My step-son has taken my med's, money, just personel things of mine and my husbands, and his siblings.
He don't live with us because my husband threw him out. I love that boy, but, am afriad of him hurting us all over again. what do i do, set boundries...
2007-05-17 18:48:36 · 6 answers · asked by Petunia 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your husband has already taken a stand. If the boy finally realizes his mistakes, and you and your husband decide to take him back into you home, lay down the rules first. Then tell him that if they are broken one time, he will have to go. Be sure that you also require that he see a therapist, possibly even go to rehab about his drug abuse. You do realize that this is the problem, I hope.
He needs to know that there will be consequences for his actions, not only now but for the rest of his life.
You did not mention his age. If he is an adult, there is not much that you can do other than talk to him, and suggest therapy. Be sure that he pays for his crimes against you and the rest of the family. Press charges if he is stealing from you. Adults have to be taught lessons too!
2007-05-17 19:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience of boys like this I would advise to give unconditional love and nothing more. Try not to enable or excuse his behavior but remind him of his potential and family who cares about him no matter how many mistakes he makes. I no this is not a soulution and it may be something you are already doing but he can only learn how to be a good honest person by example and determanation to do so ... if you believe in God pray for your step son to heal as a whole and just let nature take its course
2007-05-17 19:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by chelelovesyou81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend with this exact problem and she was a therapist It is a job that is never rewarded she once told me. She didnt try to help him or anything because it was a lost cause..he just resented her
She could not even be a friend to him...she did not extend much energy towards him and it seemed like a good idea
I guess it means you are off the hook...just watch your things and keep an eye out for your kids...
2007-05-17 19:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by enchanted mermaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love hurts , and I think that your husband made the right call , how worse off is he out there in the wide world , and do you think that if he was at your house he would be acting any better , you cant give this kid love that he will appreciate , but now , tough love is what you need to invest in , because it seems no matter what you say or do in your house he will take for granted , so swallow hard , and let him learn in the world of hard knocks.
2007-05-17 18:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you google in step talk there is a whole site with all stepmoms that can help you.
Good luck I think you will get many ideas
2007-05-17 19:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bev J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are nothing to him. You are "Daddy's" whatever but you mean nothing to him.
He's made his choices. There is nothing that you can do.
The further away from your family he is, the happier all of you will be.
Best Wishes
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2007-05-17 18:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋