Im not sure if im ready..to give it up to the man i love/like..I need Help..
2007-05-17 12:47:14 · 34 answers · asked by Cindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your questioning, you ain't ready
Used to be your wedding night, now..........?
Better be pretty sure of what you're risking....std, sterility, pregnancy....in some cases death.
You may think I'm exaggerating, but are you ready to parent a child? Is he?
If not, you're not ready for sex
2007-05-17 12:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have sex with someone I just liked. You should become friends with someone first. That way you will get to know him before you ever decide to have a serious relationship. It is much better to know him over a longer period of time. You may not feel the same about him in 2 months as you did at first.
Second, it is much better not to have sex in a relationship that is new simply because those feelings may be in the way of how you really feel. Don't let the hormones talk for you. Most of the time when people have sex, those feelings are what you feel and not the deeper feelings of who the person is. You do what you have to do, but remember there could be consequences of diseases or pregnancy when you play with fire. There are some diseases that there are no symptoms of. I would want to make sure of the guy before I jumped into something. I did jump into a relationship and I now have HPV because of having sex with a boyfriend I lived with. That relationship didn't work out. I think we had a lot of physical chemistry, but not much more than that.
If you wait, the right guy will come along and you will not have to explain any diseases to him if you don't jump into something. You will know when the right guy comes along. I am now dating a great guy. I had decided only to be friends for a couple of years instead of dating.
It can be hard to say no, but if you are not in a situation that will not tempt you, you will find it is easier to say no when you are not ready. Do not let anyone say they will leave you if you do not have sex, that means, he was not the right guy for you. I made a mistake and I pay for it now. I am so blessed that God sent me a great guy. We are not having sex unless we get married. It doesn't cloud our judgement like having sex with someone might.
Pray about your feelings and you will know. God bless you.
2007-05-17 12:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are and how well you know yourself. I think you're ready to have sex WHEN YOU CAN ACCEPT THE CONSEQUENCES. If you can't have an adult conversation about birth control methods,then you're not adult enough to have sex. If you don't know if the guy has been tested for an STD, then you need to find out. If you feel he's not being honest with you, I'd run and FAST! Sex is the ultimate intimate act and should be reserved only for those who treat you like a queen.
2007-05-17 12:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you're an adult.
What is so important about virginity? This isn't the 1600's.
All virginity is, is something seperating you, from an experience. Don't treat it as some precious gift, because he's not going to see it that way.
Having sex for the first time, is something to do when you're mature enough to deal with all the possible outcomes.
In my opinion, if you're asking, you're not ready to deal with those issues.
2007-05-17 12:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by gromit801 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then you're not ready...
make sure when you are ready that the guy you have sex with really loves you
(saying he loves you and showing he loves you are two different things...make sure he shows you for real)
2007-05-17 12:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you feel ready to take on responsibility that come with it. I know everyone talks about STD's & pregnacy hopefully you are well aware of that. Then you learn about how sensitive your heart is and who you want to share that special first time with and how you want it to go down? Romantic or just sleazy? Car or in your bedroom. I remember my 1st and I still cant get her out of my mind taste or her sounds. Damn I miss her but she ended up being Sleazy not romantic and cheated and I dumped her. I think about her everyday but i have moved on with a broken heart.
2007-05-17 12:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it all depends on what you believe in...if you are a strong christian marriage is the right time, but if your like almost any other teenager, then your probably ready, i know alot of people want their first time to be special, and if you want that than find a guy who wants the same thing
2007-05-17 12:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you know??!! When your married ofcourse. Save your virginity for the one you marrie. It's alot better. And if you get pregnant because the rubber has a hole in it, You and the one "you love/like" will be screwed until the baby's 18. And two lives wasted right there.
2007-05-17 12:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Why Is The Rum Always Gone? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're ready when the wedding band is on your finger and all of the guests have gone home.
You're definately not ready to give it up to the man that you love/like. If you're not sure that it's love then please wait.
2007-05-17 12:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're saying to give it up to a man you "love/like", you def are not ready?
2007-05-17 12:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Omar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋