im 15 in i really want to have a baby am i ready to have one?

Question

my bf ask if we can have a baby im 15 he 18 in i want a kid in have a good life am i ready

Answer 1

Do you have a good income, place of your own to live and have you finished your education? Are you ready to give up your social life, and spend all your money on your child while going without stuff yourself, are you ready to see your friends going to parties and to college while you stay at home with your child? Are you even old enough to legally have sex? If the answer to any of these is no then I would say its a really bad idea. Does your boyfriend realise that if you were to get pregnant he could be charged with having sex with a minor? No one no matter how mature they think they are,no one is ready to have a child at 15, enjoy yourself while you can, don't throw away this time, your teenage years are so cool, you have more freedom to do what you want and really enjoy yourself, don't throw it away, you won't get this time again. There is plenty of time for kids later when you are in a better position to look after them properly, and when you have had your fun and some life experience.

Answer 2

I am not sure if you are ready,15 is very young. I would wait, you have plenty of time to have children. When you do have children, it is a very life changing decision. It is not about you anymore,it is about the baby. Then there is the care as well as you staying in school. Not to mention that the baby is not a doll that you can put down when you get bored or think you do not want the responsibility. Being a mother is a 24/7 job, there are no days off and it is not as easy to come and go as you please, because there is the baby to think about. Also, making sure that the father is involved is a big thing as well, you want some one who is going to stick by you no matter what and be a father to that child, participating in the baby and your life too. Then, there is the financial part of taking care of the baby, making sure that there is a steady job involved so that there will be enough money for formula, diapers ,food ,clothes and doctor's visits. Being able to give life is a privilege, and considers much thought into such an important thing. Being a mom is a tough job, one has to be ready for it emotionally. There are many adjustments that need to be made etc. So just wait, you only have so long to be a teenager and all of your life to be an adult. Having children is not to be taken lightly, you would have to grow up really fast. You have to think is that what I really want? Education is important, make sure that you can take care of yourself. You need to know how to do that before you can take care of another human being.
If you like babies so much, why not get a job babysitting? Play with the ones in your family, if there are any. Hope this helped,tc.

Answer 3

what the hell is wrong with you??!! Are you out of your mind?! You must be. You must not want to have a social life, school, a good job, etc in life. Having a child at that age is not something to do. You are a child, no matter how adult you may THINK you are. If you have a child, you will sit in the bathroom crying at four am while trying to get the baby to go to sleep. The "bf" is gonna leave you and life will be miserable from here on out. Don't get all mad either, it's the damn truth.

I had a baby at 16 another at 17, and I struggle to pay bills, feed my kids, and everyday I say what if I hadn't, every single F*CKING day of my life. I am 27 now, you wanna be in my shoes one day. Go ahead. Have a baby. Think of me when you cry by yourself about the mistake you mad. I feel for any kid that has to go through what I put my kids through. And I didn't listen to people, but dammit, I wished I had.

Answer 4

I know that right now you think having a baby is the right thing to do and that you want one, to feel like a family. But there is so much that comes with it. I had my son a month before my 17th birthday, I was a single mom, and yes your bf promises to be there but so did mine, I struggled, worked 40 hours a week at Burger King while going to school and having a child, I was always tired and at times completely stressed out and overwhelmed.

Now my son is 2 and I have made a better life for us but it was so hard, you are only 15 think of everything, you cant carry a min wage job till you are 16, even then you can only work part time, health insurance?? tha hospital isnt free!! $17,000 and when you have a baby you are considered an adult and are responsible for paying your debt. What about all the things a baby needs, they go through clothes like they go through diapers that all cost money, then appointments and checkups for the both of you, and school, and a job. Even with my husband and I working we struggle with all of our bills and we only have one child. Diapers cost anywhere from 10-25 dollars even then the diapers last 1-2weeks, then you have the hospital sending you to a collection agency for unpaid hospital bills. You are not ready and neither is your boyfriend he has no idea what is ahead of him.

You guys will miss out on your younger years, when you are 18 you wont be able to go out with friends, go to clubs, instead you will be up every few hours putting your child back to sleep while you try to study or get chorus done. you dont even have a drivers license now so you will have to do everything by your 2 feet or bus. Even if you bf has a car what if it breaks down?? With a baby you cant afford to get it fixed. You are not ready. I have been through it, wait.

TELL YOUR BF THAT IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE PREPARED FINANCIALLY, PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY.

Right now you depend on others to take care of you, do you think they want to take care of your child too. Please wait. I am not saying this to be mean but it will help you in the long run. If he loves you he will wait.

Answer 5

You are too young to have a baby. Having a baby comes with huge responsibilities, not just getting up countless times in the middle of the night.

Young girls and women need to keep in mind that babies aren't just about "oh how cute" or "oh how sweet"... it's so much more than that. Having a child changes your whole life around, and at such a young age, you are not ready for that. Are you ready to give up going out with friends? Are you ready to give up going out with your bf? Are you ready to truly have sleepless nights feeding your baby, soothing your baby...?

I have a daughter who is almost 5, she was born with a cleft lip/palate. Are you ready to handle something like that with your baby? She's had 7 surgeries so far, and the operations will continue throughout adulthood. At age 15 you are nowhere mature enough to be able to handle that kind of thing. I'm 39 years old and it's difficult for ME to take sometimes. Sitting in the waiting room while she is in surgery is very hard for me and my husband.

Wait until you are older. Finish school, get a job, get married. You'll come to a time when you are ready, and when you are, you won't need to ask if you are ready.

Answer 6

You are still a kid! If you have to ask if you are ready to have a baby then you aren't. You can't even get a job & support yourself much less try to support a baby....graduate high school, go to college & get married then you can start talking about having a baby. If you do all of that & still want a baby more power to you. If your boyfriend really loves you then he will wait around for you to actually experience life & not try to stop you from it. Having a baby changes everything.

Answer 7

Are you seriously asking this question? Okay, well are you ready....let's see

- are you currently in school?
- Do you plan to finish school?
- Are you financially stable?
- Do you have your own place or does he?
- Are you married (or plan to be with this guy for a long time)
- Would you have support from family to help you so you don't have to give up school?
- Are you willing to risk giving up your planned accomplishments (career you want...etc) because if the support is not there, you will miss out on a lot of what you wanted to do.
- Is he ready and stable?

If you've answered any of these questions with any answer besides DEFINATELY...then you're not ready at your age. There are women not ready at 20, 25, even 30 but things happen and we manage...but you're too young. Your family would end up having to raise that baby, not you.

Answer 8

You are 15 and your boyfriend is 18.
Do you both have stable jobs? (McDonald's doesn't count.)

Do you both earn enough at your jobs to pay for everything that you need when raising a child and acting as an independent adult? (think rent, electricity, water & sewer services, heat, car payments/insurance/registration, groceries, diapers, clothing, daycare)

Do you have a place to live that is not under your parent's roof?

Do you have basic knowledge of nutrition and how to raise a child?

Are you ready and willing to give up all your basic freedom? (no more evenings out or sleeping late)

And, most importantly, do you have a HUSBAND?? (obviously the answer to that one is a big fat "NO"). Boyfriends can come and go. At this age you may well be left as a single mom while your boyfriend pursues life. What is the huge hurry to procreate? Why not wait until you are out of school, then get married, THEN have a baby?!

Answer 9

No you aren't to young but how are you going to provide for the child? I was 18 when I had my first child and the daddy (my husband now) was 21. At that age it was kinda hard to provide for the cihld because I was a senior in high school yes I finished but you being 15 your not going to be able to finish school it's going to be hard to get a job. When you have a child you have A LOT of responsibilites.... How are you going to finish school?!? Daycares are NOT cheap your looking at around 80.00 or 90.00 a week depending on where you live just for a daycare.... Can you afford this so you can finish school and if you dont plan on finishing school then you really don't need a child because there is NO way you can support a child.... I hope this helps and if you would like to talk more please feel free to email me.... Good luck

Answer 10

look im sure your life is great right now. but think of all the things you will miss out on if you have a baby? you will be responsible for another human being and you always have to set a good example. you think when your 21 your child will understand you going out and getting drunk? and what about college? how can you even consider having a baby when your just a baby yourself. look i know this may seem like a great idea but there are way too many variables for you to consider. not a good idea. wait at least til your 18.