Mother -in-law/ not having children problem....?

Question

How do you explain to your Hispanic/Catholic Mother-in-Law that you will NOT be having children with her only son? And telling her this doesn't seem to work. She won't accept it. If not that, any one know how to say "You'll have to pry the I.U.D. out of my cold dead body!" in Spanish?

She never asks my husband, her son, about it. Only me. And, when I tell him to talk to her, he refuses.

Answer 1

it is hard for a Mother-in-law, to accept that you will not, or do not want to have children with her Son, you have your reason's as to why you do not want to have kids. I do not know how to say I.U.D. in spanish but lets hope this will be able to help. "Tienes que, sacarme el preconservativo que tengo dentro de mi cuerpo, helado, y muerto." hope it works.

Answer 2

I have been told crap about how I am going to burn in Hell if I don’t have kids, more than a dozen times. Needless to say, it has always been a Hispanic that said it.

I am Child-Free. I had a father take me aside and say something like, “My daughter is going to be having my grandchildren. Got it!” (In sort of a mafia kind of way).

Another father offered to pay half the cost of getting my vasectomy reversed.

I would just tell them you can’t get pregnant.

The other alternative is to give them an ultimatum. Tell them you will not attend any family functions until she stops this behavior.

Answer 3

My goodness, what a situation you have here. Don't you just hate mother-in-laws? Come to think of it-don't you just hate only sons? Personally, I think they're both as bad. Tell her straight. Tell her that if she wants grandchildren to go impregnate herself with her sons sperm and then she can quite literally 'have grandchildren'. I'm not sure how you'd say that in Spanish. I know how to say ***** in Spanish if that would help, then maybe she might get the point and possibly never speak to you again but at least then she wouldn't want you to have her grandchildren.

Answer 4

Dear Kate,
Please be kind to your mother-in-law. What is wrong with having at least one child? If you do have a health problem, or a wish not to make the population of the world get any larger, it would be wise to sit down and talk with her about it. Blessings on you.
Grams

Answer 5

First of all, you need to calm down. Certainly you knew before you married your husband that his family was going to expect offspring. In his mother's tradition, a marriage is not considered consumated until a child is born.

If you and your husband have decided together not to ever have children, it is HIS job to tell her and make sure she stops harassing you. Next time she says something, refer her to your husband. Say "Honey, tell her again, would you?" It's his job to get control of the situation. It's his mother.

For all you know, he does want kids and keeps telling her you might change your mind.

Answer 6

I had a friend with the same problem. They wanted no children. Her hubby had a vasectomy and they told the potenial grandparents that the hubby was tested and couldn't have any kids. (the truth)........they stopped asking as it was embarrassing talk about it.

Answer 7

she is obviously very old fashioned. next time tell her you don't wish to discuss it and walk away. if it continues, you may want to consider not going to her place anymore. what you should think about is how much influence she has on her son. maybe he won't talk to her about this b/c he feels it's disrespectful or he may hurt her feelings. that makes me wonder. is SHE going to talk to HIM about it and will she influence him enough to try to talk you into having a baby?

Answer 8

this is your decision no matter how you look at it and if she dont accept it thats her problem not yours. How does your husband feel about it? Let him deal with her.

Answer 9

If you have told her that is all you can do to accomplish this situation it is her fault if she won't listen.

Answer 10

i'm not married yet, but my boyfriend's mother is already a peach. all i can say is GOOD LUCK!