I am very old fashioned, and will never have a man.?

Question

I had one, and he went off with a woman, who he just met, and she went to bed with him 3 hours later and demanded sex all the time.
Then, the other one, we wanted to get married, and he went off with a married for papers immigrant, who promised to put out in the first meeting, and did on the second.
I am religious, catholic, and can't do this things. If I walk about
it, people just laugh at me, and tell me that I am old fashioned, and that everyone is doing it nowadays. They say I must talk about sex at once, the minute I meet the man, and put out immediately.
And I tried, and I can not go to bed with a man I just met; or with
many men, hoping that one of them will stay.
It means I will die single!

And they say it's ridiculous to behave as if I were 18, and maybe they
are right, I am confused and do not now; I just can't.

Answer 1

That really really sucks. The truth is, that they are right. Men expect you to have sex with them before you get married and that is really tough, but it's life.
So what are you supposed to do? Stick with your morals. Never take your clothes off for anyone and I seriously mean that because you'll feel worse off than before. If being "old fashioned" is what you want to do, do it and other people need to get a life if they disagree.
Will you find a man? Yes. You just need to find someone who thinks like you and the new age has brought us more than premarital sex. It's also brought us bible groups and internet relationships. There are thousands of fish in the sea and the net makes it easier for us to find them. It's not for geeks anymore. Internet relationships are nice because no one expects anything and you can draw the line wherever you want it.
Either way, you are not going to die single. Well... you will with that attitude. You just need more confidence. Any guy is lucky to have you and the ones who lost you are going to be trainwrecks in ten years. Tell yourself that every day because its true.

Answer 2

Im a guy, and I would respect a woman less if she would have sex with me early on. There are guys out there that are not all about sex. If I was in love with a girl and she wanted to wait until we got married, I would not have a problem with that at all.

Forget the people who laugh at you, most of them end up even more of a mess after they have sex with someone and stuff doesnt work out. I had a roomate my first year in college who had sex with a religous girl for her first time, and he broke it off a few days later so sex doesnt mean anything will last. Keep your head up, Im trying to.

Answer 3

Don't lower your standards, I'm sure there are still nice guys who would love to be with you. I don't see whats wrong with old fashioned, it beats the slutty girls that you see everywhere. I really can't have much respect for a girl if she puts out right away. Don't get too down, just keep looking in the right places. If your religious, as you mentioned, then you might try meeting someone there. Its better to be single for now, than to act like someone who your not just to get a person who doesn't really like you for who you are. Theres plenty of fish in the sea, just keep looking and don't give up.

Answer 4

No be yourself. There is someone for everyone, this world is huge. Try finding someone with your same beliefs, like your church or something. Dont sleep around cuz its "hip". Alot of men dont like that, if you hop in bed immediately, what do you think they will think about you? A real man will respect that. Maybe your looking in wrong places. Keep being yourself and I hope the best for you.

Answer 5

You need to meet someone you're intellectually compatable with, when you meet the right one the celibacy thing won't be an issue but I can't imagine it's going to be easy.... like your lifestyle, it's very strict and sort of frigid. Guys like crawling back into mommy's womb. You don't have to die single, but you should be thinking about your NOW and how you feel now not what God thinks of you, God is wrong if he says don't indulge, then he's a very selfish God.. Don't u think?

Answer 6

I choose that he would not pay for each thing. it can make me experience like a leech or lifeless weight contained in the relationship. i need him to question me if i need thus far him (he's no longer relationship my father), yet I also want him to get to understand my kin so as that they prefer one yet another. i do not imagine previous shaped potential a guy is courageous and honorable and constant and style. there are various of previous shaped adult men who're none of those issues. of course i choose a guy who's courageous and honorable and constant and style. although, i need him to have his own hopes and objectives, too. it truly is egocentric of me to make his entire existence revolve round me and any toddlers we may have.