If you had a chance at a good job in another state, but your spouse refused to move (although s/he could commute)... Would you commute or give up the opportunity for your family?
2007-05-18 06:52:01 · 23 answers · asked by Katyana 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-05-18 06:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would commute. You can be a good wife and mother, but still have to do what makes you happy. Try it out first, You can always move back home if it does not work for you and the family. Is this job going to benefit you and the family, more money, opportunities and if so you should consider it
2007-05-18 13:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by CruzanGold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If THEY could commute, then that means so could you. So I would say that if the spouse is in a GOOD job him/herself and you really want this new job, then it should be you doing the commuting. If their job isn't so great then they might want to consider finding one closer to this new great job you have. But that's a matter for discussion between the partners...and bullying or "or else" threats aren't the answer.
2007-05-18 13:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try commuting to see if the job is worth it but remember if either of you commute any extra money you will be making will go into the gas tank! Commuting is going to become a thing of the past within the next decade everyone is fed up with putting money in the gas tank and nothing left over to enjoy life with.. its getting tough for minimum wage workers as it is and most of them live in town!
2007-05-18 13:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the job will better your family or situation, I say commute. Who knows, later down the line your husband might realize that this job truly is a great opportunity for you and you can relocate to the middle of both your jobs.
2007-05-18 14:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by lmphslaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if there are kids ( would i be taking LOTS of time away from them?), How long of a commute? Could just a good a job offer be likely locally? Hard to say what i would do.
2007-05-18 13:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So do you love your spouse? Look at her reasons for not wanting to go. Make a list together of the pros and the cons. Make the decision together. Do you have children? Is his/her job transferable to another state?
You need to sit down and communicate directly with your spouse and really weight out the pros and cons. Make sure you get his/her full side of the story and arguments. I think it would be selfish of you to make the decision without him/her. I think it's something you need to think about together. Make a special trip to the new city together and check things out. Find out what resources are out there for your spouse as well.
Do your research. Breaking up over a job is a selfish thing to do. Try to work it out with your spouse first by including them in the decision. If you do everything possible to make it work and still feel you need to go regardless of what his/her decision, then make sure the money's worth it. There will always be opportunities with money...a spouse of a lifetime only comes along once.
2007-05-18 14:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my spouse could commute from "there" to "here," then it stands to reason that I could commute from "here" to "there." Under those circumstances, I wouldn't expect my entire family to move and for my spouse to commute.
2007-05-18 13:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by See_em 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Commute maybe an agreement could be made later about moving
2007-05-18 13:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I still had kids at home, I'd stay put with my husband and have more time for my family instead of commuting! Money isn't everything!
2007-05-18 13:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A male member must take the responsibility to commute daily because at present also the house responsibilities mostly lies on female.
2007-05-18 13:56:44 · answer #11 · answered by vikas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋