am a single mom of 2 and every guy i meet acts like thats wrong of the treat my kids wrong and i dont want to be alone 4 ever hat can i do find the right one
2007-05-18 07:45:29 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
youu can just keep waiting you dont need a man to make you complete. your kids should be your top priority
2007-05-18 07:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Take your time the right guy will come along. I was a single Mother of 2. I met by chance the most wonderful guy in the world who also had 2 kids. We have been married for nine years now and all 4 kids live with us. Mr. Right will come along!!! :o)
2007-05-18 07:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by queenmackerel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is a factor here, and lets face it I'm 25 now but when I was 20 there's be no way I would go out with someone with kids, but now a little more grown up and experienced, it's a different story.
Bottom line is you need to find a man not a boy, the difference is that a man understands that he is not going to come first, or in this case even 2nd in your life. a boy doesn't understand that.
You could try on line dating sites, too bottom line is you have to get out there into the world to try and find a man, he's not coming to your door at random.... unless you find the right pizza guy, but that's just not likely :)
Good luck
2007-05-18 07:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by m d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother was a single parent working two jobs for 4 years and meet my step-dad. He had 4 grown kids of his own and my mom had 4 kids of her own.He treated us as if we were his and continue to. Dont ever think that !!!! As they say, God is never early or late but ------right on time. Be patience and the right guy shall come.
2007-05-18 09:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will, i met my hubby when i had a 2 year old and i was 4 months pregnant with another mans child. We have been together 5 years now and are very happy. You need to look for the mature man, that holds a job and is ready to settle down. Not the immature guys. Take your time and it will happen :) Theres plenty of men out there that will love your children the way they should be loved, dont settle for anything less
2007-05-18 07:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be very patient, I was a single mom of 1 and was 3 months pregnate, hen I met my now husband. He was wonderful from day one, and also fully accepted my unborn son as his own and even signed the birth certificate to give him his last name. We are now married and expecting our 1st baby together but actually our 3rd. He loves our children and I wouldnt trade him for the world.
At the time I met him, I wasent even looking, I meet him through a mutual friend.
You will find someone also just be pateint, there are still some good guys out there.....
2007-05-18 08:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your children should be you life and first priority. second if you find a real man and there are some out there he will not care if you have children. I am a single father and my rule when dating is not to let my sons meet the woman i am dating until i am sure where the relationship is going. You should not go out looking for a daddy for your kids all that will do is cause you problems. Also I am always upfront with who i am dating letting them know that i have children and that they need to respect that if its a problem then we should not date. the last thing you want to do is get your children attached to someone and then find out that its not going to work.
2007-05-18 07:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by chris a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two kids.. thats nothing my mom use to be a single mother of 7, yes 7 young children. and shes getting married to a man who has 5 children.. my point is that you'd be surprised. not all men are bad. you will find someone that will love you and your children. my mom use to say stuff like that all the time but she was very wrong. this sept her and her bf will be getting married. your gonna be even more surprised on how you find him. the man my mom is marring owned an ice cream shop and my mom met him there while at my brothers birthday party. (the party was at his shop)
2007-05-18 08:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your a single parent, I know this may seem impossible, but if you just keep going, you will and can find someone. Just make sure that when you do...He's right for your kids to. Don't just take anyone who comes along, be very careful. The mate to pick will influence your children's lives forever. Don't set your standards lower because you have kids, set them higher because your worth it and so are your kids. Take each day one at a time. Good luck.
2007-05-18 07:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main thing to keep in mind, I think, is that your kids are more important than anything. So, no matter how frustrated or desprate you get for a connection of that kind, remember that your kids are more important, and therefore not just any guy is right.
That being said there are plenty of guys out there that wouldn't mind at all having a great woman and two kids in their life it's just a matter of when you'll find one of these guys.
2007-05-18 07:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Thendens 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the best single mom that you can be... do not wait for some guy to come into your life so that you and your kids can be happy, that rarely happens... be happy without a man, then maybe the right one will come along.
2007-05-18 07:50:23 · answer #11 · answered by mixemup 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋