Honestly...what do men like.?

Question

I would like to think that I am making my husband happy and meeting his needs and desires, but over the past few months things have changed.
I know he isnt cheating, but he doesnt seem that interested. Is he bored with me, or am I not doing what he really wants. I have tried to talk to him about this, but he says nothing is wrong he is just getting older.

Answer 1

Sounds like he has lost interest and is tired of begging for charity sex. Sit back and think about your intimate time for a monent. Was he always the one trying to get it started? Was he the one always grabbing you or suggesting a little quicky? Was he suggesting to go to bed early for playtime, but you you fell asleep on the couch?

If you only have have sex when it's convenient for you, there's a problem. After man a begs and pleads long enough and figures out he's only getting it when she feels like giving it up, theres a problem. Never being the hunted is a problem. Never being grooped and being chased after is a problem. Eventually we just give up and stop hounding you for sex. When we do this, now it becomes our problem for honoring your low sexual desire wishes.

Spend a few weeks being the agressor for a change. If you doing it just to get it done, don't waste your time. A husband can spot fake effort like a thong at 1000 yards.

Do it because you want to, not because you have to. Lower the sex guideline and have a few unplanned quickies to jump start it.

This is a situation millions of men are in. Horney and playfull all of the time with little or no playtime.

Sex should not be work...it should be fun

Answer 2

I would guess that depends on how old he is. Is he much older than you?

Men often slow down in that department as the marriage gets older. Fact is they get tired of having sex with the same woman all the time. There is nothing new to it, nothing exciting. Of course we tell women this all the time, but they refuse to accept it as a truth in life. Remember marriage is not a natural state for humans, it's a invention. That doesn't mean he needs to be with other women, or anything like that. Just that you need to spice things up, and accept the fact that even that may not make a difference.

Keep this in mind too, you want to talk about it but men don't like to talk. You are only making it worse, you are not helping matters. Try some action instead of word, that works with men.

Answer 3

When are women going to understand that husbands have to work and carry the (assumed) family's responsibilities? Married men don't think about all that fuzzy lovey stuff when they are at work. These days, the workplace comes with a lot of stress as more work is to be done by less people -- the so called productivity gain. And older people are losing jobs to younger ones every day.

It is therefore perfectly understandable that a guy comes home rather stressed, tired, and often worried. I speak from experience that they don't need their wives to try to help, it only makes things worse because now men feel guilty and feel forced to tend to their wives when all they want is some space and quiet. Actually, a tired man grins and is recharged when his little kid comes running to him calling daddy --- NOT HIS WIFE, NO OFFENSE!!

Women put their emotional demands and illusions first and assume the rest of the world is the same way. It is not.

Answer 4

You did not tell us what you are and not doing, but I do have some pointers as it is impossible to see the minds construction on the face. Are you as attractive to him as you use to be when you first met. Are you adding more weight than he really wants, are you showing any interests in him yourself, do you guys want kids and after a lot of efforts nothing is happening, do you try to keep yourself clean, smart and delicious, does he have any financial problems, does he need a new car and cant afford it, does he want steak for breakfast but the family fortune can only support donuts, does he want a big screen plasma TV and all you guys got, is the 19 inch TV someone gave you guys as a present when you got married. The list goes on and on and on. Bottom line, make him understand that you are a partner to progress, get him to open up to you and tell you what is really bothering him, making him believe you would work with him to find a solution to whatever the problem is. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 5

You probaly need to add some spice to your relationship.
If you have been married for a while, like me, you should try adding a little passion. First go to victoria secret and get something nice that he will like. Make sure the kids are gone for the evening, pick a evening when he doesnt have to work the next morning--he will be too tired. Make or buy his favorite meal, get some candles, and romantic music.
Think about what he use to like from you, things you use to do, that he enjoyed and search the internet from something new. Then after dinner.. well you know. During the evening stroke his ego, make him remember who he was/is, build his confidence, so he can know you still enjoy him. Give him a pet name based on what he was like. After dinner --when you are having dessert, having done your homework, approach the evening with confidence, dont worry about how he will react. The next day or even that night, he will tell you how much he enjoyed you, dont be surprised if he asks for repeat performances.
good luck

It is soo not true, that men get tired of having sex with the same women. You just got to make them feel like they have a new women, by doing different stuff, and having more confidence. You have to add spice, they do get bored with routine sex though.
I agree dont, dont make him talk about the problem, just work around him. If he is having trouble, let him know that you are his boo, and do whatever it takes to satisfy him and do it. When he feels comfortable that you are on his team, he will talk.

Answer 6

You need to ask your husband this question. Ask him why he is not wanting sex as often and if he wants some changes. Listen to him and see what you will enjoy with him. He could be getting a little bored because most married people do eventually but then you have to spice it up some and make it more exciting.

Answer 7

That's probably true. Men also ebb and flow in their labido. It's not necessarily true that guys ALWAYS want it. Sometimes we don't.

Maybe you can spice things up ... if he likes sports, parade around the house one day in nothing but a jersey. That's always a good merging of interests.

Make sure that you're not hitting him right as he walks in the door, he might be tired.

You might also shake things up with morning activities. Those are a lot of fun, and guys don't always like to do it when the woman wants to. Remember that women tend to want the romantic ... guys tend to like sparratic.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Most men like the usual kissing, hugging, & sex. Anything beyond that is considered a bonus. And we all like bonus's. He's one of those guys that content with the way things are, and doesn't like change. If "you" want more, you're going to have to get him off the couch and into the bedroom. Just out of curiosity how old are we talking. (e-mail me). lol.

Answer 9

Ok heres what your going to do . Your going to go to a salon and change your hair color and your going to dress completely the opposite as to the way you usually dress. Then you when he sees you and you get the response you want . You will make love to him in a different way . Im talking a different foreplay or somthing then you will see whats going on with him . If you dont get a response get back to me .

Answer 10

Believe me, something is wrong, and he is getting older.

He may be on the edges of a mid-life crisis and is uncertain how to face it or deal with it.

And as to what men like, that really does vary from person to person. You need to be there for him to try and pull him out of this funk