Now before I get answers along the lines of 'I don't' There is a significant number of woman who do. In fact some of the most bigotted and hateful comments and actions against gay men and the gay community have come from women. So, I am curious what exactly is the problem?
2007-05-17 19:33:35 · 36 answers · asked by waggy 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks for your great answers so far - Just a note to those that ask for stats and links - Come on get real! This is life we're talking about not some medical research project!
2007-05-18 10:27:00 · update #1
Personally "I don't"
Stereotypes have a lot to do with this, after reading some of the previous answers this becomes obvious.
Fear of the unknown, lack of understanding, upbringing, after all many of us men and women do not necessarily know any gay people.
Perhaps we do tho' but don't know that they are, after all do you usually introduce yourself as " hi, I'm "Fred/Freda, love watersports, ", 34, unmarried, my job is ..., and I'm gay?
My 1st "boyfriend" is now gay but back in the 70's being gay was horrendous and coming out very hard to do.
I'm still not sure it's that easy now!
disowned by his family-my friend is now successful in his career, but for some people if they knew he was a teacher they would instantly come out with "don't want a bl--dy queer teaching my son , it might rub off"
Oh and yes I'm sorry to say that I've heard that sentiment from both men and women!
I think for women it could be, yes, if her partner is involved with another man she has no weapons to fight with but if he is with another woman she feels she knows how to fight back!
As for the Anal sex thing? lots of so-called "normal" guys actually enjoy and/or fantasize about doing it with a woman,
some even of a woman doing it to them, explain that one??
2007-05-17 20:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by yorkslass2000 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't as a rule have a problem with gay men; I've known a few myself. However, there are two glaring exceptions I can think of with whom I had the misfortune to work. They were hostile to me for no good reason. One of my husband's former co-workers was gay and I got along with him just fine. I rarely if ever make comments about gays because going the other way I have a cousin who is a lesbian and I wouldn't dream of making hateful comments about her. I thought my cousin was OK before she"came out" and after she "came out". My husband has a cousin who is gay, but I've never met him. My husband has nothing but good things to say about him regardless of the fact that his cousin is gay. My guess is that some of these women have been following assiduously speeches by certain very conservative religious leaders and rather than just letting it go, feel the need to comment. I hope that helps!
2007-05-17 19:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Strawberry Fields 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly what I have against gay men is that some of them are (and of course there are plenty of exceptions, but also plenty who fit this rule, so bear with me) the loveliest, funniest, good looking intelligent young men I have ever had the pleasure of meeting, and frankly WHY CAN'T YOU TEACH ALL THE STRAIGHT W*****S TO BE AS LOVELY so that we girls can stop missing out? I am bitter and jealous, because in my heart of hearts I know that if I were a gay man, rather than a straight woman, I would without a doubt find myself a nicer boyfriend.
2007-05-18 09:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by tickle me emo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they take over eachothers opinions. When all the girls talk about fags all day, the other girls will follow soon. It's like smoking. One starts, next week all his/her friends are smoking too. Where I come from (the Netherlands) mostly men hate gay people. But it's just a small percentage of all population. The Netherlands is very gay friendly and open.
2016-05-22 03:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by susanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean ... its like why do most men hate gay women?? I mean I get a fair bit of trouble from men ... get called some names and teased relentlessly and its because they are jealous! they always like to try and trun you! and if they think they cant they get arsy about it! personally I love most gay men! my best friend in the world is a gay man and I wouldnt be without him! in fact I have always had lots of friends that are gay men! but I do have to say one thing! "some" gay men can be very bitchy and hard to get on with and look down on women in some way! Im sure you are really nice and I know this doesnt go for every gay man but I do know a couple of pretty vindictive queens! ... but then I know a lot of vindictive lesbiand and straight men and women too! I think women are just bitches sometimes ... and thats comeing from one! :)
2007-05-18 00:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Joanne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people hate on ppl that they really have a known or unknown hidden attraction for them and the only way of showing is through ignoring or hating. People have a thing about not liking things that they dont understand but once they get to know a person if it happens its all good. Most just ignore unfriendly women/ppl.
2007-05-17 19:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is indeed the case, I think this must be due to the potential competition from homosexual men. I have found that generally married women are quite friendly to homosexual men and sometimes become good friends with them. I presume that this is because the man is not a competitor for either the settled woman or the husband.
2007-05-17 20:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well in my whole life I have never said anything mean to someone because they were gay. I have loved several friends who have homosexual tendencies. With that said sometimes to be honest I have felt angry at gay guys. It can be difficult enough to get in a healthy loving relationship and because there are so many gay guys this can cut your chances even further.
Also I have known two situations where a gay guy used one of my friends as a cover for his gayness. They were not up front with them. They just wasted years of my friends' life. All the while my friends are blaming themselves for not being pretty enough etc for why this guy was not more affectionate.
2007-05-17 19:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by gogogirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because they feel threatened...meaning that they can't smile and flirt their way towards getting what they want with gay men as I know a lot of women do with straight men.
Or maybe just the fact they know that gay men are not attracted to them and feel uncomfortable with that? Or are scared the gay community will steal their men away from them? I don't know...some people are just small minded
2007-05-17 19:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So give examples then. I don't know any women who hate gay men and never have done. And how do you know what "women" do aganst the "gay community". You cannot speak for it as a whole - you only have your own subjective experience.
2007-05-17 20:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋