Gay Marriage - is it a joke in some eyes?

Question

Ok - this isnt a homophobic rant how gay marriage is wrong before you get the nails out - purely my views on it and asking what others may think.
Im a gay female and i am in a relationship, Within the last year 3 of my gay friends have become engaged to there girlfriends - And they are happy which is fantastic.

But part of me is finding it hard to celebrate as i feel we still havent got what we asked for - MARRIAGE!!! Gay people can now we have "cermonies" in the eyes of the law. I will admitte this is an inprovement but still im just not buying it.
Do all homosexuals feel we are being slightly short changed? Im finding it hard to celebrate and this isnt becuase im a mean person im happy for my friends but i do really want to celebrate something that I feel some people make a joke out of as if it isnt as important as NORMAL marriage " between men and women" e.c.t.
Is this just as important and as real as what is a seen as a Normal marriage between men and women to homosexual?

Answer 1

Frankly, I could care less about someone else's "opinion" of my relationship. I would not be marrying someone to improve other's opinion, I marry because of my love and my desire to have my union legally secured in the event that the inevitable happens(death, taxes) I want him protected, I want all my worldly assets to be his and not snatched up by a second cousin once removed because they can prove some blood tie to me(and claim they deserve my stuff because of it), I want the exact same benefits that Brittany got afforded her and her "husband" when they got married for a "joke".
Ceremonies? They are meaningless to anyone but the couple. Whether or not I get married by transvestites holding huge plates of spaghetti, an Elvis impersonator, or the Pope himself, so long as they are recognized by the law as being legally afforded the right to perform a legal marriage it really makes no difference to anyone else. One finds meaning in one's heart, not in the opinion of others.
Many couples(heterosexual) aren't seen as being "really" married because they went to the courthouse instead of a church. Do you think they really care about the opinions of others? No. Your friends marriage IS as important as any other couples'. Be happy for them.

Answer 2

Yes, the denial of full marriage rights to LGBT people is 'short changing'. You may notice that governments will continue to ask you to pay your FULL share of taxes and participate in all the laws of the land to the FULL extent. But when it comes to making decisions about who and how you share your life, how your children will be parented and how you will dispose of your estate, suddenly the law says, "Sorry, everyone but you".

That's the truth of it!

However, when it comes to your own, individual relationship, any committment you make in love to your partner does not have to have the imprimatur of the state to make it valid and valuable.

In fact, it is probably MORE valuable because the state refuses to recognise it yet you still go ahead and do it because of the love you feel for one another.

That is what gives the ceremony meaning, not a building with a pointy roof and a fluffy dress and a bit of paper stamped by some time serving civil servant.

The love between to people is always important and real, and something to be celebrated, especially when it is against the odds :-)

Answer 3

I don't feel it's a joke, but I do feel a lot of people are doing it now because it's legal in some areas.

I've known a lot of gay people in my time on stage and working in the restaurant industry and I found for the most part they were normal folks like everybody else. They wanted to find somebody special to spend the rest of their life with and a lot of them did. The only difference was they couldn't get the same spousal benefits that heterosexual couples take for granted.

So when gay marriage became legalised in Canada, a lot of them decided to go for it and get legally hitched. Now they can experience the same joys and pains the rest of the world takes for granted.

Answer 4

How many times have I come across an over religious over zealous person whose eyes have been blinded? More times than I count on my hands and toes. I can not tell you what to think, if you think at all. Know that I am not trying to act bad with the keyboard that lies in front of me however I am most content. But I am curious how do you speak for someone especially a higher being? How do you know for sure on what "GOD" calls a "SIN?" Because honestly that has been pondering my mind since I was seven years old, and trust me I have to find any Priest, Minister, nor Reverend to answer that question, and since you seem so sure I would really like to hear what you have to say. I mean if you can speak for the "Almighty," I would definitely love to hear it. I think truly a lot of us would love to hear it. Where ever you found that line that "Man should not lay with man" I don't remember seeing that in any bible. Hopefully you know a little history, that the bible was written two hundred years after Jesus and by man no less the same men that thought women were nothing but property and mindless whores to do their bidding's. Written by men who had no morals nor integrity. The bible has so many contradictions that it took me three days just to get through Genesis and still till this day I don't understand it. But it seems that your easily brainwashed so you can tell me what that's all about. It's amazing isn't it? We still live in a world where there is constant hate, and fear among brethren. We say that we are not prejudice or hateful but then something like this comes up. Hypocritical bull that's what I call it. I'm going to tell you something that my mother tells me and everyone else all the time and swear to your "Almighty God" that it works. You're going to need me before I need you so you better watch it. So you're going to need a Gay (or would you prefer me to say "a f**" since they're such sinful people) before they need you, so you better watch it. But I don't think you care about what I say, cause I sure in the hell can't open your pretty little eyes. Nope, not until your life is on the line and it's actually up to someone who cares. I'm not preaching, I don't like to preach, I'm just cruel integrity.

Answer 5

More than half of American (heterosexual) marriages end in divorce. I see plenty of heterosexual marriages as a joke. Marriage is really "in the heart", and not a piece of paper, but I can see why you would want the legal protections that actual marriage provides. For the most part, marriage was created to insure that the children were the daddy's, and not somebody else's. It has changed over time to protect the female partner more. You have a point - good luck in your efforts.

Answer 6

Honestly, the nuclear family is important for the development of a child. They need a father to teach the tough values in life, and mother to teach the nurturing aspect. A butch is still not a man, no matter how much they want to be. Furthermore, a feminine man is not a woman. Gay parents simply cannot raise a child properly. And before I am battered with hate, the best homosexual parents will never hold a candle to the best heterosexual parents in terms of upbringing.

Also on a side note, gay parents cannot raise their children as proper Christians. It will only make America only more secular.

Answer 7

Marriage between people of the same sex should be called something else.Patnership or such.Its not the same as 2 people who are getting married,having a baby by mixing their genes to create offspring.Gay people can not do that.

Answer 8

im gay n it really doesnt bother me if marriage is legal or not...if u love someone why do u need a paper to back it up.

Answer 9

Gay people have every right to be just as miserable as the rest of us.

Answer 10

It's not a joke. But it doesn't fit the definition of marriage.

Marriage by definition only involves a man and a woman. Any other sexual union is immoral and unnatural. Gays and lesbians cannot biologically conceive a child. They cannot have "true" intercourse. That should tell you something right there. These relationships violate natural law. Every small child (unless brainwashed otherwise) has a natural revulsion toward same-sex unions and relationships.

Just being honest and truthful, although I know this might offend you.