How do you find someone. I have looked in the phone book, etc - No luck. I have heard he may not live with his wife any longer. My husband kept his relationship (emotional affair) with her a secret from me for months. I feel I need to contact her husband to bring it to the open. My husband has already moved out and doesn't seem to care about his children any longer.
2007-05-18 01:04:05 · 13 answers · asked by Confussedhere 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please don't waste your time. You say your husband has already moved out, and HER husband may not even live with her anymore. You need to move on, file for divorce, and get on with your life. What do you hope to accomplish when you find her husband? Have an affair with him yourself? Please don't stoop that low. Hire an attorney, get an order for child support, and move on with your life. If your husband is having nothing to do with your and his children, that's his loss. When they are older, they will understand who really was there for them. Bless you and good luck. Get going with that lawyer, NOW, to protect your rights, and forget about revenge.
2007-05-18 01:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by ~RedBird~ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure why finding this husband would help you. If they are separated and he has moved out, then he probably already knows what's been going on. If your husband has moved out and doesn't' seem to care, again, I'm confused as to why talking to the other husband will help your plight at all. You are angry and you want to vent. You need a therapist or a good friend for that, involving the other guy won't do a damn thing to solve anything. I'm sorry you are going through such a horrible time in your life, but you need to redirect your energy to your own life instead of trying to ruin someone elses.
2007-05-18 08:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other woman's husband is no longer with her, your husband is no longer with you, how much more out in the open do you need to get this? It looks to me like two relationships have already been ended over your husband's affair, it's as out in the open as it's going to get, girl. Stop wasting your time on plotting revenge, get on with your own life and rest assured that your husband did you a favour. At least now you're free to find someone with morals.
2007-05-18 08:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you want to do is get revenge on your husband by telling this other womans' husband. Why go after her, when your focus should be on YOUR cheating husband.
Get yourself to Family Court and file for child support and set a visitation schedule. Even though your are quite mad, do the right thing for your children.
Whatever you do, make sure you don't vent your frustrations and anger about your husband in front of your children. Right now they are suffering enough because they may or may not know what happened. You need to always be positive when you speak about their father in front of the children.
File for divorce if this is the directon you want to go.
2007-05-18 08:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that: it will not help YOU feel any better in the long run, just keep you on that emotional rollercoaster. Definately not worth wasting your time & energy on this...remember, staying angry at someone else lets them rob you of your happiness.
I suggest you go to therapy, and/or join a divorce group. Talk it out and you will find ways to feel better. Revenge tatics only hurt more people - and burn up your energy that could be put to more constructive use for your own growth and healing. Good luck.
2007-05-18 08:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think because your feeling hurt from what your husband did to you is OK. but, to try and deal with your emotions by hurting someone else is wrong. I don't think it is for you to call her husband.. He will come to know on his own. I understand you have all different kinds of emotions that your dealing with but you deal with them and don't you go and get someone else involved in what is really between you and your husband.. The point is, your husband and you are who where in the relationship and if it did not work out that is between you and him.. Think what you would feel like if this ladies husband killed himself or did something rash..
2007-05-18 08:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by je 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your situation but finding the lady's husband isn't going to help you with your grief. There will be no solace there. And he undoubtedly is very aware of what his wife was doing and doesn't need to hear from you on the issue. Find your own way through this.
2007-05-18 08:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, he probably already knows....your main concern at this point is to take care of your children and yourself....let the courts decide what his legal responsibilities are for his children. The worse thing you can do now is talk bad about him to the children, they still love him, in time they will figure out what is what between you and he. Your anger is justified, venting is good, but not to the children, that's what your friends are for...Good luck to you dear
2007-05-18 08:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave it alone if she no longer lives with her husband then why does he need to know, maybe he ready knows, I know that you want to hurt them as much as he has hurt you, but really the best thing that you can do is move on with you life, this will take time and you are going to have some good days and some bad, Good luck
2007-05-22 06:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel there's really no point in contacting the lady's husband on this.One thing you can do is to look for a way forward by getting your husband to stick to his duty as a father by taking care of his kids.It hurts so bad when i read things like this but i want you to know there are thousands of women out there going through the same problem you're passing through.
2007-05-18 08:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by niffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋