They really are - it doesn't take much. I don't want to hear all you perfect people bragging about how wonderful your life is; you know MOST married men are miserable. My girlfriends all know exactly what they have to do to keep their men happy (mosty sex stuff) but its almost like they have fun saying "no" and making fun of them.
2007-05-18 06:09:49 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is wrong with using sex to keep your man happy. The bottom line is that he is happy.
2007-05-18 06:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Bantree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because:
1. Most married men DON'T get all the simple things they need;
2. Most married couples don't communicate well
3. Most married men are forced into marriage or having children too soon!
I've known a mixture of happy and unhappy married men. The unhappy ones ALWAYS say that they got married and had kids 'to make the wife happy'.
If you think the men aren't happy - imagine how the women must be feeling!! I've known my fair share of unhappy married women too!
I don't know what point you're trying to make about your friends saying "no" and making fun of them.....
A successful marriage takes work from BOTH partners and both the man and the woman need to communicate and give to the other what the other needs.
There are some happily married people out there!
xx Emmie
2007-05-20 21:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just finished the same thing. Married men are NOT miserable. They are not into fuzzy lovey stuff all day long. A responsible married man has to carry the family. Most men have to work for companies. The workplace in America is full of stress (not office affairs as many think), competition, and business problems. Employees are asked to do more with less people and deal with issues that weren't around 5 years ago!! Older employees are displaced for younger ones. And then men drive themselves hard to be above average for the sake of more money and bragging to their wives.
Men (and working women) go home tired and stressed. Wonderful wife or not, all they need is some space and quiet time.
2007-05-18 06:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably dear, because they married the wrong woman. I know what you are saying and to a degree it is true. But how many men marry for sex and then when that gets boring they find out the woman they married is someone with whom they have little to nothing in common? If a man married his friend instead of some pneumatic sex goddess who later proves to be Jenny from down the block, (sorry to all you Jennys out there) he would be a happy bunny. By age, men are immature compared with most women and men are not really mature until they are 25 or more. (All you women out there are now saying "well my husband is XX and HE is still a child!".
So that is the answer. If you marry an older man and you will have a lot less trouble. If you marry an older man who has a sense of humour and is your friend it will work well.
2007-05-18 06:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you ask the question but don't want to hear the answers.
This is all YOUR fault. You hang around with the wrong married couples. MOST men are NOT miserable.
There is the underlying TRUTH that real men have a sensitive side. Many men mask this because of the immature stereotype he is trying to preserve for his immature buddies. Men need companionship and someone to love. It's not all sex although sex is an important part of any marriage. Sex is a barometer of what's going on in the rest of the marriage.
If you hang around bars after work, are knee deep in sports on the weekends and don’t help with family chores because it is “woman’s work” there is a good chance that you are miserable and are a miserable spouse.
2007-05-18 06:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by whiner_cooler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women change right after I do, they have this picture in thier mind of how it is going to be and they never tell you until they are leaving you....
The guys that are unhappy got tricked, lied to, and suckered by the huge number of women out there looking for a meal ticket. These women are completly dishonest in the dating phase of thier intentions.
It is not mostly sex stuff.. it is all the othe BS... women decide they do not want to work, they want to spend money to make the house all pretty, they want to set an agenda have the man follow it, sure they use sex a a lever to get some of these things....
Would your frinds like to quit working stay home with the kids and have a big allowance. Fancy themsleves martha stewart martini princesses? Do they some how think they deserve this? If there me are miserable then the propbably do.
I know guys that are happy and they are not in these type relationships
2007-05-18 06:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by help_divorced 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds as if your girlfriends are married to a.ssholes. My husband isn't like that - sometimes he gets on my nerves, but that's to be expected. But he's relatively easy to please. My life is wonderful and I'm not bragging, it's just the truth. My husband is happy when I'm happy. We both cook, we both work, we both do chores and we both love and have a healthy sex life. A lot of men are miserable and have "sex demands" because their wives, for whatever reason, have stopped giving them sex like the want it. My husband knows he can have it when he wants it and how he wants it. And if there is a reason I can't (period, tired, not feeling well) he knows I'm being honest and that as soon as I feel up to it, it's on! If he wants to go see strippers, that night when he comes home he'll find a stripper in his bedroom (me) and if he wants to have a two-some or see two women together, he'll get that too. The reason so many men cheat is their lack of sexual fantasy and excitement at home. Now it's not always easy to be everything your husband needs, wife, mother, whore, homemaker and part-bread winner, we women have to wear many hats these days. But if you enjoy sex as much as your husband, then it shouldn't be a problem. SO no, my man is far from miserable.
2007-05-18 06:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are simple ????? This is pop knowledge- not the truth. The fact is that people go in for such simplistic stuff. I havent met a single person who is "simple". Every human being is complex and that is what makes people understanding. When a woman or a man starts off in a marriage with such a simple minded assumption that they have "figured out" their partner and work with that-often to manipulate- they generally head for disaster.
And again its a pop knowledge that most married men are miserable. Happiness in anything depends on knowing oneself, knowing the people one is dealing with( in this case the husband/wife), being flexible- and being loving and yes- self sacrificing. If one gets into a marriage in the same way that one goes to supermarket- voila- all your truisms become true.
2007-05-18 06:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by Hidden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually most married men are NOT "miserable". I think you have been watching too many sitcoms. Most of the married guys I know are way more happy then the single ones. Sure we would all like a night to bang some strange but overall married people are MUCH happier then their single counterparts and this has been PROVEN in many studies.
I think YOU are projecting your own feelings of misery on to others. May YOUR husband is miserable but most are NOT!
2007-05-18 06:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think traditionally, people grew up being told NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE and women were told that a man would wait for marriage if they loved them. But it was assumed that after marriage, sex would be available on demand.
That message still exists, but the predominant attitude is now 'if both people want to have sex, they should'. That leads to more sex before marriage ... but less after. While its often men who are frustrated, its not always that way. If sex between a couple is based solely on the partner with the lower desire, there are going to be big problems.
The other problem I think is that many women seem justified in expecting X before having sex. My man should clean the house/cook/blah blah or else I won't have sex with him! Of course, what happens if the man is saying 'my wife should blow me or else I won't help around the house'. In practice, I think most men try to help some, perhaps not enough (some end up doing too much), but plenty of women seem to think that until 100% of their demands are met, they are fully justified in denying sex.
2007-05-18 08:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are miserable in marriage because they are not getting enough of the simple things that you correctly identified as what they need. Men are simple creatures. Make them dinner a couple of times a week and have sex with them occasionally and they will usually be content. That may not be enough for women, but your question just asked why men are miserable. To answer the question of why women are miserable is a much more complicated topic.
It is so interesting that most of the women answering this question say it is men's own fault that they are miserable.
2007-05-18 06:14:07 · answer #11 · answered by rollo_tomassi423 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋