He still waits for me every time. Does that mean he doesn't want me and isn't attracted to me like I am him? Or is he just overly stressed or trying to be respectful?
2007-05-18 07:56:48 · 9 answers · asked by 7766jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It could be a combination of things.
How does he respond to direct questioning?
2007-05-18 08:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say he never waits for me every time, you mean to have sex with him. If you have only been married a short period and has been only a couple of times, somebody is not so hot on the other one. Did you have sex the first night, did you tell him you were a virgin, but you wasn't or does he like the boys.
He may have married you to try to prove to himself that he isn't gay and he found out he liked it better with the boys. Something is bad wrong because usually on your wedding night you can't get enough of that wonderful stuff or for a couple of years after., it' s day and night just anywhere you can get it on. Either you have a problem or he has a problem, he may just not find you attractive or just something about you he doesn't like , it's gotta be something cause what your saying isn't normal at all.
2007-05-18 08:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As newly weds, u still need a lot of time to know an get used to each other. U're in the process of studying each other's likes and dislikes and want to know how to please each other.
This may be the reason for ur husband's hesitancy. He's trying to understand you. He doesn't want to rush you into things and make u feel as if all he wants is sex. He's respecting u and wants to satisfy u as u want it.
If ur wanting to wait till the time of marriage was your idea, this may also be part of his reason. He wants to make love to you only when u want it so u should be appreciative of this.
On the other hand, it's time u call him and talk to him about it. Tell him he should make u feel wanted by making advances too.
Another method is to stop initiating the love making. Just act normally. eat together, talk normally and love but try holding back making te advances. I bet u, if u do this for a week, he won't be able to hold it any longer and will come all over you for it.
Happy married life.
2007-05-18 09:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by sholly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having a similar problem. We just got married. When he starts its fine but when i start he doesn't get the hint or he doesn't want to play at that time. I feel that we are suppose to be lovey dovey and makin love all the time. Like multiple times in a day would be fine with me. But he doesn't need it that often. Maybe its the same with him. if he has low testosterone then hes not going to be in the mood. It may not have anything to do with you. Go get him some rize2. Then hes gonna be the one to start and may take a while before hes satisfied! trust me.
2007-05-18 08:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Just married 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the problem is. You say he 'waits' for you, what do you mean by that? He waits for you to make the first move? If that's the case he may just feel awkward since you guys haven't had any other partners.
Or does he wait for you to orgasm first? If he's doing that, that's a good sign of him being a loving attentive husband.
2007-05-18 08:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM... remember you should be able to talk about everything with each other. Be patient with each other and listen to each other. Be honest with each other too.
2007-05-18 08:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Latisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way sex works is, you just take what you want.
2007-05-18 08:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really could not make out a thing you just tried to explain. Please rewrite and and re-read what you write.
2007-05-18 08:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by U don't say 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him
2007-05-18 08:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋