we are going to marry with the JP and then all the people that will be there which will be like 20-30 people, we're all going to go to a nice restaurant for lunch. i was originally planning on paying for everyones dinner, but if you've ever been the any of the restaurants on the kemah boardwalk, you know they are NOT cheap. so, would you think i was rude if i had everyone pay for theyre own lunch? we're going to have a cake too if that makes a difference? lol....what do you think?
2007-05-17 15:34:35 · 19 answers · asked by Paige 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think what you are worried about is what people will order. That someone will go overboard because it is on your tab right? Well there is a way to control that so that you don't have sticker shock at the end of the lunch. Talk to the restaurant and if they are setting aside a little section for you to have your reception in then ask them to make a mini menu for your reception with items that are pre-selected by you in your price range.
You could even type it up and print it on nice paper if you have time and the restaurant allows.
That way you can still pay for lunch but, no suprizes about the bill!!
Don't forget to select drinks ( for dinner and for a toast with your cake) also don't forget to ask if the restaurant has a cake cutting fee, a corkage fee (if you bring your own wine and they serve it) and the server's tip that will be included in the bill for a party that large.
Any good restaurant can give you a total price for everything (all fees, taxes, tips and the highest price per plate that you will allow per person multiplied by how many people will be there, use the max number you have) then you can plan on that being the total amount that you will spend for the lunch
Also if you are looking at getting married in the afternoon talk with the restaurant about being flexible on the time if they are flexible with the price or portion (dinner size meat for lunch price?) or just a better price if you are willing to have your party during the slow part of the day (2-5PM) If your party can be out and done before the dinner rush starts at 5 or so then they might cut you a deal because you won't be holding up tables that can be worked during dinner. It's worth asking about.
2007-05-17 18:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by hotelmajor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking them to join you for lunch afterwards is the same things as an informal reception and it would be in bad taste to ask them to pay for their own lunch. You could hold a casual reception at your home or your parents home and just have finger foods, cake and punch if you are worried about the cost, or pick a less expensive restaurant that you can afford. Congratulations on your marriage.
2007-05-17 16:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may come off as rude- especially if some of those guests are traveling. Since you are having a small wedding, I'll assume that these 20-30 people are very close and special people in your lives, so I would try to pay for their lunches. Would either of the family's be able to pitch in? Good luck and congratulations!
2007-05-17 15:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by terasa425 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that money may be an issue, but I feel that it would be very rude to have people pay for their own lunch. You are asking them to help celebrate a beautiful day for you and will probably be bringing gifts. Perhaps you can choose a different restaurant, but I really think you should pay.
Congratulations and have fun!
2007-05-17 15:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by LoLo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I LOVE Kemah. I can understand your wanting to have the reception there. But yes, it would be rude. Can you think of an alternative? I haven't been to Kemah in years, but perhaps they have a public area that you can use for the afternoon? In that way, you can have the reception catered, or have your family and close friends provide picnic-like foods for the event.
Sandy
2007-05-17 19:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely rude to invite them to lunch and then expect them to pay for it themselves.
If you do the inviting and don't want to pay for the expensive restaurants, then chose a cheaper place or ask for a limited menu for the guests to choose from that would be in your price range.
Or find another alternative for the lunch.
2007-05-17 16:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are asking people to help you celebrate your marriage. They will get dressed up for the occasion. Maybe, they will go out and spend money for what they will be wearing. They will certainly bring gifts for you. And, now you want them to pay for their own meal at a restaurant that you chose. Yes, it would be rude. Instead, you should have lunch at your place and yes, you should pay for the food.
2007-05-17 15:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends if they are expecting you to pay. Inform the guests that you are not paying for the meal, since there really isn't a reception, and that they are more than welcomed to come to lunch after the ceremony, but they have to pay for their own meal. You might get more people to go to the ceremony then to the meal afterwards.
2007-05-17 15:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is kind of rude. If the cost is a problem, you should have it at a less expensive restaurant. I think my uncle did that when he got married. It looks bad on the couple. I hope I didn't offend you
2007-05-17 21:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mekana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, totally rude. If you can't afford to host your guests at a restaurant, then just have them over to your home for lunch.
2007-05-18 03:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋