is there a problem with sum1 wanting to love you and not use you
2007-05-18 03:54:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
MEN DONT KNOW THE FIRST THING ABOUT LOVE... with so many easy woman in this world they dont have to. its pretty easy for them to meet some one and give it up easy. they mess it up for the good girls like you and myself. its not the fact that they want to use you they want to use your stuff lol
2007-05-18 05:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by justbeautiful4u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here we can chat as long as you want but the question just is one only. Even though I'm a man and shouldn't say that, women have to rub in that men's mind and need is different. For men there is a time during sex where lust and pleasure prevail on any other feeling or act and (our) love became subordinate. A similar thing happens when we are (too) horny and need sex. It has to be an ancient genetic factor linked with the procreation, probably!
The only criticism towards your question concerns the used adverb "mostly", which in my opinion is amiss!
2007-05-18 11:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though a lot of Men are this way not all are. Usually from an age of 12 to 25 you will find this. After that age you start seeing a different group. Try going to a church and looking for someone as well as you will most likely find guy's there who are willing to put the sex off to a later time.
2007-05-18 10:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by Yes I am here!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay 1st question: most men are commitment phobic and fall under one or more of those phobic categories, been hurt, protective, abused, etc Check out what J. Tesh stated about commitment phobics: http://tesh.com/ittrium/visit?path=A1x97x1y1xa5x1x76y1x240dx1x9by1x2412x1y5x553fx5x1
okay 2nd question: someone wanting to love you and not use you. there are cases of people who love a person too much and put them on some kind of Idol level. this could pose a few problems, if I can't have you then no one else can and they end up killing the loved/worshipped one and/or themselves.
I'm not clear what you're asking about the not use you part, because I think everyone has been in situations where we have used some and some one has used us.
2007-05-18 11:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that's a common misconception. men are really no different than women in their need to love and be loved. it's just that many, not all, men need more sex than the average woman and therefore, will have it when they can get it if they are single. if a guy is looking for sex then that's what he wants. i don't think a good guy would settle down with a girl he just has sex with. there needs to be a connection. if it isn't there, then it's just sex. confusing isn't it?
2007-05-18 11:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men want both sex and love, but they are smart enough to realize that love doesn't have to exist with sex. Some women on the other hand, just don't get that.
2007-05-18 11:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
not all guys are just after the sex. some of us actually are about the love. but then again some guys are just looking for someone to have no strings attached sex. i personally know a lot of chicks who are just looking for the same thing. guys & gals are not all that differant when it comes to that kinda stuff.
as for the chick's answer above me, thats the voice of ignorance talking.
2007-05-18 12:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by big D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men genetically are designed to seek sexual release. It is the way we were programmed millions of years ago in order to continue the species. Sure, we can be loving and be loved, but deep within, sex will always be a desire. We can't help it!
2007-05-18 11:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its often said that men view sex and love as totally separate, but that's not entirely true.
What is true is that most men view sex as (possibly) leading to intimacy, whereas women tend to view intimacy as (possibly) leading to sex. 'View' doesn't really convey the right meaning, in both cases we are talking about emotions, not what's going on in people's conscious decision making process.
Because of this, men are quite able to have sex without it leading to love - just like many women seem able to have love without it leading to sex. On the other hand, sex without love leaves many women feeling used. But men can be similarly miserable - unless there are strong religious reasons preventing it, men will feel unloved if denied sex by their partner for a significant period of time. Of course, this isn't a popular thing to point out. Society likes to tell women that 'if a man loves you he will wait'.
This is half true, and is probably entirely true for people who are morally opposed to premarital sex. If a man feels a woman loves him and sexually desires him but is holding back because of her morals, it won't dampen his desire, though it may frustrate him. But a woman who doesn't seem to sexually desire him, and who simply rejects his advances because she doesn't want him, will leave him feeling very unloved.
Most men want sex and love. They just feel the desire for sex more acutely.
2007-05-18 14:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It takes us men a while to learn the difference. Remember women mature quicker then us.
2007-05-18 11:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by alwayintosomething 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋