he lies to me, he does things that i don't like behind my back...well, i think it is pretty obvious that he is fooling himself thinking that he "loves" me. because i sure don't... i caught him today doing something thast i told him not to and i just told him in his face while he tried to lie that i just didn't believe him anymore. i wanted to tell him that i wanted over, i'm just scared to hurt him. the reason why i am scared is because i tried to so many times but he cries and i feel bad...how do i do it?
2007-05-17 13:54:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have to tell him not to do something, then first off, obviously you guys are not in the SAME relationship.
Second.just do it. If your not happy with your life (with him) then stand behind it, don't do it to keep him happy, cause now your confused and miserable,
keep it simple. break up. if he cries, he probably should, but at the worst, you'll still be miserable, but now you won't be confused.by it.
anyway, you'll find another one thats better, I guarente it.
2007-05-17 13:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mercury 2010 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people lie for all different reasons maybe if you go off at him when he does something wrong, he tries to get out of a possible argument by lying, Try and listen to his needs and don't try and stop him doing things he likes, this will make him miserable and if he does lots of things you disagree with then you are wrong for each other. Also if you don't love him then there is no future for you both so do the right thing and tell him so and END it, He will get over it S**T happens . Best of Luck and don't rush into relationships to Quickly they need time to progress we all have faults but they wont show up in the early stages of a Friendship people keep there guard up till they find their comfort zone.
2007-05-17 21:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by fool2thecore 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. From my experience, I'd say over the phone or in a public place. The way he's treating you. Why do you care if you hurt him? I seriously doubt that will be the case. However, don't be surprised if he tries to hold on to you. This doesn't mean he cares. It means he's a possessive jerk. He can treat you like crap. But whoa is he. Dump his lying, deceiving, uncaring ____. Also, in a relationship you can't tell someone what to do. You expect them to respect you enough not to do things they know you don't want them to.
2007-05-17 21:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ann S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is fine a perfect time and say "I dont want to go out with you anymore." And why are you scared to hurt him... He is not scared to hurt you... So just break up with him.
And think about what he is doing to you!!!
â£He lies to you
â£He does things behind your back
â£He does things that you told him not to do
He sounds like my ex-boyfriend!!!!!
2007-05-17 21:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by Murdoch! =D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
schedule a time to meet with him and talk. Sit him down and let him know that "I do not believe it is good for us to keep dating. I would like to be able to date other men. And I care about you but I do not believe this relationship is going to workout for us. I would still like to be your friend, but it might be best for now to not see each other as much as we do now. I respect you and I know this probably hurts your feelings for us to break up, but that is why I wanted to talk to you in person."
And do this in a public place, like a coffee shop, or a restaraunt. So he cant do anything crazy or have any outbursts. If you do it privately at his home or your home, he may explode and do something nutty.
Good luck
2007-05-17 21:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by sensei ronald j.f. panlilio 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you scared to hurt him? He doesn't care if he hurts you. I don't think it takes a lot of courage to dump someone, but it does take reason and logic.
Use your reason and logic, hun.
Do you love him? No
Does he lie to you? Yes
Is he a good boyfriend? No
So logic and reason says that this relationship is no good and has no future.
Dump Him.
Cheers and *hugs*
2007-05-17 20:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Daft One 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to stand up and be strong about it. You care a lot about him, but you need to be in control. If he is crying and you take him back all the time it gives him power. Stop giving him one more chance. Good luck
2007-05-17 21:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be brave, be calm and be quick. It's the nicest thing you can do.
Something like, "I don't trust you and I don't want to be with you anymore."
From there, he can do whatever he likes. All you have to answer is "No. I don't want to."
Don't let it drag out. Good luck.
2007-05-17 21:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by lmerrittaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you told us. You no longer want to go out with him. Worry about your future not so much his feelings.
2007-05-17 21:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by 354gr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're afraid to hurt him, but he's hurting you. Tell him how you feel. If he really loves you he'll make an effort to change. If he doesn't, then just put your foot down and tell him it's not gonna work out. Don't give in to his 'fake' tears.
2007-05-17 21:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ferra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋