How can I make my 3 year old daughter stop wearing diapers?

Question

I feel my daughter is too "Big" to wear diapers. I have tried the Nice way, the Mommy\Daddy Sad way, you're too big way, you're a big girl etc... etc... to no avail! Please advice! Thanks...

Answer 1

my advice is.........
just let it go....my son was the same way we tried everything to potty train him...nothing worked, nothing that is until he started head start at age 4 within 3 months he was potty trained because he saw all the other kids potty trained....
so just let her go till she decides she's ready you can't force her and trying to make her feel guilty is just wrong and does nothing for her self-esteem

Answer 2

If your girl is developmentally delayed this is not the right thing to do but........When my girl turned 3 - I knew she knew what to do - she just wouldn't take initiative - I simply took the diapers off - at first you have to really watch to make sure she doesn't pee on the floor - there will be some accidents and it does take time - but take the diaper off and let her run around butt naked. No child likes to pee and poop all over the place or have it running down their legs. You have to supervise this obviously in telling her what you're doing and what she should do when she needs to go. At first I sat her on the potty every 15 mins - then when she was ready - I asked her every 15 mins if she needed to go and if she said yes - I put her on the pot. This is what I did and it was the only thing that really worked - was the advice of a good friend. After 3 days of this at home - she was consistent - then we had to use the diapers still in going out until she could tell us she needed to go. She used them at night for awhile just in case. Once she was consistent at home and away we took the diapers away completely. It's a process and it's a big transition for a kid - but really - it's more work on mom's part and a much bigger accomplishment for YOU. She had accidents - fewer and fewer as time goes on - now that she's almost 4 - she hasn't had an accident in months!!! Give heaps of praise when things go well and when she takes the initiative to go on her own. Try not to get angry or frustrated about accidents and such. Yeah - who wants to go on 4 years of changing a BIG KIDS POOPS - ewwww??? Pull Ups are a total waste of money if your daughter just treats them like any other diaper like my girl did!

Answer 3

I have a 3 yr old too. She went through stages where she was excited about the potty then she would scream her head off if I sat her on it. Trust me when I say I know how frustrating it can be. But I just did what everyone told me to, just let her alone and she will go. I also started a potty chart, I made a chart out of a poster and had a bag of stickers I put the chart in the bathroom and told her if you went to the potty she could put a sticker on the chart and that worked wonders. I also tried candy and gifts. like if she used the potty 3 times a week she could go to the dollar tree but I would have to say that the sticker chart was the best one i did. Also you should try taking her out of diapers and just using training pants, except for at night in the beginning. I just bought the normal no cold or anything training pants. I thought they were easier for her to tell when she was wet verses diapers.
Good luck :-)

Answer 4

The following advice is for IF you're SURE that she is physiologically able to contain herself and is just being stubborn. You always want to err on the side of the child, as pushing it when the child is unable could leave emotional scars.

IF you're SURE, I would clear the house of any diapers. When she gets up in the morning, tell her they're gone, that she's a big girl now, and big girls don't have diapers. Then put panties on her. Every time she wets, she will have to clean herself up and change her panties. She should get tired of it pretty quickly, if you can hold out and keep your cool. It might be a good idea to clear two to three days at home for this.

Answer 5

Honey, when you figure that out, please let me know. Mine is 3 as well, and has done pretty good with the tee-tee in the potty thing, but she still pees in her pull up at night. She also can not seem to grasp the poo poo thing. She knows it feels gross cause she always comes to us as soon as she does it and brings the wipes. She will say "Nasty poop goes in the potty, right mommy?" But she wont do it. We too have tried the same comments you have tried. I have never potty trained a girl before, so this is new to me. People keep telling me to just give it time, and be comforted that most 10 yr. olds are potty trained. Yeah, that makes me feel a whole lot better!

Answer 6

this is how i did it... very simple... NO PULLUPS they are just diapers... get those old school underwear those big thick training pants. (the summer is best time to do this) let her wear them around with a t-shirt (easy on and off). She will hate the way they feel when wet. Make it fun and NO big deal if she has an accident.. just be positive, "next time lets try for the potty" also when you have to go pee or poo take her with you and let her see what goes on.. one more thing barnes and noble has a really fun potty book, thats super! BUT really NO PULLUPS it just prolongs it... i had this done in a weekend...

Answer 7

Try some "pull ups",they are a diaper,that you can pull up and down like underwear. Make sure you have a potty chair. Bring her to the potty chair and make her sit andf try to go several times a day. When she goes, praise her on how she's such a big girl.Buy her some panties she likes, let her pick them out. When she goes potty on her own she gets to wear them.

Answer 8

Keep putting panties on her...if she feels it dripping down her leg she probably won't like it and consistancy is the key...keep asking her...do you have to go potty? Put her on the toilet every 20 minutes or so...she may pee just a little but she'll get the concept...if you have a little potty for her, have her sit on her toilet when you sit on the toilet and go pee pee together. Give her an incentive, I just finished training my son and he was not like my girls, he needed "extra" motivation....bribery!!! I bought this really cool truck, (inexpensive, but big) and I put it out in the living room and I told him that all he had to do was go potty in the toilet all day and I'd give him the truck...it took a week but he kept seeing that truck and how it was just sitting there, waiting for him to play with, and he finally wanted it so badly that he went in the toilet. I told him that if he goes an entire week he'll get chuck e cheese. If all else fails there is no harm in a little bribe. Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Trully, there is no real answer for this. Some kids just take more time, others teach themselves. There are a lot of ideas out there, you just have to try them. We are trying to potty train our son, and it's not easy. I think back to my youth and my mom made me wash my own underwear in the toilet or the sink or the tub. It really helped, according to her. Cause I didn't want to wash them. It's just an idea. By no means do I say this is the way to go. Just thought I'd throw it at you.

Answer 10

According to some sources, not all children develop the capacity to control their ability to go to the bathroom. For some children, it can take several years to learn to stay completely dry. I agree with the previous people who say not to force this as an issue with your daughter. Some children simply need to take their time with this stuff, sometimes because their body isn't physically able to control such urges. To punish your daughter, or to urge her to do something she is genuinely incapable of doing, for something she may not be able to control seems not right to me. Give this time. It may take longer, but better it should take longer than it become a big power struggle between you and her which could adversely affect her social development and personal psyche.

Answer 11

I hate to say this, but it will happen when she is ready. Pressuring her can make things worse. Try sitting her on the potty after drinking something about 15 minutes later, give her a book to read and stay with her talking to her like it is no big deal. Or give her an activity to do. If she goes, commend her, make a big deal out of it. Let her flush it down the toilet. Do NOT make her feel like she failed if she did not have success. Just keep trying, hang in there, it will happen. Some children just take a little longer.