Does anyone else have an out of control 9 month old?

Question

Once my son turned 9 month old, he wouldn't sleep at his nap times anymore, he would change the time everyday. I would make him cry it out each time, but he would literally cry the entire nap. They say not to let them cry for over 20 min for nap times because it would be pointless. But i have to let him cry it out for bedtime because he won't fall asleep without a fight. He wont even go to sleep before 10pm! he will cry forever...I have tried switching around naps and cutting them out...but nothings working. I recently started school at night and ever since then his bedtime has been messed up. He scratches..bites..doesnt listen to one word you say! But it seems like its only an issue with me, and im the most stern with him! Everyone says because im mommy and hes with me 24/7. You cannot satisfy this baby...theres no scheduling him anymore, i hope this is

he is really hyper too...he throws himself everywhere, climbs on things, gets into everything, screams, he has fallen so many times and his head because he wont calm down! i know babies are into everything-but this is times ten. He goes from all over the place to passed out tired-theres no inbetween.

what would you do to disclipine, i dont even say no anymore because he just doesnt understand. Its almost like he has no idea what im saying. It scares me because alot of ppl say take him to a DR, he has hit his head alot-and everytime he goes to the Dr there are no ear infections nothing ever wrong with him. He doesnt even drink juice yet alone soda! he eats more veggies than anything. When did your babies start comphrending the whole discipline thing, it seems like its a foregin language to him.

again he doesnt drink JUICE YET ALONE SODA. and i get REAL stern with him and he just cries even more and keeps doing it lol hes only 9 months old!!!

Answer 1

am going through pretty much the same things w/ my 9 month old little boy. He fights with me when its bedtime & it doesn't matter if I try to put him to sleep at the normal time or if I let him just fall asleep whenever he wants. He still doesn't sleep all night. Every one has told me that everything he is doing is normal like getting into stuff& having way much energy its normal. Our sons are doing the same exact things & I haven't found anything I can do about it.

Answer 2

Sounds like the terrible 2's hit a little early at your house. Have you talked to the pediatrician? He may have an ear infection, or br teeting. I know that those 2 things can really cause a baby to be upset.
Also, you might want to get involved with a Parents as Teachers program or a Birth To Three Program...They are both great. They come to your home once a month and evaluate your child to make sure that they are reaching milestones appropriately. And the best part...where I live anyway...They are free. They will also bring a book for your child to have every month.

Another thing is to try not to show to your child that you are getting frustrated with them, they know this and they feed off it.

Good luck, it will get better someday....might be 17yrs down the road, but it will eventually get better!!

Added:
Another thing is to remain consistent with his schedule, if there is one little upset, that can throw off everything that they are used to. Babies are creatures of habbit.

Also, not to scare you, but I was just talking with my neighbor and she said her son was the same way, and it took them until he was 2 to find out that he is Autistic, just something to look into.

Answer 3

I would cut his nap times down, and let him re-make a schedule that is according to his body clock. He may need less naps or a nap at a different time than he use to have one.
Let him go a few days with his schedule, when he tires and what not, make it a weekend so you can deal with it, and see what developes. If that fails a visit to the Dr. may be in order. I had one just like that!!! But mine was walking just under 7 months LOL, so it was really crazy!
Good luck!

Answer 4

No. You do NOT have to "let him cry it out." That, right there may BE part of the problem. With you starting classes at night it seems to me that there's a security problem witht he little guy. Babies his age don't "scratch and bite" out of anger. They aren't able to think that way yet. Yes.. they can and will cry out of frustration, need, fear. Think about it... Suddenly, Mommy is NOT there when he needs her.
Stop letting him cry all the time. try rocking him instead... read to him... it doesn't matter what... even if it's just your homework. Hold your baby and read your school books out loud in a gentle voice. It'll do you both good.
All this tough love used on babies is BS. You can NOT "spoil" a baby by giving it love and comfort.
Perhaps, potential parents should think more than twice about having children in the first place. Be sure you're really ready... it's not like having a doll, or a puppy...
good luck.

Answer 5

9 mos is entirely too young for true discipline and certainly too young to be spanked! He doesn't have the cognitive skills to understand cause and effect yet and will only distrust you more.

For a 9 month old the most important thing is consistency of routine and having his primary caretaker in tune with him. His sleep distirbances may be caused by your imposed schedule conflicting with his internal clock. You may want to look at different parenting methods, such as attachment parenting or child driven scheduling to try to create your routine around his needs and natural temperament.

Answer 6

u r being awfully hard on your baby. i didn't get to be a SAHM, but this sounds like a normal behavior for a baby.

if u can afford it get a babysitter or a family member or your husband to watch the baby while u take a break.

i think its u that needs a break. taking care of a baby is really hard. i work full time and i find my job easier then taking care of my son. i would rather be with my son though.

Answer 7

Maybe you should talk with the babies doctor?!? I can't imagine a 9 month old being that bad!! Maybe there is something wrong and he needs test done or something? I'm not sure but I think you should talk with the doctor... Good luck

Answer 8

Sounds pretty normal to me. Kids go through a lot of phases and their about as transient as a fart in a wind storm. What he's doing today might be a thing of the past next month. As exasperating as it might be, I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Answer 9

Sounds to me like he is trying to get attention from mom!

Spend time with him. Play a special game with him every day or read to him.. Take him outside to play and get some of that energy out of him. Give him a bath before he goes to bed this may help him fall asleep. If that doesn't work talk to his pediatrician.

Answer 10

I am having the same issue with a 12 month old boy. He is getting better with age, but he is still a handful.

My only recommendation is try your hardest not to spoil him. You need to be consistently firm and strict. Trust me, I know it's hard to be tough on your own child. Especially if your not that type of person, but it will payoff in the long run. I am sure with the right consistent discipline, he will get better as he gets older. It's not easy, but welcome to parenting.