Just wondering if I am wasting my time or not. Just started this internet dating thing and wondering if it really works. I am an attractive 37 year old male and feel like I can't Find the right female. I don't have time for bars right now!!!!
2007-05-17 16:58:02 · 12 answers · asked by James K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a good thing that you don't have time for bars. You probably won't find a good woman there anyways. I am personally married so I don't do the on line dating. The best place to find a good woman is to go to church. That's where I met my husband.
2007-05-17 17:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The issue I have with internet dating (I am 39 year old male) is that the amount of choices that men and women have mean they can subdivide their list to such a narrow amount and still come up with 100 guys.
Then, they look for the 'hottest' ones and hope that they have all the qualities that make them the perfect guy. (the only problem is that those guys don't exist or if they do, they already have boyfriends)
In a way, too much choice gives you too little choice.
I met three women on the internet, 1 friendship (6 years and going strong) and two dating relationships (3 months each and I have no idea where they are). So, it has it's plusses and minuses.
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2007-05-20 00:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I'm an attractive 20-something. I did online dating for quite a while, so I can give you my spin on it:
You get what you give. You have to have enough time to meet people in person, and take it lightly and with a grain of salt. It seems the older the ages you meet, the more you meet honest people but that's not a guarentee. So - be cautious but not guarded. Don't share anything that could get you in trouble if it got back to your work, and don't ever meet anyone at your house or theirs, always public.
If you "don't have time for bars" then you may not have time for dating. I personally didn't enjoy the bar scene enough to want someone who was AT the bar scene, and I like nerds :-)
If you don't mind meeting single moms, you will probably meet quite a few of those online, too. Just be upfront with your qualities and what you want. But be willing to go on a LOT of dates - you have to meet most people twice to figure out if you are even interested. And you may meet 20 before you find one who actuall clicks.
You may have better luck with an actual dating service, who prescreens people - I did that, too, while doing the online thing. Online got me hits more often, dating service got me some better quality consistently (but cost more).
Good luck, and remember to just Have Fun!
2007-05-18 00:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by yp_bri_vancouver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been afraid of the whole internet dating thing myself !! I just think it is really scary to not know who you are really talking too. I do have a couple of friends who have done it, with success, but it sure seemed like they kissed a lot of toads before they found their princes, and that doesn't appeal to me either. I am a 37 yo attractive female and I feel your pain. The bar scene seems to be filled with too many barely 21's. or losers. The only thing I can say is it seems like my friends had better luck with LTR types on sites which require an access fee so not just any idiot will be on there - at least they had to be serious enough to pay to enroll, not just bored and wanting to chat and waste your time
2007-05-18 00:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by tvm209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internet dating is the safest way of meeting someone nowadays. You still have to be careful, but for the most part people online are honest and just looking for someone too. After my divorce I started internet dating and also did a lot of chatting with men in other countries. I ended up meeting the man of my dreams and we're getting married in September.
2007-05-18 00:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Online dating has not worked for me in the past however in the area of PA that I live in we have a phone dating system and that worked really well. We are still together even though right now it is a long distance relationship.
2007-05-18 00:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by khariva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, watch those guys on Dateline on MSNBC. They always have luck with online Dating with Chris Hansen (Sp?)
2007-05-18 01:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by trigunmarksman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband has had a lot of dates with women from yahoo personals. So I guess that is good luck!!
2007-05-18 00:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by Laker Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... ive seen all my friends fall... ive fallen....
He broke up with me because he couldn't be honest. Even if you trust the person with all your heart, it still will not last long... I just don't believe it could.
It hurts me to see people 'fall in love' on line....
because its saddening when its over.
2007-05-18 00:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Juliette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋