I dont allow my husband to talk to his ex girlfriend/mother of his first 2 children (we have 1 child) or go to her house unless I am present. He communicates with her through me or his mother. When we pick up the kids she drops them off at his mothers and we get them from there. He respects my wishes but his family says I am being unreasonable even though they were the ones trying to hook him back up with her behind my back which is why he agrees to these terms. Is this wrong?
2007-05-18 00:21:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this does not mean the children. I do not stop him from seeing the children at all.
2007-05-18 00:27:28 · update #1
If it works for you and him, continue with it. Other people need to mind their own business.
2007-05-18 00:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you can't trust him around her then what are you doing with him? They have children together which means they are going to have to communicate with each other for a very long time or at least until the kids are grown. Put yourself in their shoes. You say you have a child with him. How would you like it if the two of you split and you had to communicate through someone else. No fun. Get over it or grow up.
2007-05-18 00:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by fruit bat 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She didnt say something approximately YOU chatting with HER actual??? nicely, clarify to her which you should no longer could desire to go through (you no longer knoeing your dad and all) for something that surpassed off this is your fault.... write that in the time of a letter... and additionally, write yet another letter addressed on your father, w/o a return handle (on the exterior, this is) and tell him what you think of you should tell him.... Calling HER, is a competent thought too. #sixty seven once you dial and have a communication together with her yet no longer a controversy... in basic terms remember to assert "i'm no longer attempting to break your life" and dont act like a stalker or something, then she's unlikely to choose something 2 do with you certainly.
2016-10-05 07:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your problem? You have no business in the middle of this. Your husband has 2 children by this woman and he has every right to communicate with her whenever necessary. Neither you, nor his mother have any business in this. You're an insecure, manipulative woman and you should be ashamed of yourself. Furthermore, your husband needs to stand up and be a man. Be glad it's him and not me you're bullying!
2007-05-18 01:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is wrong!!! Your insecurities are dictating that he can't visit his children? If you don't trust him, don't be with him. If you do trust him, then act like it. If he wants to "hook up", do you really think you insisting on being there is going to prevent it? He'll do it when you are not around.
It is already a difficult situation and you are making it more difficult. You need to take stock of your feelings and then put them on a self - and let him see his children with or without you.
Who are you to stop him from seeing his children? Grow up.
2007-05-18 00:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are doing the right thing! His family needs to mind their OWN business! His family obviously have no respect for the fact that you and your husband are married or they wouldn't even of thought of the stupid idea to try and get him back with his ex. You are very smart and intelligent for handling the situration as well as you do. I would definetely tell you to keep everything the way it is.
2007-05-18 00:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by CHIGALORE 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No its not wrong if they are sticking their nose into places that they don't belong then they need them slapped.He is married to you now and they should not be interfering, the only thing your husband and his ex have in common is his kids and that is all he don't need to be conversating with his ex unless it has anything to do with his kids.Tell the parents to mind their own business and stay out of yours.
2007-05-18 00:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seems to me that is very controlling and you do not trust your husband enough to let him talk to his kids .Omg he cant even go and pick up his kids . Why do you try to control him and things like that . He is weak cause he does not stand up to you or his mom . you need to chill and let him pick up his kids from their home and stop trying to control all of this .
2007-05-18 01:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you have every right to do what you are doing, I mean she is his ex after all, look you don't need worry about what his family says where she is concerned, she is ex she must stay where she belongs
2007-05-18 00:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not wrong. It is parable better this way. Less stress for everyone involved. It's his family that's being unfair to you and and there son. If your husband is fine with this, then don't let it bother you, he is doing you right, by considering your feelings.
2007-05-18 00:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by norielorie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋