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Question

Ok I have a friend who is 15. She has a boyfriend who is a senior in highschool. She is a freshman. I saw her yesterday and she was really upset almost crying. She told me that they had sex yesterday and the condom broke. She isn't on the pill. Her period ended 3 days ago. I told her to get a pregnancy test, but she won't listen to me. She is afraid that her mom will kill her. She told me that if she is pregnant, she is going to run away, have the baby and come back after it's born. I told her that it would be better to find out if she is pregnant and tell her mom instead of her running away and the police finding her 4 months pregnant. She won't listen to me! What can I do? I'm really worried about her. She's one of my best friends.

I'm the only one that knows besides her and the dude.

Answer 1

She can try to get the morning after pill but she's going to have to be quick about it. I think you need a prescription so she will need to go to the doctor or the free clinic.

She can't do a pregnancy test until she has missed her period so it's too early right now.

As far as the chance of being pregnant, normally a woman ovulates 10-14 days after the 1st day of her last period so it sounds like she probably was not ovulating, therefore probably not pregnant.

I'm happy to hear that your friend is using condoms...very smart. If she is having sex on a continual basis she may want to think about ALSO getting on birth control pills. This will cut the chances of her getting pregnant, and using a condom will protect her from STDs (never listen to a boy about not sleeping with anyone else, they can't be trusted for the most part).

I really hope your friend is not pregnant. Good luck. You are a good friend.

Answer 2

If she had sex 3 days after her period ended, the chances of getting pregnant, while still there, are not very high. Tell her to relax and find out of she's really pregnant before she flips out and does something irrational.

The pregnancy test can be taken as early as 5 days before her period is due, but will be the most accurate on the day that her period is due.

You might want to advise your friend to see a gynecologist. Aside from getting pregnant, she could catch an STD. STDs in high school are pretty common and even if you know someone really well, it doesn't mean much. They could have something and not know themselves.

If your friend needs an excuse to go see the gynecologist, she can tell her mother that her cramps hurt really bad, and the school nurse told her to call the gyno. She may even be able to go on the pill with that excuse.

Good luck.

Answer 3

First, both of you need to calm down and relax. Second, I'm glad your friend and her bf had the sense to use protection.

Do not waste your time & money on a test yet. There won't be any way to tell for several weeks. If her first day of her period was day 1, that means she had sex probably day 8-10, depending on how long her period lasts? Unless she has really short cycles, she probably won't be pregnant. With a 28 day cycle, most women ovulate around day 14-16. Sperm can live inside a woman's body for up to 5 days. So while she COULD get pregnant, it's not likely she will.

It'll be hard to wait, but she shouldn't bother testing until a few days before her period is due again...like 2-3 days. If it's negative, wait until her period is late. If it comes, that's a good sign. If it doesn't, then test again. If it's positive, she should really tell her mom...she's too young to deal with it alone. Good luck.

Answer 4

First, you're a good friend to be so concerned with her problems. I'd be really afraid too if I were 15 and maybe pregnant. She should for sure tell her mom about it. Parents can sometimes surprise you with how well they handle big situations like this. I'm sure her mom will be upset but its her little girl and she may be carrying a child, the mom side that just wants to protect her daughter will kick in and hopefully make everything better. I'm also pro-choice and believe that 15 is way too young to be a mother, so maybe if she hasn't already go to a pharmacy/planned parenthood for the day after pill, if that is something she believes in. I hope everything turns out well for her, hopefully she listens to some advice.

Answer 5

I agree with you that she isn't thinking rationally at all and being afraid of being pregnant can really mess up your mind let alone your hormones at such a young age.

I would suggest getting the pregnancy test and taking it somewhere other than her house. IF she is pregnant then she really should talk to her parents. Running away doesn't solve anything and being 15 with no job skills or high school diploma and a baby...........well, how is she going to support herself and the baby? I doubt seriously the boyfriend will stick around at all. There are agencies to help with teen pregnancies and counseling.

IF she isn't pregnant then this holy scare should be enough to warn her not to be having sex in the first place. Condoms are not 100% because they do break and are more susceptible to breakage if a petroleum based product is used. She should get on the pill.

Either way, her parents are going to be upset but once she has children of her own, she will not want them to get pregnant at 15 either...she needs to trust her parents.

Answer 6

If it were my friend, I would tell her to relax and wait and see what happens. She wont be able to know if she's pregnant until her period is almost due... and it's always stressful waiting. I would also tell her she need to talk to her mom, we are alot more understanding than our children give us credit for. That way she can help her to get on birth control if necessary in the future, talk to her about sex, about condoms and anything else..as weird as it is.. if she chooses the right time, when her mom is in a good mood, without alot of stress... her mom can answer alot of questions... we have been there too. Also depending on how long her period is and how regular her cycles are, most conception occurs between the 11th and 14th day after the start of your period. It's not fool proof, but may help ease her mind a little if she wont talk to her mom about it.

Answer 7

Super unlikely that she will end up pregnant being she just got done with her period. Although it is possible. She should go to the dr. and get a morning after pill. Then start birth control and educate herself on her cycle and re-evaluate whether or not she should be having sex at this point in her life.

Answer 8

It's to soon for her to do a HPT anyway. Only thing to do now is wait and see if she misses her next period and if she's late, do one then. You girls, what do we do with all of you? She's to young to be sexually active!!! Why won't any of you LISTEN until it's to late? When you try to grow up to fast, you end up with adult problems and then you want to be kids again, what a shame! I hope you can learn something from this yourself! If you are going to be sexually active get on the pill and use a condom, it's not worth the risk of getting pregnant!!! Best thing is to wait anyway!!!

Answer 9

well nothing is certain but you usually dont release an egg until around the 14th day of your cycle so if she has only just come off her period then chances are she won't be pregnant! but you should tell her mum anyway so she can talk to her theres no need to run away, she has caring friends and loving family there to help!

Answer 10

Just wait. If she ended her period 3 days ago, then it's really unlikely that she's pregnant. If she misses her next period then take a test, but there's no point in saying or doing anything until she knows for sure.