Im into a serious relatioship with this guy whose financial condition is not good. He belongs to a lower class whereas i belong to middle class family. I knw that my family wont ever agree for our marriage. I understand their sentiments that they dont wont me to get settled with a guy who is financially secured for my benefit only. But i want to marry the one.i love n i knw i will and i can adjust with him. But my family wont ever agree to it. And i knw that i wont hv any other choice but to run away with him. But in that case i wud hurt my family a lot , they wud have bear the consequences in the society. Also i m afraid of the fact that the one i love might have to go to jail if we run away. He is ready to take any kind of risk for me. But i do not want 2 do anything which will aderversely effect my love.I don’t want him to get hurt in any way by police,etc. Marrying him wud mean that he wud have to face my family an police,etc which i don’t want. And if i dont marry him i’ll die.
2007-05-18 05:28:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
It appears you live in a society that still classifies people by caste. I know that the system was supposed to have been banned years ago, but people change slowly if at all. Marrying to a "lower caste" will probably cause you much misery, in spite of your love for this person. If you live where I suspect you do, you know it could also get you killed. Not marrying this man will NOT kill you. Leave him and be sure to tell him to leave you alone. It will hurt far less than the risks you will be taking if you do not. I know this will be an unpopular answer, but I realize there are cultural aspects to the situation others may not consider or be aware of.
2007-05-18 05:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Acorn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advise I can give you from my little corner of the planet is that you are suffering from two things.
The first is that you are very naive and young. I can tell from you whole point of view. You are approaching this issue from the heart, which is admirable, but seldom works to ones advantage. I know that martyrdom is romantic, but a life in poverty raining children who you cannot care for properly is the most likely result of this union.
Secondly you are obviously in a culture where the customs are quite different from where I am. Here in the US, social class rarely enters into marriage anymore. However there are many more opportunities here for growth and financial success even among the poor. In your country it may be quite different and as a result your parents are only trying to give you what is best for you.
I think the right choice is to simply wait and see if this man you are so much in love with can provide any kind of life for you. tell him your concerns and make it conditional that if he wants you in marriage he must be able to prove he can provide for you. Then your parents will soften up a bit.
2007-05-18 05:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by yes_its_me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you care for him above you, that is a good heart. I hope he sincerly does as well.
As to what you should do, I can't say, it sounds complex...why police, could he get a better lifestyle, does his education prmit a better job, are your parents really as unreasonable as you say, or I gather, or maybe they understand love, but are worried about you and could be persuaded to talk it over, get something worked out.
In your place, I can not say, my familly is very diffrent, and I am generally thought of different as well.
But people's hearts, not just in love, come first in the long run, you seem to know, or feel some of that, you worry about your parents feelings...I hope it works out, I really do.
Talking with trust can help much.
Reft
ps, if you are under 18, I would say to listen to your parents, they have lived much longer and are not doing it to be mean, and maybe they do understand, perhaps more then you think..ask them why, a calm talk and explination. Ask for their point of view.
2007-05-18 05:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Reft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you won't die if you don't marry him. If he is wanted by the police, run away from him. True love will wait, work through your problems first then if you still want to marry him, go ahead. Do not marry someone thinking you can change them because you can't. Also, your parents love you, WHY would they give you bad advice. True love will wait till you are old enough.
2007-05-18 05:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by p h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is meant to be then it is meant to be. I would advise you to wait until the time is right though. Sounds like you are underage and you need to not get your man into trouble. If it really is love then don't get him a felony record, be patient.
2007-05-18 05:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in your parents, they know what is best for you. If may not seem like it now, but trust me, in 5 years you'll regret any rash action now.
2007-05-18 05:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally, being straight i would have left him for a girl. but if i was a chick, id go for the one i love
fux everyone else
2007-05-18 05:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kevy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question? do "middle class" people spell like that?
sounds to me you are young, if i were you i would listen to my family.
2007-05-18 05:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Charmed One♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him.
F*ck what other people think.
2007-05-18 05:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by Alex P 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋