I haven't talked to my Grandmother is over two years. Why?
She has treated my Mom like sh*t for the last 23+ years, refuses to have anything to do with my half brother because he isn't her "blood" and missed my high school and college graduations because she didn't want to leave her dog home alone during the ceremony.
Now that she's found Jesus and is over 70 she believes we should all forgive and forget the crummy things she's said and done. Right.
2007-05-17 16:16:12 · 5 answers · asked by The "Hmm" Girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I did just that with an Adult Child -- who was abused by the Ex when he was a toddler.
That Adult Child willingly HELPED the Ex (from a short disaster of a marriage ... and I've been divorced for approximately a decade and a half) to BURGLARIZE my HOME in August 2006.
YES, I went to the police. YES, I filed the Report. YES, I DEMANDED prosecution. YES, I filed NO TRESPASS Orders against him. YES, I changed my will and all legal documents to cut him off from anything ... and ...
YES, I made sure to file eviction papers, to provide every bit of evidence it was him to the police, and am awaiting to see what is going to happen when the case finally goes to court!
2007-05-17 16:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother has cut me out of his life because he didn't agree with certain decisions I made about how I wanted to live my life. I've tried to communicate with him but he's not open to that yet. So I accept that that is what he needs for himself at this time and hope one day he'll be able to see past his nose. In the meantime, I have to live my life for myself.
You don't want to hear this but I agree with your grandmother. But not because it'll make her feel better. Forgiving people who hurt you will make you feel better. By holding a grudge and carrying all that anger around with you, you're holding yourself back from living a peaceful life. Forgive her for her ignorance and accept that she didn't know any better at the time. Just because she's 70 years old that doesn't mean she has all the answers.
Perhaps she's realized she was wrong and doesn't yet know how to apologize. Maybe you could make the first move and let her know how hurt you and your family were by her actions and words but that you're willing to forgive her. By doing this, you'll feel much lighter and more at peace. It doesn't mean you have to start hanging out with her if you don't want to. Just be willing to forgive for your own sake.
2007-05-17 23:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's truly sorry, and changed her abusive ways then you should forgive her and let her be in your life. If she is only sorry on the surface, or not at all and still abusive, then forgive her, but have little contact. If you or your mom are being hurt by her, then you aren't going to do her or yourselves any good by letting the abuse continue.
2007-05-17 23:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive cut my brother out of my life because of his lies and the fact that he messed with my daughter. Most people think that if they find Jesus all should bow down. I wouldnt. She should apologize to you
2007-05-17 23:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by themom95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is short, child
forgive her...
it will help You in Your life
2007-05-17 23:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋