Should i go and see my dad ?

Question

My dad and i dont have a good relationship at all. I havent seen him in almost 18 months and even when we were in contact it wasnt that great. It was my birthday a few months back and he called to say happy birthday and that he was sending me money. The money never arrived and the fact that i didnt get anything upset me because he said he was sending something and i felt that he lied to me. Even a card would have been nice. Now he is calling me saying that he wants to see me so he can give me my birthday present which is a lap top computer for school. But i dont know whether or not to accept his present because he always argues that i dont want to see him unless he has something for me. So if i see him it will prove his point but it was a present that he promised me earlier and i do need a lap top for school really bad. But my gut instinct is telling me not to see him.

Answer 1

Swallow your pride and go see your Dad. If you aren't comfortable about the gift, then don't accept it.

Answer 2

Why dont you and your dad have a good relationship, Nothing, or nobody, would keep me from my dad unless He was beating me or abusing me physically, Nothing, Unless you open up to your daddy and tell Him how you fill just like you have told us, then nothing will never get resolved ,2 wrongs don't make it right, and It want be proving no ones point if you don't go see him, Time with are parents are very short, the age that we are sometimes don't allow us to see it that way, but Life with your parents are short lived sometimes , so go see your dad and Hug Him and tell Him you love Him and tell Him how you fill inside so he can reassure you that the way you fill is not How he fills at all...Their is a lot of children who have parents that don't care if they eat or have some where to live so you be Thankful for your Dad and go have a wonderful time and life with your dad because you only have one chance. And never ever let nothing or no one come between your dad and you talk about it to Him so you can forget and forgive before precious time runs out...God bless you and your Dads relationship....I just wish I had one more chance to tell my Daddy I love Him...

Answer 3

I feel for you, as parents can really put a guilt trip on you and when they have problems, they like to forward it on to their children, and make them feel resposible. If you want to try and give him a benfit of the doubt-then go see him. Stand your ground. If he has the computer and tries to manipulate you into guilt-remind him he told YOU he had it, and it would be of great help for school. Tell him you are willing when your schedule permits to see him,and no gifts are necessary. Don't excpect much from him, then he can't dissapoint you. Remember above all-he has a problem, so don'td let him try to pin it on you. Call a spade a spade, and do not play his games. Keep telling him you would enjoy a real relationship without any guilt attached. Stand your ground with him. At least you'll feel better about yourself, and hopefully he will begin to listen to you! Good Luck!

Answer 4

I am really sorry that you have to go through this....I know how it is to really want to have a Mom or Dad in your life and to believe they will be there for you....but I think you know what your father will not be giving you....I mean how many times has he promised something and then disappointed you.

I am not sure what I would do if I was you...but this is what came to my mind.....Call him and tell him you would like to see him but a gift is not what you want...tell him how you just want to see him to know he wants to see you. Tell him how you have been disappointed with his promises and how you really are not sure if you could handle it any more. Tell him how you just wanted a card from him and how it hurt that he not only did not send you one but had broken his word about sending you something....So tell him if he wants to see you that is fine but you are not asking for or expecting anything. This way if he brings something then you will be pleasently surprised but if not you will not have your hopes dashed nor will he be able to claim you just see him for the gifts.

It is sad how some adults never realized what they do to their children when they break promises or when they disappoint us.....I know how it is...my mother has done it to me since I was 6 and just to me not to the other kids in the family....I use to try so hard to please her or to have her accept me....but I finally realized she never would and I realized how I was hurting myself each time I wished for her love and did not get it...the hardest thing I had to do was realize I would never have the mother I wanted so bad....but I am so much better now that I am now just pleasing myself.

Answer 5

hi sorry that u r going through such a trouble anyways if i were u i definitely go to see my father but i will not at all accept his present because if he was so caring he would have send ur birthday present earlier now ur birthday is gone .you can just go and see him it will prove that u r not there for his present and u r not at all greedy for his gift .as ur school going guy u may need laptop but that he can give u as per ur need but not as a present for ur birthday which is gone.hope i had not hurt u by saying such things sorry .all the best

Answer 6

We should always cherist every moment we have with our parents. I know that he promise something but he never did fullfil that promise.
If I were you go see him. However, you need to call him first that you want to spent time. Spend a quality with him. Also tell him that he doesn't need to give you a lop top to see him.
You just want to have a quality time or to have father and child moment with him.

Answer 7

a father is something important for a child so if you don't see your father now and not talk to him now let me tell you that when he's gone you will miss him. try to make a good relationship with him before God take him. spend a very qualitative time with your dad before you feel sorry for yourself . whether he's got the present or not he's your dad.

Answer 8

personally i wouldnt... i grew up without a father... he tried the same type of things but never wasnt ever there for me. i had car crashes, motorcycle accidents, and all the other lil things in life a father should be there for. the only way i got through it was to never expect anything from him... not even a call now and then.

Answer 9

since u haven't seen him for 18 months, just go & see him. after all he is ur father & if he is giving u a present i.e a laptop, i think u should take it......laptops have great use especially if u want to use academically ....just take it don't think too much about ur pride....because later u will feel sorry for not taking the laptop....

Answer 10

welll my friend i hate my father but seing how he is holding it an making you come down he wants to see you and if thats what he has to so he probley will but go an see him seat down i know ur not going to want to but talk 2 him and try to see why your relation ship isnt to great and yes he is a father witch means a speech but hey i went through the speech thing too and it sbetter to have a good relation ship b 4 its to late u never now somthing could happend so go see him an talk to himan after that make it a point to call him every now and then

Answer 11

Quit wasting time and go see your dad. Yes, get your computer. But go see him more often so he doesn't feel you only want material things from him. You only have one father. Don't you think it's time to form a better relationship? Make memories to cherish.