She says the other reason is that, her son, who bought a home with his ex cannot afford the payments on his house so she is taking over payments to help him out, she is buying the home so his credit won't go to hell! Any way we were living together for 2 years and she sprang this on me only 3 days before moving. I did'nt see it coming! She says she still wants to see me as her only boyfriend but for now the engagement is off! I decided that I am going to break up with her as I feel that what has happened is a big step back! I want to move forward! Am I making a sound decision based on the facts?
2007-05-18 06:24:47 · 10 answers · asked by alanstorment 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes you have to take a step back in order to take two steps forward. She is making the best decision for herself. If you love her you'll accept that you are not doing what you have to, to keep her happy (find out exactly what she means so that you can change that). It may be better for your relationship that you live separate for a while so that both of you can reflect on the bad and good things that happened during the time that you did live together. I believe that there is more to this story than you have said and also I believe that you should give it some time before you just break up with her, find out where shes coming from. If you don't see yourself making the necessary changes then let it go.
On another note it was messed up for her to move out so suddenly and you should address that with her, and make sure that she does not make any more moves like that in the future.
2007-05-18 06:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're making the right decision to move on. I did the same thing, only I was the one who broke off the engagement. He was in it for the wrong reasons, so I stopped it altogether. If you think you're taking a step back, then you are. It's time to move on and do what's right for you and what will make you happy!
2007-05-18 06:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman , so I will give you what I think to be a good answer, move on. If you two were together for 2 years, and she just dropped this on you from out of nowhere, to me she wasn't willing to confide in you or trust enough in you to talk to you with her concerns, then let her go! She evedently didn't care enough to try to find other ways to handle the sit. with her son.as for her still wanting to see you, I'd say hell no. Just for the sure fact, that she didn't take you into consideration before she did what she did.Good Luck, I wish you the best!
2007-05-18 06:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think breaking up with her is a rational step forward. If you were really serious about marrying her in the first place, you should be willing to work on things with her. You need to talk to her about things, maybe even go to couples counseling. Find out why she was unhappy. Think too about why it bothers you so much that she wants to help her child out. Maybe she was just getting cold feet about getting married. I don't know anyone who has stayed married long who hasn't had their doubts at one point or another. My point is, don't give up so easily, marriage isn't always easy.
2007-05-18 06:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Violet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you made the right decision. If she was serious about getting married then she wouldn't be moving out. My guess is that she didn't want to get married and thought this would be an easy way to let you down and slowly move out of the relationship.
2007-05-18 06:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by Janet R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with her...yes. Live with her before the wedding...no. If she really is trying to hurt you (like you expect), do not give her easy access to your financial and personal things anymore. My guy friend had this happen, unfortunately he didn't read the signs in time before the girl wiped him clean.
2007-05-18 06:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I pulled that crap, I'd expect to be dumped too. Move on with your life, find a better girl. Good luck
2007-05-18 06:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right to break up with her. going from engaged to bf and gf is like going from bf and gf to lets be friends. I would be very hurt and feel that she did not want to committ to me.
2007-05-18 06:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound reasonable to me. If you are not her number one proirity then why stay together?
2007-05-18 06:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your ok
2007-05-18 06:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋