my son is 11 yrs old. should i go in for another child at this stage. tell me pro's and corns?

Question

my age is 41 and my wife is 37 yrs

Answer 1

Our children are 34, 30, 26, 22, 12, 11.

Wasn't planned that way, but we feel truly blessed. The younger ones have a different mom than the older ones. I think I'm much more relaxed as a parent (and I have more time to give as career is not that important anymore).

Cons: Your friends are going on cruises and you are going to the circus.

Answer 2

I am 34, my son is 12 and I am 23 weeks pregnant with another boy. My 12 yr old is very excited. I am a little nervous though, cause by the end of this year, I will have a newborn and a teenager. I wonder how that will turn out. : ) Also, I think about when my 12 yr old will be starting college, the younger one will be starting kindergarten. That should be interesting. Getting ready for this baby has been very exciting. There are so many more things that make life easier with a baby. And of course, I am more financially stable, not to mention more mature, than I was when I had my firstborn.

Answer 3

I have a 10 yr old and a 20 month old....both girls. The good thing is that the 10 yr old is very helpful. Like if I need her to watch the baby while I take a shower or make dinner. Luckily, our family was nice enough to throw us another shower since I did not have anything left from the older one. We have a 2 bedroom townhouse. The girls share a room. The 10 yr old doesn't seem to mind too much, so far. The baby likes to play with the older one, but I know sometimes the older one can be like "i don't want to play with a baby!!" The baby always wants to play with the older one and her friends. Other than that, they get along pretty well.

Answer 4

My children were 10 and 9 when my 3rd child was born. The cons...my baby needs to be able to travel from activity to activity and play and live where ever were are at the moment. the Pros are numerous...we have a child that we wanted, we have big brothers that get to play and love their little sister. My boys are learning first hand what it is like to have a baby in the house...no the book says you will be up all night...they have seen it...I guarantee neither are going to be having teen baby's. I have built in babysitters, in our home some of the time is paid for and some is a requirement for living in the house...(If I am making dinner and you are sitting doing nothing then pushing the baby on the swing will not kill you...however, if I go to the store and you watch your sister you get babysitter pay) I think we have all grown as a family and I am getting to see my family in a new lite, especially since my husband and I were older and more set in our marriage and financial life when we had our last child. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 5

i have a four year old and her brother was born the day after her fourth birthday for me i realise now that this is too much of an age gap...i want to adopt now and give a child the chance to discover what a family is and to have support and be able to have a life past the age of 30 i am not considering this because those in hollywood do it just for my own reasons. i am only 26 and know that i can have healthy babies but why not help the unhealthy ones. at the same time i could not have done this before having my kids because i just wanted to exp. this and i get called selfish. mothers that have biological children are selfish bceause there are starving kids in the world WHAT? we are doing what we know reproduce we have that urge and act on it if it is your wifes desire to have her own child instead of adopting that is totally up to her as she has to b happy to be a good mum. good luck with whatever you decide to do babys are so yum. they smell delicious and are absolutely adorable. next question will be does anyone know any good baby names? lol

Answer 6

tough choice. From personal experience, or an advice standpoint I would say no. My parents had another baby when i was 13 (i was only child before that) and my parents pretty much ignored me after that. Only noticing the "bad" stuff. So of course, i did more "bad" stuff to get some sort of attention. Now my poor sister is pressured to do overly good in school (my parents are 60 and hvae nothing better to do than harp on her , but claim they dont pressure her at all), has unrealized anxiety from pressure and we dont really see eachother since I live about 7 hours away and have two kids of my own.

Answer 7

More than the age gap between the two siblings,your wife's health should be taken into consideration.Usually at the age of 37 it is not an ideal age for the women's body to nurture a baby,there may be complications during the delivery.But it is a totaly personal concern and it depends on your boths personal preference.

Answer 8

After 35 there is a greater risk for Down's sydrome. But your probably more finacially secure to deal with onother child now then 11 years ago.

I have 2 boys, one 12 the other 2 and the oldest plays a little rough with the youngest at times.

But if you are concerned about the worst that could happen with the birth of another child, perhaps your oldest needs to stay an only child.

Answer 9

My son was 11 when I had my second son there was no problems other than sometimes, now that my second son is two he wants to play with his 13 year old brother and its not always time for that, the best thing about it was there is no sibiling rivalry
the age differance actually makes it a little easier. Good luck.

Answer 10

It will be harder for your son and the new child to form a deep relationship, because there will be an 11 year age difference: By the time your son is 21, his younger sibling will be 10. By the time the younger sibling is 21, your son will be 32.

It doesn't mean they won't love each other, but they won't be as close as children who are only a year or two apart.