I have been married for 8 years...we have a 6 year old son together...! I love my husband! I have a great guy friend. He is dating a girl, who is suppose to be prego with his baby, who is 19 and was a virgin when he met her. My guy friend has told me he loves me and for more than just a friend...We have had sex once and we have had other sexual encounters. My husband walked in on us kissing and holding hands yesterday. We told him that it was the first time that anything had happened and that it would never happen again! I am in love with my guy friend but I do love my husband and our family. My guy friend says he wants to be with his girl but he wants me too....we have told each other that we love each other on multiple occassions. We spend time together all the time. We call each other and talk about anything and everything. I miss him and think about him when I am not around him. I find myself picking up the phone and calling him and I don't even mean too...I guess my ?
2007-05-17 15:23:59 · 5 answers · asked by lover_in_trouble 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess my question is....what should I do? Is he really in love with me or what? Is he just wanting to be with his girl because she is prego (so she says)? I just don't understand this and what I am suppose to do about it! The guy friend has been friends of ours for 2-3 years and I have liked him for awhile and he told me that he liked me for along time. He has dedicated a couple of songs to me...Lips of an Angel, A feeling like that by Gary Allan, and What Hurts the Most by Rascal Flatts. What is up with this? HELP!! Please take this serious because it is my life and I would appreciate any advice....Thanks!
2007-05-17 15:27:53 · update #1
Question: Should I act like nothing has ever happened and be his friend and nothing else? Should I flirt and look my best when I am around him to make him wish he was with me (when my hubby isn't right by side)? Should I not call him and chat?
2007-05-17 15:29:21 · update #2
Its sad, u're putting ur husband thru this. Dont lie to him, tell him d truth.
I dont understand how u would love them both and hurt one. Do what is right by people (ur husband). U have the answer and ability to make d right decision. Take care. Wish u d best. God Bless.
2007-05-17 15:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by d_cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA GIRL!!! You are seriously screwed up in the head. You claim to love your husband and you cheat on him? That is just being selfish, And you know it is wrong!!! So what are you doing?? You've taken wedding vows to forsake all others, Guess you didn't hear that part did you? You have had several sexual encounters. And yesterday your husband caught you and you LIED to him. This guy is such a flake that he has a pregnant girlfriend and wants you too? Have you no respect for yourself? Get a frackin clue girl, This guy wants what he can't have, And your no better right now.. You have a husband and a family , And your letting this weasel worm his way in and destory your family without a fight!! Kick that idiot out of your life, He will never be able to commit to you in any type of relationship. So what is he going to do? Dump a pregnant girlfriend and pay out child support and try to support you to? Maybe he wants the three of you to all live together, So he can be happy. Getting the picture yet?
Not like what your hearing? To bad! Look in the mirror and tell me if the reflection you see is of a woman who is honorably married and devoted to her family. You let this guy lie to you and play you. He lied to yur husband by pretending to be his friend. Remember when you were dating? If someone was involved in a relationship, You honored it and left them alone. You didn't go in there and try to break them up,Did you? That is what this guy is doing to you and your family. So, what did the rules change because you got married? I don't think so...If you take a good, long, hard, honest look at yourself, I don't think you're going to like what you see.. Time for you to wake up, And see what is really going on and who YOU are really HURTING.
2007-05-17 16:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to give up your husband? Your 8 yrs together? Half of everything you have built together? Be a single mom? Share custody with the father? Trek the kid back & forth betw you? Think about that. If the answer to ALL those questions is yes, then leave your husb and go for the man who is already cheating on his wife and lying to her. Do you know he isn't lying to you just to get sex?
2007-05-17 15:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married, you both need to respect that and stop this. Stop seeing your friend altogether if you have to. You made a commitment to your husband and your son, and you need to remember that at all times. Don't break up two families because you have some feelings for someone else. You are being selfish.
2007-05-17 15:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by sc3578 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are what I despise. A women that cheats! It makes me sick. Get your head out of the sand. Its a fantasy that will never amount to crap. Your lucky your husband didn't whoop his *** and yours too. Make a decision. You can't have your cake and eat it too. I am going to yack now!
2007-05-17 15:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by Frank J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋