I have been talking him for almost 2 months and haven't gotten to talk to him even on the phone yet. He works a lot and I don't want to be to forceful. I don't want to seem too desperate. I don't know, just need an opinion on the situation.
Really want to meet him though. He and I have so many things in common and we get along great on the computer!
Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated!
2007-05-17 16:29:55 · 9 answers · asked by daylat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I assume you two live near enough to each other that a face to face is practical. Why not ask the guy out to lunch, dinner, coffee, a movie, some time wandering around the mall or something else both of you would enjoy. Start the invitation with something like this. "OK, my curiosity is working overtime. Let me buy you a cup of coffee, I would really like to meet you face to face." Make it casual and put all the blame on him. Tell him he is a mystery wrapped in an enigma (this will also tell you if he has a vocabulary). And you are a puzzle freak. Anything to get him in the same room with you.
I strongly recommend a public place and I don't recommend you hand out your home address and phone number until you have had a couple "in person" meetings.
Good luck, I hope you have a winner but don't set your sights too high. Pleasant surprises are good, disappointments aren't. And, believe it or not, some people actually misrepresent themselves on the web.
2007-05-17 16:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay computer buddies honey. It's only been two months. For all you know, he could be some nutjob whacking off while he's talking to you and his wife is putting their kids to bed. There isn't anything you can say or do that wouldn't have you coming off as desperate in this situation....you are trying to hook up on the net...that screams desperate. You know it, he knows it and someone is getting enjoyment out of this.
And I could be wrong about him, maybe he is "the one", which is why I say stay computer buddies. Eventually (at least 6 mos from now) the conversation will come up about meeting each other face to face, and when it does...make it a public place during the daytime and make sure you let someone know where you are going and who you are going with! I don't mean to mother you, but for goodness sake sweetie....it's only been 2 months!
2007-05-17 16:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shoud meet him in a public place where you can get away from him if you have to but make sure that he does not follow you home. So that is the reason why it would be best for you to meet him in a mall or a place where there is a lot of people. (Don't go back to his place or anywhere that you two are alone or that you feel uncomfortable. DON'T RUSH IN TO ANYTHING TAKE YOUR TIME do some kind of background check on him to check him out.
2007-05-17 16:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by mickey mouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make certain you're in a public place once you are trying this, like a eating place .and make some girlfriends call you at different situations on your cellular telephone just to make certain you're ok and if issues are going badly, between the telephone calls could properly be a manner of leaving .. and don't pass everywhere the place he can do something undesirable to you.. get to recognize him in man or woman earlier you 2 pass some the place there is not any longer a super variety of persons around.. stable success
2017-01-10 05:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by dirks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him sometime if he would like to get something to eat sometime. ur not going to sound desperate after 2 months of talking. try and make it a place with a lot of people tho, u can never be too sure about people u meet online.
2007-05-17 16:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by bml989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as someone who has met several people that i have talked to online i can tell you this have you asked him if he wanted to talk on phone? i usually talked on computer then went to phone........ also i know what it is like to want to meet someone you talk to online you feel a connection and want to meet but like you said dont want to be forceful.......... if you feel like you have connection see how it goes tell him that you enjoy talking with him and see what he thinks about meeting for a drink or dinner
2007-05-17 16:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him on the phone first. That way you can verify who he is a little better before you meet him in person. Please make sure he isn't a serial murderer or a child molester!
2007-05-17 16:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by loz_chyna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him for lunch or coffee somewhere.
2007-05-17 16:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait a little longer
2007-05-17 16:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋