How does one improve their self esteem?

Answer 1

There are many tips to improve self esteem.
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Answer 2

Often the problem is holding oneself to an unreasonably high standard and beating oneself up for every little thing.

Think about people you esteem and love.

Now think about their mistakes, quirks, the way they lack in some ways. Things about them that are less than ideal.

Do you not regard them highly despite these things?

Are some of these things even endearing sometimes?

So, if it's possible for you to highly regard and have affection for these people, despite their having done this or that wrong thing, or not having every possible positive characteristic, why not cut yourself the same slack?

We're all a mix of things.

Often, it those very characteristics that are our strongest points that are also our weakest points. See if you can't notice how this is so in others.

Then try to apply the same principle in yourself.

Try to catch yourself, in your internal dialog, and in what you say to others, when you've done something right.

Do you dismiss it as nothing? Explain it away?

How come when other people do good things or do things well, it reflects on them, but when you do it doesn't?

Try to evaluate yourself the way you evaluate others. Give yourself credit; cut yourself some slack.

After all, that's how you treat others, isn't it?

It's only fair.

Answer 3

.....Self talk doesn't work. What does work is acknowledging the good things about you. People with low self-esteem feed their condition by discounting what's good about them.

I recommend that you write down the following...
- Your personal strengths
- Positive attributes
- Areas of knowledge and skill
- Things you've achieved in your life - large or small

As you review each item, say to yourself..."Yes, this is a worthwhile characteristic." Give yourself credit for every good thing! It's like making a deposit into an account...the interest you draw is self-esteem!

You can start to feel worthy by committing to being your own best friend. This will be a new pattern. Be the first person to offer yourself encouragement, recognition, patience, generosity, caring, forgiveness... everything you'd give to a friend.

Answer 4

Jim -

According to Nathaniel Brandon in his book "The Psychology of High Self Esteem," self esteem is the opinion YOU hold about yourself. It's how YOU feel about YOU.

To improve your self esteem STOP CRITICIZING YOURSELF FOR ANYTHING and/or EVERYTHING, NO MATTER WHAT. Work on accepting all aspects about yourself. If you feel some negative emotions about yourself, release them (cry) and move on.

Make a list (WRITE IT DOWN) of all the negative things you say to yourself, all of your self-criticisms. Then go over the list and try to figure out why you criticize yourself for that and when you started. You will find most of your SELF-criticisms originally came from someone else criticizing you and now you are just repeating what they said. Remember, their criticism was just THEIR opinion.

Ask yourself if the criticism is really true. If it's not true than stop criticizing yourself about it. If it is true, and you WANT TO change it (say you're sloppy and want to be neater) than make the change and stop criticizing yourself for it. If it's true and you DON'T WANT TO change it or cannot (maybe you think you're too short or too tall), then stop criticizing yourself about it.

Also, do not criticize other people for any reason. Our outer life is a mirror of what is going on inside of us. The things that you like and accept about other people are the things that you like and accept about yourself. The things that you do not like or do not accept about other people are the things that you do not like or do not accept about yourself. When you find yourself criticizing someone else, look inside and see where you are criticizing yourself.

The same goes for comparing yourself to others. Either they seem better than you (she's so pretty, he's so smart) or worse than you (he's so mean, she has no manners). Either way, it is a way of criticizing yourself.

Finally, take a little time each day to tell yourself that you love yourself. Stand in front of the mirror and look yourself in the eye and tell yourself that you love yourself. Doing this will bring all of your negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs about yourself to the surface, and may even make you cry. Again, write down your negative thoughts/feelings about yourself and ask if those are true. It may take some time, but if you are consistent you will begin to feel the love you have for yourself.

Answer 5

By talking your self into thinking good things about yourself
Write down all the things youre good at and what kind of person you are (only good things)
put it on your mirror and say them to yourself everytime you look in the mirror

looking into your eyes

keep a journal adaily one and write down all the things youve done well
start with your earliest memories and work forward to today
more recent entries obviously will be more explicit

then continue to contribute to these daily

if after a month you still feel the same
seek professional help
and support

Answer 6

Belief is key. If you don't believe in yourself why should anyone else? Although I'm sure someone will when you need them to. Your INPUT leads to your THOUGHTS to WORDS to ACTION to HABITS to CHARACTER which determines your DESTINY. You are in control. No person is perfect and most realize that. Unfortunately the majority of us tend to focus more on our "deficiencies." Focus on what it is you do well. If you do not know what those things are enlist the help of a true friend to who will be honest in their help. Maximize those things and your confidence will grow. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. If you do not like your results change the behavior, decisions, etc. that brought them. Create a habit of that. Become a progressive individual. Establish clear goals and commit them to paper. And remember failing is a part of success. Failing does not make you a failure. Quitting does. Edison did not create the light bulb on his first try.

Answer 7

1.)Realize and accept who you are first
2.)Become the the Ruler (King or Queen) of your own temple (body)
3.)I hate to be so cut-throat but ***** the society and culture!!
Why?! Because they are the ones who make humans into robots!! You have to look or be this way to be accepted
4.) Don't be like others, be yourself!!
5.)who cares if someone says something stupid to you,...usually they are suffering from THEIR OWN PROBLEMS!!!


The society makes the mass population into some kind of Robots (all the same!!)
Well the King is not a damn Robot!! I'm a Human-King!!
I talk my way, I respect my self, and so I respect others!
I love myself and I love others!

Answer 8

* Just by understanding ones self will help them to build their self esteem.

Answer 9

By loving themselves.
Love your body, any shape in comes in. And treat it like a temple by eating right and exercising.
Love your mind. Learn at every chance you get...
Love your soul. Even the dark crevices of your past, that is what makes us who we are.
Having goals doesn't hurt either, the more you achieve the better you will feel!

Answer 10

makes me sad to see this question asked! We all have the right to be happy and we are all worthy of love ......be grateful for all you have, know that you have something to offer the world or you wouldn't be here....everyone has low ebbs,hang in there knowing that you wouldn't be here if not for the love and care that was given to you as a babe...count your blessings not your troubles and the world will look much better!