Now my mom gets alimony. How long does that last? What is the thinking behind that? I'm not mad at her, but my dad doesn't have much money now. Oh I forgot to say I am an adult and on my own. Does it matter what state they live in?
2007-05-18
06:05:11
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Family & Relationships
➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have stayed out of it. Good point.
Oh all of me and my brothers and sisters are grown and on our own.
2007-05-18
06:37:22 ·
update #1
Also, I forgot to say that both parents are retired.
2007-05-18
06:40:33 ·
update #2
Alimony is awarded to the spouse who makes less money so they can survive. They will not take more than a certain percent of his pay depending on the state. (i think about 25% and that also includes child support) If he has no money left maybe he should learn to manage it better.
2007-05-18 06:10:57
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answered by Anonymous
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Most states don't even have alimony anymore. It's only given (when it IS given) when the woman has either never been in the workforce or has been out of it for so long that her skills are out of date and she can't really earn a living. Usually this occurs when a woman marries young and stays home raising children and supporting her husband in his job, but does nothing to forward her own job history or education. Some states will allow this type of woman a set amount of time to earn a diploma or attend school so that she can get a job. It doesn't last long - maybe two years tops.
I don't see why men take this so badly. It seems to me that the guy gets married and the woman stays home to raise the kids and help him out. She does most, if not all, of the manual labor around the house and puts her heart and soul into the lifestyle they lead. HE goes out to work every day and comes home to a hot meal and clean clothes, etc.. He decides that he'd rather not be married or finds a younger, more "attractive" option and decides that he wants out. What is the wife supposed to do? She devoted her life to the family and didn't take care of herself. HE got and got and got from her for years and then just decides to kick her to the curb to make it on her own? Judges decide on alimony and whether it's needed or not and for how long.
2007-05-18 06:26:52
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answered by Anonymous
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The terms of the divorce were agreed to by your parents. Your mom will get alimony for as long as your father agreed to pay it in their divorce papers. The divorce papers probably say she will get alimony forever or until certain conditions are met. Then alimony payments will stop or change. The thinking behind that is that most homemakers get substantial alimony in a divorce to protect them from being 'kicked to the curb' and left destitute after years of service to her family by a husband who no longer cares to be married. Actually, receiving alimony is generally not dependent on how long the couple were together. She may have "adapted" to a particular lifestyle that marriage afforded in as little as a month. State they live in? Before or after divorce? Residency establishes jurisdiction before... After? Check the divorce papers for any relocation restrictions.
2007-05-18 06:25:04
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answered by wan2no 1
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Generally speaking, alimony is usually done unless I think both parties make the same amount of money. I think it's just the way it is, I may be wrong, but it can also be determined by state. It lasts until either one of them dies or remarries. My dad had to pay alimony and then my mom got remarried and then it stopped. But it doesn't stop there, she'll get a part of his pension once he retires. My dad retired in 2000 and my mom gets part of that.
2007-05-18 06:23:11
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answered by suzlaa1971 5
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each state has their own laws but most pretty much are the same.
alimony is only allowed if the spouse has never worked and does not know how. which may be the situation with your mom. was she a house wife?
if she never received a degree or had much experience in working and relied on your dad most of her life, it can be a very scary thing to all of a sudden be on your own and supporting yourself.
He will be obligated to pay until she either marries again or makes enough (within a certain amount or equals his pay) to maintain livelihood.
sorry to hear, I hope all turns out. your dad my just have to work two jobs for awhile until things fall into place.
2007-05-18 06:30:56
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answered by Anonymous
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Best advice to you is to stay out of it... 25 years of marriage and raising children is why... I am assuming he went to work and established a career... while she stayed home and took care of the children... Yes... it's hard for him to pay alimony... even millionaires have a problem with it... but think how hard it is for your mom without it... Again, don't take sides... love your parents... and if you are on your own and want to help your dad, then so be it... there are reasons why the courts do this...
2007-05-18 06:15:06
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answered by Oula 3
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I don't agree with it in general. But I know of a woman who was awarded alimony because he former husband recklessly spent her retirement money, borrowed against her asserts and neglected to maintain the home that she owned -- while they both lived there. She became ill. He behaved boorishly. She put him out. Since he damaged her home, her credit, and her spirit, he owed her. She is struggling to pay for the medication to maintain her health. She is the rare exception.
2007-05-18 06:18:47
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answered by mediahoney 6
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If your mom dedicated her life to raising kids and being a wife then she's entitled to alimony. Being a stay at home mom doesn't pay money.
2007-05-18 06:28:40
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answered by mamabear 6
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the court usually has already made that decision..if your mother was a stay at home mom..could last till one of them passes..if not it will end in about 5-10 yrs..according to the court desicion..and no the state really dosent matter..the judge does though..it was also based on the income at the time of divorce..sorry
2007-05-18 06:12:31
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answered by sunshine01 3
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Yes it matters what state you live in, matters a lot.
Alimony is proof that women are not equal, that they can't live without the support a a male. Alimony is the reason men should never get married to begin with. No woman is worth that.
2007-05-18 06:11:54
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answered by Just a friend. 6
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