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Question

I am 15 yrs old, (shh yes I should be in bed but, I wanted to ask- hoping that I could sleep better).
My mother is a Catholic, and she raised me to be a Catholic also. What I am not understanding about my mother is that she preaching the bible like it's on the back of her hand. Dislikes people that do sins. And preaching them out when they do thing wrong.
Exampe: She will tell me to let things that happened to me go. She tells me to forget them. But, when my uncle did her hard wood floors he screwed them up and he won't redo them. She holds a grudge and will do this to everyone she is wronged against, and in my eyes is down right mean. To me she controdicts herself. She has a mean/evil side to her.
Is she a full -fledged Catholic, or the does the devil know the bible by heart and uses it to get to people? Get what I am trying to say to you? I don't understand her. But, I want to please her and stop having her be so upset with me. I thought having a religion would make you sweeter???

Answer 1

Guess what?

Catholic or not, your mom is human. So are you and so is your uncle. I am too by the way even though your mom might not think so because I'm an atheist.

If you really want to set her straight, become an atheist and tell her she drove you to it because of her hypocrisy.

If that doesn't work, just shrug your shoulders and realize that people are people and that has absolutely nothing to do with religion. Come to think of it, most things have absolutely nothing to do with religion.

Answer 2

Wow, it must be hard for you. I do not want to say anything bad about your mother, but religion has nothing to do with all this. This is just the person she is.
If you want to be a religious person, if you feel the need for it - fine.
But, let me tell you, a lot of religious people say one thing and do another. It's like they are programed to say those things and, yes, they contradict themselves all the time. Do not become programed. Do not become brainwashed by anybody. Be your own person and people will like and respect you for who and what you are.
It's better to be a nice person, who doesn't believe in God, than a bad person, who knows the Bible by heart. I'm NOT saying your mother is a bad person. I do not know her. Just be smart and find a way to have good relationship with her. This is the way she is and you'll never change her. There's no way to change another person.
OK, we'll not tell anybody you stayed up late...

Answer 3

Being into religion of any sort does not mean we are perfect.

We are still very human.
and it stinks when we realize our parents are not perfect or may be a bit emotionally immature.

We can learn from the mistakes of others then we do not have to make them all ourselves.

It takes time to overcome certain things even for a person of adult age.

Yes the devil knows the bible by heart.

Do not let any person break your faith in God. The devil works through men(and women) to try to break a persons love of God.

Keep in mind it is another person's free will doing things not God's will. God's will is that we love one another - not - hurt, abuse and use another person.

Answer 4

Well... I think she would be a full fledged Catholic in that she has received the sacraments and is in good standing.

Her actions are not unknown... do as I say, not as I do. She also does not reckognize her actions as being harmful.

Jesus shows us the compassionate way, there is no doubt. Look at the parable of the Prodigal Son- the kid took all the money, wasted it and came grovelling back. A parent might be inclined to say get lost.. but our God does the UNexpeceted! He welcomes with open arms.

So... gently point out these discrepencies. We can't pick and choose who we are Christ-like to... we must shine for all to see.

Answer 5

Tiff, I am a Christian, and I have to admit that I have known people who say that they are Christians who would make the meanest dog look like a cuddly pup. Many people preach one thing, but do another. The Bible speaks to this as one who desires to help another person get a speck out of their eye, but can't see to do it because of the large beam in their own eye. The Bible tells us to forgive others, and we should. I find it amazing that people who have wronged me do come to various punishments that I absolutely had nothing to do with. Your mother is right, you should forgive, but so should she. God does keep record of what goes on, and will deal with those who disobey Him.
What is best for you is to obey your mother, because the Bible does say that you should. Forgive her as well. Where you can, try to be a peace maker, because God has high regards for such people. Finally, there is nothing better than to know Jesus as savior. A trusting relationship with Him is so much better than trying to keep the commands and practices of any religion.

Answer 6

It is only human to see one way and to do another way.

It is like somebody who said the name of jesus will drive out the devil, the verse in the bible will tame all devil .... then go on to say the devil knows the bible by heart .....

Answer 7

Religion is different to different people. People, being concieted humans as we are, will use it to our advantage. We as a whole are stuck-up and contradict ourselves all the time. The truth is your mom probably does have a good heart because she does believe in God. Something else deep inside of her is probably nudging at her. Just tell your mom how you feel. Tell her you are confused with the religion and the hatred you feel. She will probably understand.

The best of luck!

Ecclessiastes

Answer 8

Having a religion doesnt make one sweeter, understanding and living your religion can make you happier and stronger. I would be the best daughter you can be and that is all you have to think about. Her life is hers to live. When you are older you can seek truths in life and find how religion can give you happiness and strength.

Answer 9

Having a 'religion' is tough! Because not only are you to live by God's standards, but you are also going to have to live by your religion's standards.

I would recommend that you read the Bible. Only try to really see what it says, instead of trying to learn it like your 'religion' says to understand it.

Ask God to guide you to understanding. Jesus says that God cares about us, and if he wawnts to, he will show you that you are important to him, and that you can trust him. That's right! God says that he is trustworthy.

So e-mail me if you want to, and I'll do what I can to answer your questions. As you already can see, there are many people who have nothing good to say about God, okay?

Answer 10

Whether or not a person is religious has NOTHING to do with how sweet they are. Seriously. I know really sweet atheists and downright nasty believers. Your mother would be the way she is no matter what religion she was raised in.