Lonely over 2 yrs HELP!!!!!?

Question

Okay I am about to just give up I was happy before I met this girl (my first REAL LOVE) in my head this girl was the one... smart, attractive, peoples person, etc and I mean it everyone loved to be around her guys always looked at her when I started going out w/ her I felt like the top of the world although I didn't like her at first we were friends for 2 yrs. I knew she liked me but I didn't care much so we started going out, I fell for her HEAD OVER HEALS for some reason 2 months later during our going out stage, she told me she loved me and I was the one, she never been kissed or anything I was her first everything. She was one of those innocent sheltered churchy girls, beautiful and smart. She moved to a diff town to go to a big college to be a doctor, of course I drove 400 miles every 2 weeks, 3 months later all of the sudden she just dumped me after I drove in the middle of the night cause she didn't answer her phone for 4 days straight. I came there in the morning

and she was awake, told me, I'm sorry it's over
ALL OF THE SUDDEN the other weekend she told me I was
"the one" seriously this was it for me, hell broke
lose ever since. I'v been depressed I MEAN DEPRESSED
most of these 2 yrs, it's been OVER 2 freaking
yrs r u kidding me? I cry myself to sleep like a little
kid im 21 yrs old. I bought a duplex as a rental property
I went to college FULL time I READ on my spare time NOTHING
helps I am so sick of it, at work breaking out and tearing
pretending I have ALLERGIES running to the bathroom
that is so pathetic and I'm so of it honestly I met
new girls but I am not interested AND I TRIED OKAY I DID
suicide is not the answer b/c straight to hell and I can't
do it.... I tried church... prayed truthfully attended
sundays... everything reminds me of her time heals?
Are you kidding? I don't know what to do!!!!
AHHHHHH *weep* hope it doesn't end like this....

Answer 1

You need to accept the fact that there are other women out there. I'm not being mean or harsh, but what is done is done. It takes two people to have a relationship and unfortunately your first true love has moved on. I would advise getting counseling b/c sometimes things are very hard for people to deal with, especially when it is the first time for dealing with a particular thing. (i.e. your first love)

If you like to talk or whatever drop me a line be happy to talk, sometimes that helps more than people realize.

Answer 2

OH Poor baby !! Sweetheart, Everything will be alright. trust me. She wasn't the one even if she was smart, attractive ,etc.. but she definitely wasn't the one for you. Have Hope. Have Faith in God that he will soon make u meet Ur true love. U r just obsessed with her, it's not true love dear. Even if u think u r. Like a person in a ditch feels the ditch is only the entire world but a person outside the ditch can c that there is more to world other than this ditch. And you need to come out of that ditch into the world by catching your best Friend's hand. be it Ur Mom, Ur Dad Ur roommate and if there is no one there's ME !! Talk openly to them about it. Don't hide Ur feelings. Cry and let them wipe Ur tears away. My e-mail is [e-mail]. Do mail me any, ANY time u need help. Take care dear.

Answer 3

I really feel for you. it seems like she find some at the collage, or maybe she still adoling. Girls inourdays they don't have love they look at what you have, maybe she got someone who is much better than you. All you need to do is to be free and start a new life because now you are worry about someone who doesn't even miss you. Am sure she is happy where ever she is and you are busy stressing your self about her. breaking up with her it doesn't mean that you will never fine someone to love you. She is happy get someone who is serious not someone who will waist your time. She is not the only beautiful woman in this world.

Answer 4

Get therapy. Talk to someone.

Ok on another note. Loving someone and not having them love you back just sucks, there really is no easier way to put it. Then it leads to a whole lot of self esteem issues and you question your purposes in life, your direction without having that person. Honestly you may never recover, sure you may end up dating again but some people never really recover from that. You learn to be cautious, never trusting fully, and the worst part is you compare everyone else to someone who in your mind was "perfect". You'll realize in forty years that no one is perfect and that love does hurt sometimes, but you'll live through it. You should read Nietzsche.

Answer 5

Guy, you and I are one in the same. Sure, our scenarios are quite different (if I told you my story), but the end results are the same. Don't end up like me. It seems like you still have a little faith left. Take it from me, DO NOT LOSE THAT FAITH!! You have to pick up the pieces and put them back together. Loneliness sucks, I know. I haven't had a girlfriend myself since my senior year of high school (graudated two years ago). I tried getting back into the game, but I always lost. Then I sort of...spiraled, and lost faith in myself. But you don't seem to, and you have got to hold on. I've developed some pretty messed up views on love and relationships, on humanity, and on life in general. Don't end up like me. You've got to hold fast and try again. There's still a chance for you. I'm done.

Answer 6

I think you should get in contact with her again and tell her that your sorry but you have to know what the reason was for dumping you. Tell her that you're having trouble getting over her and you have to know so you can move on or find out what happened. I know it's hard getting over a first love but if you know what her reason is it will help. Tell her you deserve an answer to help you move on and let her know that you will always love her