play it? She’s says she cares about me, and thinks about me?
2007-05-18 09:18:08 · 18 answers · asked by Primo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She can't just turn love off. It's going to take her some time...quite a bit of time. Be there for her, be supportive, let her cry on your shoulder. Don't push her, don't rush her, let things play out on their own.
2007-05-18 09:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 4 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is always rough being the rebound guy. Honestly, your chances of this working out are very slim. She likely IS still in love with him, but she will get over it. That is not the problem. The problem is that you will still be the rebound guy. Odds are your connection has more to do with her bad relationship than it does with you and her. You have two choices. Wait it out and see what happens, or let her go and move on. Unfortunately, the only person who can decide which is best is YOU. Good luck!
2007-05-18 09:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-11 13:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by deparvine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she does care for you but she got out of a long term relationship and those are hard to forget so yes she probably still loves him but she can still have feeling for you. Put yourself in her shoes you are with someone for three years and you find out all the things that she found out you'd be upset too any one would just for now be her shoulder to cry on she will appreciate that and just be there for her through her hard times and your relationship will end up really strong.
2007-05-18 09:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by kmcintosh09 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women do not get over a three year relationship over night. It will take a while. The best advice to give you is if you truly care about her just be there to support her. Do not try to push her into another relationship until she is ready. She will let you know when that time is at hand.
2007-05-18 09:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just give her time to work this out. It hurts when a relationship has ended and the other person instantly hooks up with someone else right away.
2007-05-18 09:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
AM REALLY SORRY FOR WHAT SHE IS GOING THRU. AT FIRST SHE SAID HER PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP WAS ON THE ROCKS AND EVEN THOUGH SHE WANTED THIS TO WORK, SHE BROKE IT OFF KNOWING NOTHING GOOD WAS GOING TO COME OUT OF IT.
STILL AFTER MEETING YOU AGAIN AND GETTING TO KNOW YOU, SHE LEARN HER EX STARTED TO GO OUT WITH OTHER LADIES AND GOING ON WITH HIS LIFE.
IT WAS TO HER LIKE SHE HAD HER BROKEN HEART. BECAUSE SHE KNEW HE DIDNT LOVED HER AS SHE HOPED HE WOULD. AND LEARNING ALL THIS AFTER THEY BROKE UP WAS TO MUCH FOR HER AND THAT IS WHY SHE WAS CRYING AS HARD AS SHE WAS.
IT SURE SOUNDS LIKE YOU LOVE HER AND ALL I CAN SAY IS BE THERE FOR HER AND SHOW HER WHAT REAL LOVE IS. JUST HOLD HER HAND, GIVE HER A HUG WHEN SHE NEEDS ONE AND WHEN IF YOU KISS HER, DO IT WITH TENDERNESS.
WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD.
"IN LIFE THERE ARE TIMES WHEN YOU CANNT SEE THE LIGHT ... BUT ONLY DOES THAT LOVES YOU WILL SHOW YOU THE RIGHT PATH...."
2007-05-18 09:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to watch out for these rebound relationships! It's easy for someone to get attached to another when their relationship is having problems or when they first come out of a relationship. That does not necessarily mean you are the one for her, it could just mean you were nice and helped her at the moment. I'd play it cool and wait and see what happens.
2007-05-18 09:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably is still in live with him. A 3 year relationship isn't easy to get over. If you really care for her and want to be with her, be there for her. Let her know that its ok if she's feeling that way. I know I'd be hurt if I were her. There is no set time to say when she'll be ready to be with you. Everyone deals with these things differently. Be her shoulder to cry on, give her support, and show her compassion. She'll eventually get over it and be able to focus on you.
2007-05-18 09:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mekana 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your right it is kinda one for the ages...
unfortunatly man, the situation is "complicated" you have sort of wronged it, by already hooking up with her, while she is an emotional mess. she probably needed some extra cool down time. but your already there right so on from here, you need to just keep it cool...
i mean refridgerator chill...put an arm out and thats the length emotionally you want to take it to this girl...be her fun place, and try not to get bogged down in downer discussions, like her EX!...keep it light and happy and interesting...if she is truley broken with her ex, then in time she will either warm up to you...or possibly pull in another direction (why you should have waited)
either way good luck...dont worry about "relationship" with her, just have a good time...if its meant to be it'll happen
2007-05-18 09:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by ignoramous i 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋