Does everything happen for the better?

Question

I was thinking as I was driving into work today that everything does happen for the better.

I was upset with my brother that he did not call me while my parents were overseas for 12 days. I am glad though because every time we talk, he tells me that I am bipolar which I am not.

I was thinking that I did not get a permanent job that I applied for. It was for the better because I probably would not have been happy there anyway. The company was too small and had no defined processes and procedures. I work in Accounting.

I don't know about my daughter having to see my husband and I get divorced. I guess she has become stronger and can handle herself in any situtation. She is not overprotected and lazy like my co-worker's daughter who is 12 years old and still needs someone to feed, bathe and sleep next to her at night.

Does anyone feel this in their life?

Answer 1

I know everything happens for the better. there is only one thing i can say with clarity and that it that everything is designed to improve.

everything is of quality and everything gets better! but that's on a universal level - it's the childish standpoint that our individual happiness is in any way relevant to what is good that confuses several of your other answerers -

while you have an enormous point here i think that thinking that you didn't get the job because it's may be for the better is more relvant to a sensible and healthy method on your part to motivate yourself correctly rather than being any kind of evidence for the universal truth that everything tends towards Higher quality!

good luck with the divorce - if you're strong it's likely your daughter is stronger - like I said everything gets better!

_ Buff

Answer 2

Everything happens for a reason, and if you are a positive person who invites goodness into you're life then more often than not that "bad" experience did you some good in the long run.
However if you sugar coat the past then you are in denial which could lead to making the same mistakes again.
For example your daughter may seem mature, but that could be a very superficial front. Be careful not to treat her like a real adult until she's of an age to properly process her world.
You don't want one of those "twelve going on thirty" type kids who stops listening to you when you don't say what she wants to hear.
Other than that i agree, everything that happens is part of the largescale plan.
Lose a friend, then realize they weren't good for you.
Lose a job, then realize you've found a better one.
Miss a plane, then find out it crashed etc.
As long as you are optimistic, everything usually works out for the better.

Answer 3

Different situations have different paths. The life you have lead up till now always had two forks in the road. You can only choose one way. Based on the situation that you were presented with, you chose your path. When you reflect back on the situation and what could have been done differently, you will always wonder what would have happened if you chose differently. It's like choosing numbers in playing the lottery. If only you had chosen different numbers, would you have been a millionaire. All situations have a certain predisposed outcome, that's why you don't choose that particular way to go. The other path might not have a clear outcome, but you weighed your options and chose it anyway.
If you and your brother weren't close when you were little, there obviously not gonna be a close relationship as adults. Rarely do siblings become close when they become adults. You friend was brought up in a different household and has brought up her child in a different enviroment such as yours. Be happy that you have your health and your child seems strong enough to be in the situation that she is in. Unfortunately, life has to deal us with situations and problems that we may not want to have to deal with. But without these problems and situations, how would we grow and learn?

Answer 4

I have experienced this and I say everything happens for a reason. Sometimes I just don't feel better about what happened but somehow it was for my good and even leads me down the path I really want to follow. It is good to believe that things happen for the best because thinking on things that way helps to get over the disappointments that come my way.

Answer 5

I agree that everything happens for the better....BUT....there is nothing like "be positive". I heard it from everywhere that - "be positive". Look at the things in positive way....I believe that IF YOU THROW ALL THE NEGATIVE THINGS OUT OF YOUR LIFE, YOU WILL FIND YOUR LIFE MORE CLEAR AND POSITIVE.
When there is a break in your life, you can see your life clearly....In your case, your life was going badly, but you saw it in different way....thats why you can say - everything happens for the better. I had some experience like you but i do not think that it should make some meaning....because if one has not a great view of life like you, he will not believe that everything happens for the better....



so, the main thing is VISION.....How you can see your life is more important. Take care and keep that positive vision with you everywhere.

I don't really think that it is the answer of your question but I think you will be satisfied with the answer..

Answer 6

.....No. It sure would be nice if this were true, and actually sometimes things do turn out better than we expected. But it's not true that everything happens for the better. The world doesn't work that way...
- You can learn valuable lessons even from the worst events, but that won't happen if you don't reflect on the experience.
- You can work through and prevail in adversity, but that won't happen if you don't exercise strong character.
- You can solve problems and make your situation even better than before the problem happened, but that won't happen if you don't think creatively and positively about the situation you're in, and follow through with diligent action.

Good things don't just happen. We have to make them happen.

Answer 7

This is a philosophical question, not a psychological. However, no, I don't think everything happens for the better. Sometimes bad stuff just happens.

Answer 8

Everything happens for the better even though the event may be painful. If one attends a job interview and is unsuccessful to that person that event is bad but to the one who got the job he/she is blessed. What I know is that good and bad things happen to everyone. The magnitude and the effect of the good or bad event depends on one's mentality and one's capacity to contain emotions.

Answer 9

In earthly point of view, it may not seem always be so. But for spiritual point of view, it always yes. Though, you may even question God's will but soon you will feel deeply appreciate and grateful for Life.

Answer 10

Not everything has a happy ending, but it's really all in how you view the situation.