hi im not proud of myself but my man caught me me in bed with his brother what makes it worse if also been cheating on him with his brothers girlfriend for nearly a year. im so confused i love me boyfriend but i feel i need to get him back because how many times hes cheated on me what do i do he forgives me but i really cant get over him
2007-05-17 23:35:14 · 20 answers · asked by ffdream21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out of all the relationships and spend time on being happy with yourself. Mis-trust and cheating is no foundation for a good relationship.
2007-05-17 23:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by flyingconfused 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a long hard look at yourself, you cant honestly love someone and be sleeping with two other people behind his back and he is no better for cheating on you, my advice is; get as far away from these people as possile, sort your head out and decide what you want put yourself first, and as for cheating on him to get back at him for cheating on you, are you nuts??? this will make you feel worse, as you know two wrongs dont make a right. After infidility becomes a problem in a relationship it will never work out
2007-05-17 23:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jeni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is for real maybe you should go on Jerry Springer.
Both of you are cheating on each other so I would say why bother trying to be together. One indiscretion is bad but, can be fixed but, you two are making a habit of it. Walk away and try to get your life straight before you get into a another relationship.
2007-05-17 23:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me tell u this ..a long lasting relationship cannot be built on a dishonest foundation..just like u cant build a multi-storey building on a weak foundation.heres what i suggest
1 Apologize to your b/f right away.
2 be honest to him from here on
3 Let him know that ur sorry for what u have done to him and then
4 wait for his decision...if he says that he has forgiven you and he still wants to be with u then well and good but if he say no ..then find someone else and rem ..dont cheat again ..sex is not worth of losing a good relationship
And remember let him decide ..dont force him to accept you ..and u have to accept his decision ..if he chooses not to be with u ..then so be it ..get someone else and dont ever cheat
2007-05-17 23:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mike R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRUST is needed in all relationships and without it the relationship will never last, in order to save what is left of this relationship you need to talk and both agree that if either of you ever cheat again it is over, make that commitment.
2007-05-18 01:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey.......trust me, you're on a downward spiral to hell playing stupid games like that................
I do understand that because your guys cheated on you.......you feel a need to "get him back" but it's not gonna work babe,
he'll just see it for what it is & the effect you want it to have on him, won't take place......he's hurt you deeply & you wanna hurt him the same...........not to hurt him maybe, but for him to know how it felt for you.....
he can't babe, he's not you............he'll just take what you do because he feels he deserves it, but at the end of the day, it's you that'll feel worse out of all this...........if the pain is so bad & you can't get over it or learn to trust him again [aided by him]............then get the hell out of there & get back to yourself for a while before you start another relationship.............you'll already have issues now that will follow you around.........it may be a good idea for you to get some counselling & follow a programme to build up your self esteem & more importantly, your trust in YOURSELF...............good luck sweetheart.........
2007-05-17 23:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Funky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well what it seems needs to happen is you need to forgive him. Deep down, you haven't forgiven him yet for all the hurt he's caused you so you are trying to get back at him. Forgive him, and stop sleeping around! Things should work out.
2007-05-17 23:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by egethepege 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you and you cheat on him, with his brother? You and your BF need to sit down and chat. If you can't forgive him for what he did and he can't forgive you for sleeping with his brother (what were you thinking?), move on and trust someone else. It's not going to work w/o trust. Obviously, you 2 have issues to deal with.
2007-05-17 23:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like u r both trying to get one up on each other if he has cheated on u cheating on him isn't going to make it better is it u will just both end up coppin off wit sum1 else all the time. This aint a gd realationship hunni
best just to end it cos if u reali did love him u wudn't have cheated anyway.
i think ur realationship may be an illusion of the heart it happens to the best of us. you think you love someone and are blind to ur true feelings cos u want it to b true u love them
gd luck wit everythin
2007-05-18 00:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by Hayley D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well - I don't think there is any hope for you! Sorry, he probably has said he forgives you, but I think you overstepped the mark in your choice of jumping partner.
I can understand you wanting to get back - that is
natural - but with his BROTHER. How can your
bf ever trust you again?
2007-05-18 00:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋