why do women expect?

Question

men to kkep a conversation when the women they are talking
has to feed back to offer..... women why do you think if a man cant keep a conversation hes attomaticly wierd,,, but when we do you women cant keep a conversation and are plain air headed or lame.....

please explain...

Answer 1

I think if you can't keep up a conversation with someone on a regular basis, you should spend less time with them, because you two obviously don't have any sort of chemistry. My boyfriend and I are both very quiet people, but we can easily have four hour phone conversations (with little pausing, mind you) with each other, because there is chemistry between us. Its not because you are weird or the girl is an airhead, its because you two just don't get along so great.

also, it doesn't really make sense that you said "but when we do you women cant keep a conversation and are plain air headed or lame....." right after saying "women why do you think if a man cant keep a conversation hes automatically weird" You say that it's wrong for women to make judgments about you because you can't keep a conversation, then you turn around and do what you just said was wrong. Silly goose.

Answer 2

Let me try to understand what you are saying:

You feel like women cannot hold a conversation with men because the woman offers no feed-back to the man. You also state that you think that women think that a man is weird if he can't engage in conversation with the woman.

So far, so good. You're first statement, about not being able to have conversation with someone who doesn't give any feed-back, is accurate. No-one can have a conversation with someone who does not indicate in some way that they are listening and are minimally interested in what is being said. If you are in a conversation with someone who is not indicating they are listening, then that is a fruitless conversation. Find someone else to talk to.

It's also true that someone who can't engage in some kind of minimal conversation ("small talk") is generally labelled as "weird" or "socially akward" in our society. My suggestion to this person would be to keep trying. One thing they could do would be to rehearse some "small talk" before going to a social event (i.e. "What do you think of this weather," "Did you see last night's hockey game," "Read any good books lately," etc.) so that they would have a stock of "small talk" to dip into when conversation lags. Another thing they could do would be to develop good listening skills, such as maintaining appropriate eye contact and asking follow-up questions, etc. The third thing they could do would be to seek out others with similar interests, such as joining a book club if they like reading.

Now, you further state, "but when we do you women can't keep a conversation and are plain air-headed or lame." I suspect this attitude has a lot to do with why you are frustrated in your conversations with women. When you consider what someone's interests "air-headed" and "lame," I'm going to make a good bet that you aren't too great of a listener and don't show much interest. If you don't show interest in a conversation, if you dismiss what they are saying as "air-headed" or "lame," then why the heck do you expect that person to engage in a conversation with you?

Answer 3

Women base everything upon communication that's how they do it. A man on the other hand uses a few words, words that are well chosen if I must say to get his point across. So when it comes the time a woman as you say it sounds like an airhead and or lame it only means you just wish that she would keep quiet you have heard enough and or a few wires in communication have been crossed.

Answer 4

John, perhaps you need to work on finding something common with a woman about which to talk. Avoid the topic of work. Relax some. Do not try so hard, lest you WILL appear weird.

If you find yourself searching for something to say, ask her an open-ended question (not one that can be answered with a yes or no). Pay her a simple compliment, but avoid anything to do with eyes, for it is extremely cliche to do so.

And realize, some people do not want to talk, for reasons that have nothing to do with you.

Answer 5

We're air headed? Somehow that penis didn't help you find the oh so elusive "check spelling" button. your practically illiterate post would makes it quite clear why you aren't able to have a decent conversation with anyone. I had to read it 3 times and I'm still not exactly sure what you're trying to say.

Answer 6

Studies have shown that the average woman uses between 8,000-10,000 words per day, while the average male uses roughly 2,000. The woman's limit is easily stretched. The man's is not. When he reaches his limit, he almost invariably shuts down and doesn't want to talk anymore. I have observed this in myself as a male.

A bit of understanding and communication is all that is needed.

Answer 7

I hold extremely intelligent conversations, as do most women in this section. Maybe you should hang out with us.

Answer 8

If a man can't keep up a conversation, I don't bother with him. I've had intelligent conversations with TONS of guys. They've said so themselves.

Answer 9

True women like to talk a lot. You can try to explain or give them suggestions but they will not listen. It is better just to listen and let them talk, but try to engage in their conversations so they will think you are listening.

Answer 10

There is a difference between intelligent and meaningful conversation. I cannot stand people who need to make small talk; if they are so pathetic as to need constant soothing of their insecurities, they can take a walk.

I talk when required, and for no longer than required.