One of my best friends has a boyfriend and they have been together for a long time. I think he's putting him before her real friends. This relationship isn't going to last forever and I don't want her to get hurt...what should I do?
2007-05-18 04:14:55 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well a boy friend is a real friend,
Just a much closer friend and he
should come first , next to her family.
Sounds like you're pretty jealous.
2007-05-18 04:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is still finding time for her friends, then do nothing. There is a reason he is her boyfriend, which automatically gives him the privledge of more 'us time' then friends get. Although it isn't uncommon for someone to spend more time with thier honey, if she spends her ENTIRE time with him is the issue at hand, and not if she's 'putting him before her friends' as you suggested.
Also, nobody can judge just how long a relationship is going to last. More then others are the people who are in the relationship usually! If you're REALLY SURE that he's going to hurt her, maybe it's ok to put your friendship at risk a little to talk to her about how you feel, that you are afraid that's she's going to get hurt, and ask her if there is any indication of if this relationship is considered more serious than usual.
2007-05-18 04:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
really there's nothing for you to do see I've been that person who put him before real friends to her it's the here and now and she don't realize what she's doing she believe's in him so much because it's what is seeming to make her happy and she don't want to give that up she's thinking if you were her true friends you would be there for her thru thick and thin and I'm not saying you're not she's just wanting you to believe in hiim like she does even though you can't she will come around and just be there when her world comes crashing down as it sounds like it will let her know she will always have a friend in you nothing you can say to her about him right now will change the way she feels trust me been there did that
2007-05-18 04:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by sassysandyinmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. For me, my boyfriend is truly my best, best friend. I have a female best friend, too, that has been my roommate all through college and other friends as well. I think that they should all come first in various ways and situations - and they should understand that. Make sure you don't leave anyone out and try to do your best to find time for all. Don't play "games" with your boyfriend on who comes first - that's not an honest relationship. It's good that you have many caring people in your life!
2016-05-22 05:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. your friend will eventually get the message. people in relationships tend to prefer spending their time with their partner versus their true friends. that is, at least while the relationship is still good. but when they break up, the friend who abandonded you will come running back. you have to ask yourself, are you the kind of person who after experiencing this kind of treatment, will want to remain friends with someone who treats you like that? cos believe it or not, that behaviour your friends exhibits will more than likely reoccur everytime she finds a new partner. so, focus on your own life. spend less time with your friend. make new friends....just do more of the things you like doing. as for your friend, there is no need for an explanation. she disregarded your feelings. good luck.
2007-05-18 04:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixchi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You friend is suppose to put her boyfriend before, that is normal and natural. What you want to do is what is wrong. You risk losing her as a friend buy getting between them, believe me you will be the loser in that one.
Just be her friend and stop trying to be a busy body.
2007-05-18 04:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend. What she does is her decision. Don't tell her your opinion unless she asks for it. It will just make her resent you. Plus if you say something and things work out you will always be the the friend who doubted her relationship. If you say something and the relationship doesnt work, she still can't come to you because you will be the I told you so friend!
2007-05-18 04:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do nothing but be her friend and be there for her when she needs you. get yourself a man and you will spend more time with youman. men come and go but a friendship is forever. so dont let a man come between either one of you. BD
2007-05-18 04:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she puts her bf before her true friends then grab her away from him for a while and talk to her. tell her about your worries and y u think that he is going to break her heart. i wish you the best of luck.
2007-05-18 04:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by i_love_rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the couple should be before friends maybe you arent gonna last forever?
2007-05-18 04:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋