i love him so much. have been together 7 years married for 2 with 2 kids. but it got to were lately i'm miserable and hate being there anywhere around him. i know i'm dragging him down to. how do i fix this will leaving help
2007-05-18 07:00:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe some marital or relationship counseling? Obviously there was a time when you did get along well and there is no reason at all that you can't recapture the feeling. It can work, if you want. It's a whole lot better than putting your children's life and future in the trash can, which is what will happen.
By the way, this is not unusual. Couples who live together and then get married have an 85% divorce rate. Living together and marriage are not the same, as you are finding out.
2007-05-18 07:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give an explanation as to why you're miserably or why you hate being near him. I think you know what the reason is. You need to be honest with him and yourself. I think you need to ask yourself if you can love him again. If you can take a break and/or work on it.
2007-05-18 14:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Magnus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving will destroy the marriage not to mention the dammage to your children. You're not giving enough information. sometimes you have to leave if he was beating you or gambling all the money away, high on drugs, etc. But everyone has problems in a marriage. Try to work them out and not leave. Good luck.
2007-05-18 14:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by Irish 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same boat my issues are our finances I want to leave but I stay because I love him. If you still love him try to go to a therapist together or you can go alone if its you that feels youwant to leave I see a therapist and he tells me that we need to go to counseling together.Evaluate your situaltion and try to work it out. you have to know the reason why you are not happy talk to your husband . If its not an abusive relationship then you should go to therapy Good Luck to you
2007-05-18 14:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling!
2007-05-18 16:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough situation. try to figure out what is making you miserable. maybe it is something else in life, job, money, etc. and not necessarily him.
maybe you can fix your unhappiness and make the marriage better.
good luck!
2007-05-18 14:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need marriage counseling. you need to work on your marriage. you don't want to throw in the towel just yet having two children with this man
2007-05-18 14:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋