why is she acting like this??

Question

ohkay so me and my best friend have been friends for 10 years and now she is being a *****! ill call her and she will be like oh well i cant talk and then ill go over to her house cuz she lives next door and she'll be like well im gonna take a bath so u shoukd leave and we had plans for tonight but earlier she told me that she doesnt want to and that we have the whole summer to hang out. whats wrong with her?? be honest.

Answer 1

Maybe you unknowingly hurt her feelings or upset her. Or there could be something the she is afraid to tell you about herself or something like that and so she is pushing you away. I think that you should talk to her about it. Since you have been friends for so long she should be able to trust you unless you have given her reasons not to. It could also be that she feels that she needs space from you for a little while if you two generally do everything together. She just might want to have personal time.

Answer 2

if you don't know how do any of us?

possibly though someone may have said something about you that has upset your friend and until she can figure out what to do, she has to keep you at a distance.

or, she has seen you do something she does not believe in or heard you have.

maybe you are both trying for the same guy and you don't know it?

did you do anything lately that made her mad or hurt her and you think all is okay again?

best thing to do is ask. if she doesn't want to talk, then she must have a reason. whether you find out or not, it is her decision to treat you this way. if you are friends she should talk to you so you might not be as close as you thought.

try to ask her why she is acting like she is, she may just break and tell you then in hopes you both can fix it.

if she chooses to keep silent then let her go. keep your distance but keep your eyes open, if someone is trying to sabatoge you I am sure there is more in your future.

but if she is that kind of friend that can be petty and uncaring, do you really want to continue liking her?

Answer 3

People change. Some of them grow up and want different things. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you and it is all about her. Maybe she needs some space. If she is your best friend then you have to love and respect her and give her some time to sort out whatever she is going through. You have a 50/50 chance that given enough time and space one day she will pop right back into your life like nothing ever happened. If she doesn't then you might want to come right out and ask her what is different and does she still want you along on her life journey or not?? Sad things happen in life sweetie but other things come along to make it all better...I know it's cheezy but shoot that is just life. Hope it works out in your favor.

Answer 4

This happened to me once with my best friend. By talking to her, I found out that she thought that I had spread a rumor about her, which I really hadn't. All you need to do is make her talk to you. If she still isn't talking, talk to her mom about what might be bothering her. If nothing works, forget about her. She's probably trying to get more popular, and in two weeks she'll come knocking on your door because she was rejected. Who knows, maybe you'll be really good friends again, but chances are, she's not the right person for you.

Answer 5

Wow sounds like my best friend of 20 years now she just started acting that way towards me too but it's because I made other friends and have been hanging out with them a lot more then her latley so she feels I dont wanna see her that much anymore. Have you 2 had any problems latley? Has she made new friends? Maybe you should talk to her about how you feel sometimes people may not relize they are acting a certian way so dont think its a big deal so maybe if you talk with her about it she will relize it and things will change. Good luck

Answer 6

I think the only way to know for sure is to just ask her. She is your best friend, so I would open up to her and tell her how you feel. Maybe say something like, "You know, lately I have felt like that you have been avoiding me. Is there anything that I have done to upset you?" From there just feel out her reaction and see what you can find out. Honesty is always the best policy and there has to be something that has upset her. Only she can tell you what that is. Good luck and I wish you two many years of continued friendship!

Answer 7

she might be tired of hanging out with her since you've been best friends for so long and you live next door to each other. maybe she just needs you to give her some space for a while and then later see how she feel about your friendship or you can adress your problem in a polite way so that nobody gets there feelings hurt

Answer 8

Sounds to me that she is either going through something she's not sure she wants to share, or that you've ticked her off for some reason, or that you two are just growing apart.....Only way to know for sure is to come straight out and ask her what 's going on....ask her to Respect you enough to be totally honest with you*
Communication Trust and Honesty are the keys to a long healthy relationship/friendship* Without those you have nothing*
GO to her face to face and talk this out with her , at least you'll have your answers*
Best Wishes*

Answer 9

Well, it could be that you are not the greatest friend. She probably heard you talking behind your back, or she feels guilty about something. Do you two often share things? Such as clothes, food, MEN??? Tell your boytoy to stay away from her if you have one.

It is most likely a problem you should talk to her about. Confront her and ask her why she has been avoiding you. If she truly is a friend, she will tell you.

Answer 10

I really have no idea since I don't know her. Maybe you're just growing apart or maybe she's going through something and wants to be alone. The only way to really find out is to ask. Maybe you can write her a letter describing how you feel. She may not even realize she's hurting you. Good luck.