2007-05-17 12:18:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to work that way, but remember, when the timing is right and the right person comes around, you will appreciate him more.
It seems that we have to meet these people in order to really appreciate the right guy more when he comes along. There are reasons for everything and the one you want to talk to may not be the right guy for you. The guy you don't want to talk to, may be a good friend.
My philosophy was to just be friends for a while with guys. I did this for 2 years. One of my friends and I decided to recently date. It is so much better to talk and be friends first before dating. I appreciate and admire him more. I got to know him slowly and him me as well. We have a lot in common and he wasn't really attractive to me more than friends at first. I had made my mind up before I met him, he would be just friends. He is one of the greatest guys I have ever met. I let my mind be open to being friends with almost anyone.
I had my standards of who I wouldn't date and figured that is why I am still single at almost the age of 40. I wouldn't lower my standards. I wanted someone taller, older, someone who didn't smoke or drink, someone who was laid back and liked to laugh, and who was above all, a Christian. My boyfriend now, was most of those. He is slightly younger than me. I have dated younger and shorter guys in my past. I gave them a chance. When I seemed to meet only men who cheated on me, that is when I decided to be friends only with guys. I got some of my goals accomplished and met a really nice guy who turned out almost two years later to be my boyfriend. He, nor I are perfect by any means, but we try to communicate and always be honest with each other.
Have faith that there will be some good guy come into your life that will have equal feelings to yours. In the mean time, it wouldn't hurt to be just friends. He might turn into more than what you ever imagined. God Bless you.
2007-05-17 12:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Queen,
Most of the time life is like that. Keep right on talking to the guy you don't like. Do not chase after the one you like. It never works. Eventually, your King will come to escort you to your Royal Thrones. I'll be thinking about you.
Grams
2007-05-17 12:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely murphys law, and let me tell ya, i've been there to (and im there right now!)
perhaps its just not meant to be. in all honest though, the real trick is never telling him you like him.
be really flirty and nice, but show you have a life without him "oh, im going out with the girls tonight"
etc
and if he asks you to go out, i havent tried this because im too scared but apparently every so often you should say no, im busy... maybe another time?
also, after acting flirty and stuff (only with him) be distant. dont talk to him at the locker, dont msg him on msn. wait for him to come to you.
also learn body language techniques. research them on the net.
very helpful in diciphering what he thinks of you as.
2007-05-17 12:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by GirlNextDoor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...omg we are heavily twinsss. a similar ingredient occurred to me till now this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days. I have been given so sick of the guy continually attempting to make me carry out, i basically sent him an exceedingly long message on facebook that he's extremely taking off to difficulty me and that i've got self belief like im being suffocated....it became kinda random/propose reason i became in a foul temper and he saved attempting to speak to me...you additionally can do it in person so as that he might get the component. yet be certain you're saying "im sorry im basically having a foul day and you at the instant are not helping"...yet yeah my little episode ended badly bc he got rid of me as a chum n facebook and it became extremely awkard the next day in college, yet yeah im happier now bc i individually did no longer like him in any respect and that i felt like i became being stalked by utilising him 24/7 anywaysss, attempt to no longer be propose approximately it yet basically enable him understand that u experience like he's basically forcing you to hold out..yet be informal approximately it. yet, certainly if the outstanding thoughts-set would not paintings, basically quickly up tell him to eff off...or overlook approximately him? block his selection? "get a sparkling telephone" and "overlook" to furnish him your "new selection"? hahah good luckkk!
2016-11-24 20:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by lewan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
t d is right. With the guy you don't like, you can speak more openly and be yourself and he's attracted to that. You probably tighten up and get all quiet with the guy you like, so your not expressing you personality to him. If you lighten up with the guy you do like, he will see what the othr guy sees and want to talk to you too. Good Luck!
Oh, and be honest with the guy you don't like, so his feelings don't get hurt in the long run.
2007-05-17 12:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by steph_the_chef 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I says it nature. Thats usually the way things are. Everyone goes threw it sometime in their life time. You do eventually get the right one you just got to have a bit of faith.
2007-05-17 12:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its because sometimes people alwys want what they don`t have...everyone does tht sometimes..you might realize at the end the person u like..is he really worth it?
the guy who keeps calling u...just tell him thr truth tht u dont like him like tht..maybe become regular good friends or something..dont give him a chance and make him think u like him/have a chance,okay? take it easy...love is compilcated afterall.
2007-05-17 12:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy, tell the other guy you are not interested in him and that you don't like him calling you so much, and start making some time for the guy you do like.
2007-05-17 12:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by sneakymonica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is the way life works. Also, when your dating everyone wants you, but when your single it seems like no one wants you
2007-05-17 12:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Nichole[never gives up]♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u like the guy so much because u dont talk to him alot
and the guy you talk to alot you stop liking alot.
its the whole, "want what you dont have" thing.
2007-05-17 12:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Bre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋