why is my huge decision about moving my family and me 8 hours a way to a job that pays 20k more a year where the cost of living is less so hard? Logic tells me to do it...
but my heart says stay in Kentucky.....
2007-05-18 06:00:34 · 9 answers · asked by I don't look like this 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I should have said we have moved many times and we want to stay but $$ is sooo tight...they always say money can't buy happiness but I wonder if bills paid on time does?
My kids are against it and my wife will go either way.....
2007-05-18 06:12:04 · update #1
Get out the paper and pen. Divide the paper in half. Pros of going and the other 1/2 Cons of going....works for me sometimes when I get into those situation.
2007-05-18 06:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids, as I'm sure you know, probably don't want to leave because of their friends. You're torn because of the emotion involved (even though you are a guy. SSSHHH, I won't tell anyone you have emotions). You know your kids will have to adjust and will feel sad about leaving their friends. Also, you (and your entire family) probably feel an emotional connection to the town where you live; there are probably a lot of memories there. If money wasn't so tight right now and you could pay your bills for you, I would say stay and sacrifice the pay increase for your happiness. All anyone needs financially is enough to cover the necessities (though some would not agree with me on that one). Seriously, though, when money is so tight that you can't pay the bills, things are stressful, no matter how much you like the town where you live. So, you're right, money (nice cars, expensive vacations, a huge house, etc.) doesn't buy happiness, but when bills can't be paid, the family is under a lot of stress and unhappy anyway. I would move if I were you. With the extra income and the ability to pay the bills comfortably, without stressing and counting every last penny and rationing groceries and the necessities, you're family will be much happier (the kids will adjust, they always do).
2007-05-18 06:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving represents change and change is never easy for everyone involved. As the man of the household, youre required to make dcisions that are for the good of the family. Not always easy is it? As hard as it may sound now you can always move back if things dont work out. You have a chance of a good life elsewhere but also have the stabilty of a good life where you are now. As long as your wife agrees to try then majority of the battle is won. the kids are resilient and will sonn adjus to the move and make new friends. You just have to present the move as a new challenge that will be fun and that they can still say in contact with their old friends. Still not an easy task but you got to do what you have to do. Just show excitement in your actions and thatll soon wear off. Maybe take the family on a weekend visit of the place an see if thats what you truly wat to do before uprooting the family. Worth the trip. Good luck
2007-05-18 06:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you and your family have built a life in KY. The kids have friends there, they are used to the school. You have built many memories in your home, you probably remember your child's first steps in the living room, and third birthday in the kitchen. Its natural for humans to resist change. Logic of course will tell you that the job opportunity you have is best interest for everyone, 20,000 dollars a year will definitely make a difference in every ones life. You will continue to live like you always did, just in a different place.. you will build new memories in your new home, your children will make new best friends in their new locations, and nothing says they have to lose touch with their old ones. To be who you 'are', you need to let go of who you 'were' and aim towards who you want to be. Congratulations on the new job. Your heart may be in Kentucky but when you move and find new favorite restaurants, new memories and new friends your heart will move with you to your new location. Give it time, change is inevitable and you need to let your heart and mind acclimate. Good luck.
2007-05-18 06:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know til you try, have you talked this through with the family, take on board how they feel,but remember that not a lot of opportunities come our way and you could be passing up a good deal and if it pays better ,well....you could always move back again if things aren't right... just go for it...
2007-05-18 06:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are comfortable there. You have friends and family. Change is hard and scary. Everybody likes to stay in their comfort zone.
You have your family to help you make the change. MOve and look at all the postives and how it will improve your families lives.
Next, year at this time you will be glad you did.
Go home to Kentucky on holidays. It will make the holidays even more special.
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2016-12-29 11:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by carnohan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to have an attatchment to your home town..that is great..but if you have the opportunity to better yourself and family..why would it be so hard..and 8 hrs isnt that far..for trips home..good luck
2007-05-18 06:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move, if it will make your financial situation better. You should.
2007-05-18 06:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋