Okay I have feelings for this boy and I really do love him and every night he tell me he love me. But to me I dont think I'm expressing myself to him like i suppose to be. Sometimes he get mad over crazy things but he just dont know the problems I go through with family situations. I am jus 17 and he 19 so I know he can do whatever he wants because he is grown and he dont live with his parents. But for me i still live with my parents and I jus cant disrepect them like that. Like he always wants to go somewhere I cant pop up and say yes I will go with him because if my parents tell me no. Then its just no thats the final answer. So he have to realize that im young, but when i turn 18 my parents cant do nothing about it. So I want to know how do I go by doing that?
2007-05-18 06:23:56 · 15 answers · asked by lacutiehotty05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just sometimes when we are in a situation like that our brain and mouth don't work together too well. We always say the wrong thing or explain ourselves in a way that dosn't come out right.
So, to get the point across, write to him. By doing that you give your self a chance to think what you want to say and express yourself fully. You've just done a great job with this post so you know you can do it. You might even get to like it.
2007-05-18 06:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be grown 'physically' but that does not mean he's grown mentally, emotionally nor spiritually. Do not let 'age' be the guide standard for you in dealing with others. If he gets mad so easily and cannot contain himself or sort thru his feelings, obviously he's not emotionally mature.
Stop assuming it's YOU that's at fault here. He is too. Recognize that fact. You're dealing with family situations that he has no input over and since he's on his own, he's disconnected from that thus his input is angry.
You should not disconnect your parents just because Mr. Boy Toy wants you too. That's insane. No man (nor woman) is worth that sort of alienation from your family.
I would give him an ultimatum: "Either you cool down and learn to handle things that don't always go your way, or else you can find another girlfriend."
2007-05-18 13:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jack S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't accept you living at home and wanting to respect your parents, then he isn't worth your time. Love isn't about gettting what you want when you want it. It is about committment and loyalty no matter what.
Using 18 as a point of freedom isnt healthy. Unless you move out on your own...you really don't have a whole lot of leeway. If you live in your parents house, you will most likely be required to follow your parents rules, and being 18, they are no longer resposible for you, and they can kick you out.
Just be careful.
2007-05-18 13:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by faborgasmical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf does not respect you, or your family. Neither is a sign he's ready to be your bf. Tell him you really care and like him, but his self focussed POV is not good for you. Let him know he'll be on your mind.
He's going to be upset, but you can't let that stop you. If you allow this kind of treatment, that's all you'll get. Don't you deserve better? You know you do.
When he asks what he has to do to get you back, then you lay it down for him. That he needs to consider that you're younger and can't do everything he's ready for. If that doesn't work for him, he should leave now. He won't, but if he does, you're probably better off. You don't need a self absorbed control freak for a boyfriend.
2007-05-18 13:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look honey you both still young so by the time and truth in every thing may be soon get to the real feelings - the real feelings needs honesty all the way .
2007-05-18 13:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by igia g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter. it is much easier to write than talk on the spot because u can think carefully what u want to say and how you want to say it. dont feel silly. I am married and 18, husband 22 we still leave each other love/hate notes depending on the mood lol. its a good way to express feelings
2007-05-18 13:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by mariadunloe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age doesn't matter - my mom told me as long as I live under her roof, I had to obey her! You're lucky your parents are doing their best to protect you from an early pregnancy!
2007-05-18 13:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have trouble telling him, try showing him. Do sweet things for him...leave him little notes...show lots of affection...often tell him how amazing you think he is...also try explaining to him your situation and maybe he'll understand and not be so hard on you. ;)
2007-05-18 13:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by 7766jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.shakeyourshyness.com
http://www.teenrelationships.org
Face to face, the best that you can. Write a few notes out if you forget things. The important thing is to do it! Remind him that when he has children, he will want them to listen.
2007-05-18 13:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a punk, you can't live life in the shadows. If you like you like if he don't tell him to kiss yur grits.
2007-05-18 13:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Lipz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋