Is this possible?

Question

I met this girl at school about a month ago and we hit it off perfectly. She would call me and see if i wanted to do something with her and her mom, hangout with her and her friends (i get along with her mom and friends great), etc. the problem is that she has a bf, and not a very good one at all. I hear he boring as hell and does nothing. He also bums money and stuff off her cause shes well to do and he isn't. Apparently he is very emotionally attached after 2 months of going out. She tells me that he is also trying to change her hair. clothing, etc to what he likes (not cool at all). And i've been a good guy friend, answering the phone when she calls late, actually listening to her, we have deep conversations, etc. we talk just about every night for at least an hour. i think she talks to me more than her bf. her friends talk to me about how he sucks. Should i remain being a good guy friend hoping she'll notice that i would be a better bf then her current one, and dump him for me?

Answer 1

here we go...... I say you tell here how you feel about her... Sooner or later she will realize that he nots right for her... I say you go for it though.... You are already in good, with her family/ and friends.. SO TALK TO HER ABOUT IT

Answer 2

Yes. You should remain a friend. This way you have nothing to lose. If you profess your love for her in her face you may come on to strong and lose the friendship you have.

On the other hand, it may work out with this other guy. In which case, you have a really good friend who can turn to you in trouble and vice versa.

You should definitely make sure the relationship has fully run its course before trying to make any moves, or you could be setting yourself (and her) up for some serious relationship problems.

Stay where you are for the time being and it's a win-win. Move too soon and it'll be problems.

Answer 3

There is not much that you can do. If you directly criticize him, you take a chance on her getting angry with you. Don't tell her what to do, but gently hint about the situation. Say things like this every now and then to make her realize what he is doing: "I know you must miss going places and doing things like you did before. I sure hope that this is not an indication of how the rest of your life would be if you stayed with him." "I have a hard time believing that he is borrowing money from you. Most of the guys I know would never borrow money from a girl that they really cared about." "You are a beautiful girl, why would he want to change you?" "If he liked you in the beginning, why would he try to change everything about you? Aren't people supposed to love other people for what they are, not what they want to make them?" "If he keeps changing everything about you, even you won't be able to recognize yourself." "If he is like that now, what would he be like if you decide to marry him. Would he always be telling you what you can or can't do? I don't know if I would want to live like that."

Just work the comments into the situation little by little.

Say things in the form of questions, rather than putting him down. Just to give her something to think about. Sooner or later, she will begin to think about the things that you mentioned.

I sure hope that it works out for you! Good Luck!

Answer 4

You get a along with her mom? That's a good start there. Honey anything is possible I thought that me getting a boyfriend wasnt possible but it was. If she does all this stuff with you it shows she's interested in you and can do anything with you since her boyfriend is boring *** hell. Your being a great guy doing that stuff with her and of course girls love that. If you see any signs that she likes you then tell her how you feel and DON'T hide/deny your feelings. If you get rejected, there's somebody waaaay better then her. then atleast you know you tried and you know that you had some courage to tell her.

Answer 5

She probably does want to be with you but she doesnt know how to act or do with the other guy. she must care for him but not want to really be with him. im sure she really cares about you and does want someting with you she is just waiting for the right moment. take in mind that this is also hard for her. she is confused , thinking about whats best for her & her heart. Her mind telling her something but her heart may be telling her something completley different. She could be torn between the two. even though everyone else may see him as a bad b/f she may see him completly different, he is obviously doing something right for her to still be wanting to be with him. And in the other had she is thinking you are great and completly different then that guy which makes you kinda special in her eys. Basically talk to her. tell her how u feel . Let her know that u should be her boyfriend.She will realize it sooner more then later! trust me i know , i once was that girl. Now ive been with him for 4 yrs. he was there for me when i was with the losers he talked to me , cheered me up and made me happy. he let me know with a song called"i should be your boyfriend" by dru hill. i love him & we r getting married!!=)SO i wish you the best and hey if she doesnt realize it well dont waste your time , talk to other girls dont stay commited to her, be her friend since thats what shes doing. But like i said let her know and then youll see how things will go.Luck!!=)

Answer 6

sounds like you have a good chance, but be sure to let her know you're into her or you could end up in the friend zone. chances are if you just tell her your into her and that you could treat her better than her bf, she'll come around. sounds like you just need to make the first move.

Answer 7

I don't think you're gonna get her that way, big fella. Let her know that you like her, and if her current relationship isn't making her happy she has another option! If she likes you, that'll make it easy for her to bite the bullet and dump the guy. Just listening to her whine and being Mr. Sensitive is not sexy.

Answer 8

Sounds like a plan. You definitely don't want to be the rebound guy, so don't be pushy with the relationship. Just be her support system and take care of her. Eventually, you'll get noticed.

Answer 9

I would definately continue to be her friend. It sounds like you two are very good friends. And that is very hard thing to come across. And if a relationship comes about, thats just better yet.

Answer 10

if he physically or emotionally abuses her, intervene immediately. it could scar her seriously for life.

talk to her more about him. find out why she sticks w/ him.
keep in mind if the guy is dependent on her, he might get depressed if she breaks up. in that case, handle the situation very carefully and talk to someone who has a degree in psychology.

Answer 11

Just be her friend. I hate to tell you but she probably wont notice what kinda boyfriend you would make but hey I could be wrong. But from experience she more than likely will leave him for another jerk.