Right,i am 2 stone overweight,and no longer the size 12 girl my husband once new. He tells me he's worried i'm gonna keep getting bigger,only a matter of hours after one of these talks,he rang me on the way home from his friends poker night,to say he had bought me a kebab! Why would he contradict himself like this,no wonder i never know wheather i'm coming or going!?
2007-05-18 01:15:11 · 28 answers · asked by heebygeeby 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I didn't eat the kebab,i was actually in bed when he rang. Turned my phone off,and he told me about the kebab this morning. Which i fed to the dog!
2007-05-18 01:26:21 · update #1
Thanks,i think i'm gonna shift this weight,and look forward to the day i can ridicule him! Aaah true love!
2007-05-18 01:28:42 · update #2
Maybe your husband has some insecurities about himself, but he is projecting them onto you. Who cares if you aren't the size 12 you were, neither am I! I think its awful that your husband is criticizing your weight and then buying you a kebap! I think you should ask him straight up why he is doing that. Sounds like he is being emotionally damaging by doing this to you. I hope that he stops with it soon.
2007-05-18 01:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Queen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because its what they do. It just shows how thick men can be. My fiance is the same. I am now a size 12 and he says i have put quite a bit of weight on since we met and then he will say order a pizza. I just ignore his comments becuase half the time he doesnt make sense - if he really hated the way you look he wouldn't buy you a kebab so dont worry about it
2007-05-18 01:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is putting 2 and 2 together. Was he eating a kebab as well and didn't want to eat alone??? You all have to sit down and talk. The important thing is - how do you feel about yourself??? Are YOU comfortable with who you are. Do you think you need more exercise??? What does your doctor say? You pick a plan of action and then tell your husband what it is and how he can support you. For example, I won't be eating "sweets" any longer so if you want them, you have to buy them - otherwise they won't be in the house. And when you do eat them, don't eat them in front of me. Don't bring me any late night snacks. I can't eat before I go to bed any more. If he cooperates - great and thank him. If he doesn't, tell him you don't want to hear him complain about your weight because he isn't doing anything to help the situation. In fact, he is contributing to the problem. Good luck!!
2007-05-18 01:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by kathy s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have him take a good look at himself... Is he the same weight/size as the day you met him? Of course not, but seems he'd rather shift the focus to you, and then give you more food to keep focus off himself. Well, I would have taken the kebab (not all that fattening anyway, is it really?) and asked him how many of them he had eaten before he got home!!
2007-05-18 01:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by valisme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It probably has more to do with lack of thinking on his part. He may want you to lose weight, but without realizing it he is also sabotaging you. He loves you and he was trying to be considerate by bringing you something, he just didn't think it all the way through. I wouldn't read any kind of malice into it. Just tell him you want to try to get back into shape (if you are), so while you appreciate the kabob, next time make it something healthier like a fruit salad or something.
2007-05-18 01:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner told me I needed to start going the gym 3 weeks after I had our daughter, he said that he "couldnt" live with a fat bird, I could barely walk to the town centre withhout nearly passing out and bleedin to death, so I told him to go fcuk himself, he knows where the door is, he still hasnt walked yet. The funny thing is Im still a size 8 and only put on half a stone whilst I was pregnant.
2007-05-18 01:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hasen't he learned by now? That's like the guy buying his wife a hunting rifle for Christmas. Just what she needs, right?
2016-05-22 05:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by caitlyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Men are stupid - he obviously didn't put kebab with diet! 2. It's a mind trip - if he tells you he thinks you're fat and then buys you fatty foods, he's in control and he wil be certain that other men won't be interested - DON'T LET HIM GET YOU DOWN IN THIS WAY IT'S OUT OF ORDER!!! 3. If you are unhappy with your weight - do something about it, for yourself, if you're happy with it tell him where to stick it!
2007-05-18 01:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by Libby F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue what 2 stone means, and I don't know what a kebab is, unless you're talking about a shish kebab!! LOL
When he tells you he's afraid you're going to get bigger, tell him you're afraid he might get more stupid.
2007-05-18 01:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm shocked! Has ur hubby ever heard of loving someone the way they are! If YOU want to lose weight for YOU then do so but if u r happy as u r then don't let anyone change that hunny. x
2007-05-18 04:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by scattydiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋