What is the common way a relationship progresses. What is it like when you get comfortable with eachother. I will have been with my bf for 4 months next week and I just want to know what to expect.
He tells me he loves me, and is so completely honest with me. Last night when we were watching TV I completely knew we were going to get married. i know it sounds naieve. I just worry about our age differance (19 and 22) and it turning him off. I get anxious about everything so can someone just help.
He doesnt call me as much anymore, I get anxious and he told me I can call him whenever I want because I do have depression/anxiety issues. So this doesnt mean that he is disinterested in me. right? When we're together its great.
2007-05-18 06:31:29 · 12 answers · asked by sally 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are in a full blown relationship and scared of losing what you have right? Now that you two have been together for four months it is no longer just considered dating you are actually in a committed relationship. He sounds like a great guy and is honest with you too. Just take a deep breath and relax. He is not going anywhere. Guys stop calling as often when they are comfortable in the relationship and he did encourage you to call him when you need him. He in his own way is trying to reassure you. Just find something fun to do that distracts you from worrying and don't cling. He will appreciate it and you will feel better about yourself. Have faith in yourself and trust yourself. As for the age difference don't worry about it my husband and I met when I was 15 and he was 18. We were married when I was 18 and he was 21 and have been happily married for almost 14 years. Age is just a number. Good Luck.
2007-05-18 06:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issues and know exactly what you mean. First, if he is as honest with you as you say, then believe him. You are lucky to get a guy like that and I'm sure he's lucky to get you. Sometimes when you are starting to get into a comfortable pattern, there may be a drop in calls and such. But it just means that you don't always have to be in contact 24/7, you know? I know the depression, anxiety and those doggone "what ifs" are a real pain to deal with. But just keep telling yourself it's ok. And since he's sweet enough to see this anxiousness in you, then do call him when you are going crazy. Just tell him you were thinking of him and had to hear his voice. I know it will turn out ok. It's just adjustment to the relationship going to the next level.
2007-05-18 06:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything sounds like its good :S Theres nothing anybody can really tell you about the what to expect, since each relationship progresses at a different pace and in a different way. Just take things as they come and have a nice time. Dont worry so much! And don't worry about the age difference. It is the same as the age difference between my boyfriend and I.
2007-05-18 06:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by %$#! :) :) :) !#$% 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he is just comfortable now. My relationships start out as the couple not standing to be apart and wanting to talk every minute they can. This does eventually wear off, that doesn't mean one or the other doesn't love or isn't interested any more. You can keep the relationship strong and interesting by thinking of new things to do and experience together. Don't get into a routine of doing the same thing over and over, and just talk about stuff. It doesn't have to be serious, it can be anything! But just keep that relationship new!
2007-05-18 06:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can really answer that question for you.. unless its someone that knows both of you personally. As far as your age difference turning him off.. If he really loves you that wont matter. My husband is 2 years older than me and neither of us ever really even think about it. To me, I think it is good for the man to be 2 or 3 years older.... I cant really tell you what its like when you start getting comfortable with someone because everyone is different. If you are worried about all of this I would suggest talking to your boyfriend. He is really the only person that can tell you how he really feels.
I hope that everything works out well for you! Good luck with everything! : )
2007-05-18 06:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Love-A-Bull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you love him more then he loves you, it don't mean that he don't love you.
I am not sure why the age difference would bother him, that is not a big age difference. I am 5 1/2 years younger then my hubby and I was 5 years younger then my 1st hubby of 18 years.
But don't rush things, 4 months is still young for a relationship.
2007-05-18 06:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an article posted on my blog called The Stages of Love. It tells you what to expect as the relationship progresses and what tasks are in each stage. You can find it at ingenio.com/Coach Terri. Just click on the link to my blog.
2007-05-18 06:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lolololol
2016-04-01 08:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD TAKE THINGS ONE DAY AT A TIME AND
NOT RUSH INTO ANYTHING. AND AS FOR THE AGE
DIFFERENCE IT ISN'T THAT BIG OF A GAP. SO I WOULD
NOT WORRY ABOUT IT. AND IT IS OK IF HE DOES NOT
CALL YOU EVERY MINUTE OF THE DAY. I ALSO THINK
IT JUST FINE THAT YOU CAN CALL HIM WHEN EVER
YOU NEED TO. HE IS JUST A PHONE CALL AWAY.
SO TRY NOT TO WORRY TO MUCH. THINGS ARE FINE.
2007-05-18 06:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't been together that long. Give it more time. You should work on your issues or you probably will drive him away. Being too needy isn't cute.
2007-05-18 06:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋