I met this girl a few months ago while she was in a relationship to her boyfriend of 3 years. As she says,” her first real boyfriend”. Anyway, we instantly clicked, and we could tell it was something special. Her relationship with her boyfriend was on the rocks, so I played it cool. We started to get closer, but then I found out that she had broken up with her boyfriend, and that she was absolutely devastated! She didn’t talk to me for 3 weeks, then she started to open up about him and their downfall and we started hooking up, and spending a lot of time together. I really like this girl, and I know she has feelings for me too, but the other day, I found out that she had gotten really upset, because she found out her ex-boyfriend had starting dating someone right after they broke up. I found out that she was crying hard. My question is: Is she’s still in love with this guy? When will she be ready to be with me? How should I play it? She’s says she cares about me, and thinks about me?...
2007-05-18 08:36:52 · 8 answers · asked by Primo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she cares about you, but shes still hurting from what her ex did to her! 3 years isnt an easy thing to get over. and she'll always love the other guy but not the same way she'll grow to love you. first loves are always the hardest to get over and to find out tha that person got over you so quickly is devastating. stay with her, show her you care, stand by her and re asure her. tell her how much you care but dontpressure her! she wants you but you need to understand shes still hurting... if you show her how you can make it right and make up for what her ex did you'll be helping her get over him. but it will take time. trust me i been trough this and i've been there with my friends crying over their first loves... it isnt easy and its only naural that shes hurt over what happened and what he did. stick with her. make her feel specil and remember not to push or pressure her. good luck!
2007-05-18 11:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be the rebound. Be her friend, she is not ready for another relationship right now. If you really care about her and want this to be a serious relationship then you don't want to rush it. Because she is sad. It is hard to end a long term relationship. She will get over him and then ask her out but until then lay low. Be her friend, it will work out better for you in the end because a relationship that starts out as friends will most likely last forever. Good luck! And again don't be the rebound or the person she uses to make him jerious.
2007-05-18 08:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by tls 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is really simple. She is definitely not over him and is only using you to ease the pain. It does sound as if it is really way too ealy for her to begin redating. This just depends on exactly how long are you willing to wait for her to come around and event then theres no guarantee that she will ever hook up with you. Id say you can do better and just to move on. You can stay friends but leave it at that just in case if someday on down the road, neither of you finds a full time relationship and things work out. Remember a person on the rebound will say just about anything to hook on to someone to ease the pain and their words are meaningless. Move on and good luck
2007-05-18 08:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you could be the rebound guy. That sucks, I know. Take it slow, ask her to be honest with you, but don't hound her, she's in a rough situation as it is. Give her some space to figure out what she needs and what's going to be best for her. If you back off from her for awhile, things just might turn out for the best. Good luck!
2007-05-18 08:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by HuntersMom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably. Three years don't go away just because someone better comes along. There is such a thing as rebound and you may be it.
Only she can determine when she is ready. She needs time alone to heal and get rid of the emotional baggage.
2007-05-18 08:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't necessarily mean she's still in love with him. I think her feelings are hurt, but I don't know why because she had been attracted to you before they broke up and she didn't waste any time hooking up with you. That's double standards!
2007-05-18 08:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's obviously NOT over the guy,& NOT ready for another relationship as bf & gf.B her friend, B there for her if U can.
2007-05-18 08:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Klingon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're the rebound guy. Dump her and move on.
2007-05-18 08:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋