I'm in my early twenties and no where near ready to have children. I'm not married yet, but I'm in a commited relationship. When I think about my future I don't see myself with children. I feel like I am not a normal woman, because all my friends are baby crazy. Do you think that as I get older I will change my mind about children? Did you always want to have children?
2007-05-17 12:39:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you don't feel that "motherly" urge yet, don't worry. Some women just never do. I have children and wouldn't change a thing but I know women who just aren't interested. My daughter is the same. She likes kids, she is good with them but isn't sure she wants any of her own. You aren't "weird" - believe me. And, don't feel pressured to have them because "society" says it's normal. I know there are many, many, many people out there who have kids that never really wanted them and the children (and society) suffer for it.
2007-05-17 13:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell whether you'll change your mind or not. Until I was about 16yo I swore that I would never ever have a husband or children (even when I was in 1st grade and every other girl in my class had becoming a mother as her career goal), and then I gradually changed my mind. Then, when I met my husband at 20yo I definitely did want children, like 3 or so, but we decided it'd be best to wait a little while because we were both in college and we hadn't lived together before we got married (we were in an internet relationship), and now I'm almost 23yo and 27 weeks pregnant, we started trying about a year ago, and over the past year or so I've been thinking I want 8 kids. So who knows?
2007-05-17 13:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not always want children. I saw myself the same as you, never having them. As I got older however, my feelings changed about having my own and last year I had my daughter at 32 years old. She is a joy. Don't feel like you aren't a normal woman. There are a lot of young women out there who don't want children at that stage in their life. Some change their mind, some don't. Either way, it's okay. I'm sure you will make the right decision for you.
2007-05-17 15:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably feel different about children when you get older. Yes you are normal. You are still young, and you don't have to have children right now. Yes I have always wanted children, but I would have like to have waited until I was older before I had my first. I was 20 with my first and 40 with my second. I find that I have more patience with my second than I did with my first. So if I was you I would wait a while. When you are ready you will know it.
2007-05-17 16:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may change your mind but I didn't and I have many friends who never wanted kids and haven't had any and still don't won't any.
However, I am now 32 and five years ago I got pregnant. Although I never wanted kids and still don't - he has been the biggest blessing in my life.
You learn alot when you have kids and I get to relive my childhood.
But there are days when being a mom is a job that you have to do. It really is the toughest job you will ever love. It can be thankless and you will always wonder if you are doing the right thing and you will be blamed for all of his/her issues when he/she grows up. I don't know that I would trade it for anything.
Don't have any if you don't want any and don't let anyone make you feel bad about not having any.
2007-05-17 13:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not always want children, there were so many other things I wanted to do. Eventually, after I had some of my much-desired adventures, I changed my mind. Between finally meeting a man I wanted to marry and having gotten out in the world a little bit, I was able to comfortably change my mind. But I waited until I was 30 to have them.
2007-05-17 12:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just pregnant now and just turned 30 in February.. I was having way too much fun up to then to THINK about having chilldren.. and now I am glad I waited as I have a great career, a wonderful husband of 2 years this July, a lovely home.. basically everything just fell into place when I met the right person.. and I am sure things will change for you... you are still young but just enjoy your life and everything you are doing now as I am sure you will change your mind in a few years :-)
2007-05-17 13:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by helkat922 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say. I've never wanted children, (turning 40 in a few days). I didn't want them at 20. I've never changed my mind. I'm love my friends babies they are great to cuddle and spoil but the go home. I always said I wanted to be a grandmother not a mother. Trust me you are a normal woman. Not all of us want children.
2007-05-17 14:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very normal. Lots of my friends did not want to even think about children in while they were in their twenties, and some did change their mind as they got older while others did not. Similar to marriage. I think you reach a point when you feel its something that is missing in your life. So don't even worry about it.
2007-05-17 12:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mariposa13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu might and might not. I'm 24 years old and growing up I never wanted kids. never pictured myslef with children and I didn't even like kids. Now I can't imagine my life without my daughter. She is my world. I definitely changed my mind when I met my husband. I wanted to have a baby and I found myself turn inot one of the baby crazy women. Now I have my two year old little girl and am pregnant with a boy. Due anyday now!!
2007-05-17 12:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋