gah! I can not stand my mother! she's is so freaking psycho! like, she won't let me do anything by myself! I'm 16 and im not allowed to manage my own life! she's always right there making sure she knows every damn detail! I DO NOT LIKE HER! she makes my life hell! she's so controlling and manipulative and she thinks the whole world has to run according to her plans, and if it doesnt? she has to be a ***** and get all up in people's face! she can't just let anything go! i'm not allowed to do a single thing! i'm 16 and i not allowed to act that way. i don't kno when i was last allowed to watch TV, im rarely allowed to go out, and at the same time, she's always bitchin about getting responsible! and she gripes about the littlest ****! like if i leave a pair of pants on the floor or don't make my bed, she will use that in an arguement for months! and if i put something off cuz god forbid i actually am trying to plan my time and she can't wait 10 minutes! she's never gonna let me grow up!!!
2007-05-17 16:03:49 · 6 answers · asked by whoops :) 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
u dont understand! she is involved with everything! and she so paranoid! im not allowed to do anything where i "might" get hurt! I WOULD RATHER DIE YOUNG FROM WHATEVER THAN LIVE A LIFE WHERE I CAN'T HAVE FREINDS OR LEARN TO GROW UP!
2007-05-17 16:11:08 · update #1
She is just probably having separation ansiety she doesnt want to let those days go when you were just a little girl and depended on her for everything.You are trying to grow up and be more independent and she will probably fight you tooth and nail the whole way through but when you are in your mid twenties I bet your mother will be proud of the strong independent woman she raised Although try and lay off on the ***** stuff so much and really try and see things from her point of view have you stopped being mad about all the limitations your mom has put on you to try and see things from your moms point of view.How does your mom feel about all this.It may seem outrageous and extreme and her actions may very well be outrageous and extreme but think just for a second how all this is happening and try and see things from your moms point of veiw and maybe you can sit down with her and have a adult conversation and reach some kind of compromise.(listen to your moms point of view but insist that she also listen to yours OK) If you are a adult now then it is about time you started to act like one.
2007-05-17 16:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess ur mum is too controlling and may exhibits a sense of unsecureness as she always need you to do this and that and make sure you always do things right. Have you ever find a suitable time to talk to your mum why she behaves like this? Try to understand what's bothering in her mind. Sometimes, eventhough that we may have already grown up, but in the eyes of the parents, they still think that we are the young babies which needs protection and told what to do and what's right or wrong. They may still have not grown to a stage where they can totally let go the freedom to let you to be alone and on your feet alone. I guess the best thing to do is try talking to her and understand what's happening actually. Tell her that you love her but also mention the way that she behaves may somehow makes you uncomfortable. both of you have to come to a level of tolerance with each other!
2007-05-17 16:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little girl you are taking on a world you have no Idea about It is about to chew you up and spit you out. And that's the good news. I got flashbacks when I read the whole I'd rather die young bullshit.
I was you. I chased excatly that 'dream' and I nearly got my wish. I was 16 and have seen and done things you only fantasize about while cursing your mother listening to your music in your dark bedroom. You owe her an apology, several I'm sure.
I'd rather Die young...indeed you may if you don't shove that rather massive attitude problem out of your life.
2007-05-17 16:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by rabidkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on getting a scholarship to college and once you get there, make sure to find a job asap so you can get your own apartment and be on your own.
If you don't, you'll be 23 like me and still living at home. My Mom is just like yours and I still have to deal with all the same BS you're going through but it's harder because I'm waaaaaaaaaay past being a teenager.
I can't wait to get my teacher certification so I can move out
2007-05-17 16:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by The "Hmm" Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like mom needs to get off the egg and let it hatch.She will eventually and before you know it you will be daydreaming about being 16 again.:)
2007-05-17 16:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Darcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to her
wait to "manage your life" till you are over 18
2007-05-17 16:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋