and was married for 14 years and our marriage recently broke up. I've recently purchased a home, I'm very wise with my money, investments etc. I have a good head on my shoulders but it seems like I go on one date and that's pretty much it. I'm not obnoxious, I don't talk incessantly, I'm very gracious, kind. I don't brag or boast but what is it about me that men don't ask me out again?? It's not that I'm unattractive, I'm very slender, I dress nice, take good care of myself? I've been told I'm attractive so what's the deal men?? I don't get it, help me out here before I go insane!!!
2007-05-17 15:25:16 · 6 answers · asked by ooolala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes, the one you should be with is the one you're not dating. The one right under your nose. A co-worker, fellow church member, an employee at the grocery store you shop at.( Sorry about the preposition at the end of the last sentence. I'm not a teacher yet, but I will be very soon.) I have done only a year of teaching in the past, but I am divorced and dating also. I'm just not giving up. I don't know how much I can help, but keep writing and keeping in touch. I'm sure we'll come up with something.
2007-05-17 15:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by foreveready 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my divorce, I went a number of one time only dates... was getting quite discouraged. But finally one clicked. The only thing different I can see is we spent a lot time emailing before we met and really got to know each other before we met, but we hit it off right from the start. We took it very slow afterwards.
Also, it seemed like a lot of the ladies have like a check list of what they were looking for, and I guess I didn't make the grade and they didn't want to waste any more time trying to get to know me. Maybe they were shopping for a hubby, instead of a friend.
2007-05-17 22:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok
just keep having those dates
i had 10 first dates before i met the man ive been with for 14 months
people put too much into the "date" thing
it's a way to meet people and see if they would like to see you more
don't take it personally move on
you'll find a good guy who will want more dates with you
2007-05-17 22:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men get intimidated very easily. If you are comfortable with who you are....then the right one will come along who will honor your lifestyle and not cringe in intimidation about it....take your time, and it may be a blessing that they didn't ask you out again. HAVE FUN AND ENJOY THE DATES!
2007-05-17 22:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by Fee4Lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are intinmidated by you, you can take care of yourself, they are threatened by that, so i have found out, plus they want control most of the time so let them at least think they are sometimes, so they wont feel useless.lol/dont worry one will come along that can handle mature women ,go out with someone older than you.
2007-05-17 22:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by freeflow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to let loose and relax, it might not be that you are doing anything wrong- just they aren't right for you....
Sorry im a chick
2007-05-17 22:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋